Quiet Confidence = REAL Confidence! 10 steps to Become ✨Magnetic✨

Confidence is key, but how do you actually become confident? Here are 10 tangible tips you can follow to become the best and most confident version of yourself!

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timestamps:
00:00 - 1:36 intro
1:36 - 3:39 keep your own promises
3:39 - 4:57 get to know yourself
4:57 - 6:14 building a positive self-image
6:14 - 7:38 crafting positivity
7:38 - 8:20 stop being a victim
8:20 - 9:36 slow down
9:36 -12:11 understand your needs
12:11 - 14:45 create strong boundaries
14:45 - 15:44 trust your intuition
15:44 - 17:17 make happiness your biggest priority
17:17 - 17:58 good luck

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[layladilajla]

My 3 steps to better self-confidence

1- work on yourself
2- eat healthy, drink a lot of water and have a good sleep
3- Read the book Womens magic truths on borlest

I'm very surprised how few people know about this book when my friend recommended it to me it took me 1 day just to read it and I was blown away it's the best thing I've read lately My self-confidence has increased to the maximum

[liz]

Your point about the happiest people being the most willing to share just really hit me. It’s so true that self-loathing people have a scarcity mindset, are super competitive, and feel crappy when they see others’ good fortune. Speaking from experience here, lol. And the victim mentality folds right in. Thanks for sharing this video!!

[samotivationbysami]

Anytime I’ve compared myself to others, I’ve felt less than. Until I realized that the only person I should compare myself to, is the person I was yesterday. No matter what you compare, you will always find someone richer, better looking than you, has a nicer car, has a better (fill in the blanks). And it's totally pointless. When I began focusing on the idea of going to bed better than I woke up, basically making sure that throughout day I do things that make a better version than the one who woke up that morning, then life really began to change for me. Focus on you and your own progress. Run your own marathon!

[rikki]

I resonated so much with this. It’s like a mix of self love and no bullshit mentality. Exactly the balance I need. Listening on repeat!

[majaserratoorozco]

Finally someone who actually tells me how to feel confidentI wish we were taught this at school

[celinapaige]

1)KEEP A PROMISE, BUILD SO MUCH CONFIDENCE
Example: Saving $15, 000 a year will make you feel more confident and help you stick to your word.
Choose one thing that you will commit to for three weeks, such as writing down three things you are grateful for in the morning or doing workouts.

2)GET TO KNOW YOURSELF
Start journaling to explore your thoughts and feelings.
Make a long list of activities or experiences and try them out. Afterward, write down why you liked or didn't like each one, considering various factors.

3)WRITE THREE DIFFERENT LISTS
Reflect on your past successes and contributions.
Identify and acknowledge your strengths.
Recognize your potentials and areas where you have room to grow.

4)ACTIVELY CREATE A POSITIVE OUTLOOK
Embrace a positive mindset and believe that good things happen to you.
Practice gratitude by focusing on the little things that bring you joy, even on difficult days.
Make a conscious effort to minimize complaints and instead focus on the positive. It takes practice, just like building a muscle.

5)STOP BEING A VICTIM
Practice resilience and acknowledge that while certain things may have happened to you and sucked, you are determined to move forward and not let them limit your life.

6)HOW YOU APPEAR TO THE WORLD
Pay attention to your posture and maintain good posture.
Slow down your pace, whether it's walking or talking.
Practice entering a room by looking around slowly before proceeding in your intended direction.
When asking uncomfortable questions, speak slowly and confidently, without feeling obligated to answer if it makes you uncomfortable. Slowing down will make you appear more confident.

7)GET TO KNOW YOUR NEEDS
Be confident in expressing your needs to others.
For example, say, "I need you to hold me because I'm feeling really sad, " or "I need you to pay a little more attention to me because I'm feeling off today."

8)ACTIVELY IDENTIFY WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY, EVEN IN SMALL WAYS
Imagine your perfect working environment, friendships, or relationships, and write about them in a journal.
Allow yourself to dream and have fun envisioning your ideal future.

9)CREATE STRONG BOUNDARIES
Recognize that valuable things are not easily obtained by everyone, just like exclusive brands like Hermes. Seek high-value and amazing friends, as this is your sacred space that you don't want to compromise.
Communicate your boundaries clearly, especially with men, and be prompt and assertive. For example, say, "I don't like it when you do XYZ because it's disrespectful." Stick to your boundaries as only you can uphold them.

10) ASK YOURSELF WHAT SOMEONE WHO LOVES THEMSELVES WOULD DO
Trust your intuition and honor the first answer that comes to mind.

