How To Overcome Childhood Trauma Caused by Narcissistic Parents

Overcome the devastating effects of narcissistic parenting, heal your childhood trauma, and discover who you truly are beyond your trauma and upbringing.

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Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC, has helped 10,000s of people heal from family dysfunction and become the true self they were never allowed to be. As a family systems and self-differentiation coach, he leverages 45 years of experience to help clients permanently break free from family-of-origin dysfunction, cultivate healthy relationships, and build a strong sense of self.

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[jerrywise]

Finally get your family OUT OF YOU & be the true self you were never allowed to be 👇

[nancybartley]

We learn how to relate to others from how our parents treated us a kids. If your parent was only there for you when if fit their needs, you will view all relationships as one-sided. You believe your needs don't matter and will never be considered. No point in reaching out because no one is there.

[KidOmega-ivtp]

"psychological exhaustion, chronic unemployment and loneliness" That sounds like the story of my life. I struggle with feelings of failure, and being in my late 30s only exacerbates that. If only I could find a therapist around here who got it the way you do.

[eliskavavreckova]

Dear mister Wise, thank you very much for sharing your wisdom with us. You are a tremendous help on my way of healing from my narcissistic mother and histrionic sister. Please, keep up the great work.

[janeylynn]

You mention chronic tiredness and chronic unemployment as effects of growing up with narcissistic parents. I definitely struggle with both of those. You also mention depression, as well as other physical issues, which I also struggle with. I’m single, so I don’t have a spouse who can support me. All of these things have completely crippled me, and have kept me stuck living in my parents’ house as an adult. I have no way to support myself, or to earn enough money to get the help that I need to heal and get out of this mess. It’s a viscous cycle. I really don’t know what people in my situation are supposed to do.

[petersouthwell]

Howdy, sir.

Here’s what I’ve noticed about drug addicts: not all narcissists are drug addicts/alcoholics, but all drug addicts/alcoholics are narcissists.

There are elements of the mental disorder of addiction that go hand in hand with personality disorders, IMHO. This is what I observed during a brief stint attending NA meetings. What I found was that many of those people have severe personality disorders—NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder), CPTSD (Complex PTSD)—or a combination of all three.

When you go into those rooms as someone with DPD (Dependent Personality Disorder), it’s like being a bleeding human in a room full of hungry vampires.

Eventually, I figured out the meetings I really needed to go to were Al-Anon. (For those unfamiliar: it’s for people who aren’t addicts themselves but have become deeply involved—dependent—on the insanity of someone who is.) It’s for people who’ve become trauma-bonded to addicts.

[Brummiebythesea]

Every time I revisit my trauma is every time I visit my mother I’m 54 and its never ending. Thank goodness I’ve found you because it’s making me feel Ill 🤒 exhausted and my nervous system is frazzled, I’m triangulated with her my golden child brother and enough is enough for my health mentally and physically. Pinged constantly by mom and brother. I’ve done 1 week detaching I need inner peace. You make so much sense thank you 🙏

[taraelmegreen]

Such good info!!! Ty Sir!! Took me 54 years...FINALLY got it!!!🎉

[christinefarris]

The trauma bond was so helpful! Addiction to the person instead of caring for self. Very eye opening, and I was wondering about that addiction and why I still felt thar way.

[trudibarraclough]

Thankyou so much for this Jerry. Your content has been very useful. I'm 65 now. All this could be my story, right down to the sister! My alcaholic mother died 15yrs ago, and I'm 2yrs in to grey rocking my sister. 2 x a year we speak on the phone and she always gets an arrow in. I just laugh now and say "gotta go!" then immediately hang up. It still bothers me for a few days but it's getting easier. My guilt is deeply ingrained lol

[Robmm]

The story at the 15 minute mark about the sister was my exact situation Jerry but thanks to your advice it is all under control now. And un-enmeshed!!

[coldbrew]

I'd like to see a study between results from childhood trauma with narcissistic parents and other with non-narcisstic parents.

[brownqtyu]

I could really resonate with all of this. I'm really struggling to find me, but I see what I've done wrong and didn't realize it. I am just wondering if I can survive after all these years later. I am really being tested.😢

[CowichanValleyRD]

This is such a wonderful, affirming video to take care of that sweet little girl inside of me. Thanks Jerry!

[jillwhiting]

This really makes for a new start and better at building healthy relationships . The healthy realtionship is something some of us may not have had because of trauma.

[joshua]

Jerry, you are the very best expert on these subjects. You have helped me and my sister start to sort out decades of rejection from narc. Mother. You are the very best. Thank you and abundant blessings to you and your life. Eileen

[joanfolds]

This video is very helpful. We miss out on so much during our developmental stages when we have grown up in families that don't meet our normal needs. Sometimes as you develop, you also develop a hatred for yourself.

[beayates]

Thank you so much, Jerry, for putting these things into words ~ it's opening my eyes and identifying what I have been going through internally for most of my life. Constantly reviewing the inner trauma explains my inner turmoil . And the broken way I feel about myself. Hearing these things described actually is making me feel momentary relief. Going to watch this a few more times to let it really sink in.

[haylebales]

Thank you Jerry! This is so helpful!! It’s relatable and I didn’t realize the things I’ve struggled with were commonalities among children of narcissists

[poiewhfopiewhf]

Hello Jerry, one lesson I see being taught clearly from the eastern approach, but not so much in the West is that of maintaining non reactivity and detachment in the face of "positive" situations and experiences. Would you consider a video about how to remain differentiated and non reactive when someone is "making you feel good"? (surface level interpretation).

As they do appear to be two sides of the same coin, enmeshing is still taking place.
Or if you have a different opinion about this, it would be really interesting to hear your perspective.