11) FOLLOW YOUR HAPPINESS and pursue the things that bring you joy and fulfillment.

[onemorething]

Your point about boundaries with partners is so true. Recently ended a relationship when a man crossed a boundary a few times. I finally said hey, enough, stop it. Period. He got all bent out of shape. I told him if he can't respect what is clearly a line for me, then I'm moving on. And yes, I was prepared for the relationship to end, which it did. It didn't kill me. It simply reinforced what I will accept and NOT accept in a relationship.

[pexswef]

You're exactly who I need rn, THANK YOU! It's not tough love, it's genuine care and guidance and until you shatter your paradigm and your box of incapability, nothing changes! Best vibes, thank you aaaa

[shekhargupta]

It is quite obvious & natural too that at some stage of your life you come across these things like feeling sad or a lack of confidence, especially after a big milestone accomplishment, feeling bored, loss of meaning or purpose in life, feeling unfulfilled, feelings of nostalgia, excessively thinking about the past, making impulse actions, feelings of regret. But as I have been closely following you through your vlogs, I strongly feel that you would surely over come your anxiety & so called midlife crisis thing.

[ManiGupta]

Useful and meaningful tips! I’d like to add: be true to yourself.
If you feel certain emotion, acknowledge it. Take responsibility for your actions and don’t cloud your words by saying something that you don’t mean or isn’t true. Be direct and open with oneself is one of the keys to be confident.
Also, When we keep on dodging or escaping what is not favourable, our confidence shatters. Facing the problems is also important.
I know it takes time to be confident, it doesn’t happen overnight. We all are imperfect and progress always holds an upper hand than perfection 😊

[vishalogan]

A video that ACTUALLY gives you the action steps to the desired state of being confident! Thank you!!

[hannahmathilda]

My husband is a wonderful person, but he also has faults. I used to not know how to communicate my boundaries and sometimes in confrontation, he’d successfully overargue me. But I learned to be straightforward and I think I’m only straightforward now because I’ve learned to deal with the discomfort of unraveling my emotions—what is fact and what is fiction. I believe my confidence in communication derived from knowing what I was particularly feeling and where my emotions arose from. I believe confidence results from unconditional self compassion ❤😊

[marlenemay]

*-Quiet Confidence-*
• how we feel inside
• stand our boundaries

*keep my own promises*
• rely on my promises -> gain security in myself (e.g social media limit)

*Get to know myself*
• emphasis on shadow self

*build better self-image (long lists)*
• past sucesses and contributions
• strength
• potential

*activly create a positive outlook*
• positive affirmations, mandras
• graditude (If you look at what you dont have, you will always have less. If you look at what you have, you will always have enough)

*Get rid of the victim role*
• less complaining
• self sabotage

*slow down*
• stop being in such a rush -> dont escape
• taking up space physicak -> make room for my person, stand up for myself

[nvrgkvt]

Making your happiness your biggest priority isn't selfish..I needed to hear that

[starrybell]

I love how real and practical these tips are, thanks for sharing them! I disagree with tip number 10 about making you happiness your first priority. The harder we reach for happiness, the more it flees our grasp. So many philosophers, great thinkers, and just regular people as well have come to this conclusion. I know this is counter intuitive, but so many things in life work like this. I believe it works like this because so many times, what we think will make us happy is just something that gives us instant gratification but is not good for us in the long run, i.e. getting drunk frequently, watching movies/tv shows all day, eating junk food every day, etc. Instead, the things that we dread such as writing that essay, working out, being mindful of what we eat, etc, are the ones that really benefit us and will give us a happier life. I do agree with the rest of the tips tho, and I would love to read the opinions of others!

[solemgameinsights]

You seem to be a person who know what you teach, that makes what you say impactful.

[miav]

Some of the best advices! As a nurse, I have seen so many bad things happened to good people that I am over the victim mentality. I realized Life isn’t fair! Sometimes you just have to suck it up and keep going!

[nathananderson]

This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my YouTube channel 6 months ago about self development. Now I have 345 subs and > 100 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.

[iuliac]

I agree. Confidence is quiet! Insecurity is Loud

[henryk.]

All these steps could decrease stress levels and probably contribute to higher happiness levels.

Building (real) confidence is usually done through accomplishing difficult things. The more difficult goals you accomplish, the more confident you will be in yourself. When you know you can do something (or have the ability to learn something difficult), nobody can say anything to take that away from you…not even your partner, superiors, or family. You know you can prove them wrong. Now, that is true confidence.