Being in a relationship with an ADHD partner: common ADHD behaviors & their effect on relationships

Hey there! Join me as we explore the intersection of ADHD and relationships. In this video, I'll delve into 7 common ADHD behaviors that can impact your connection with your partner—whether it's your wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend, or spouse.

From navigating distractions and impulsivity to coping with organizational challenges and the need for reassurance, we'll uncover the dynamics behind these behaviors. Wondering why your partner with ADHD acts the way they do? It all links back to dopamine levels in the brain, which can affect how they show love and handle frustrations in relationships.

This isn't your typical relationship advice video for ADHDers—it's a genuine exploration aimed at validating and understanding the experiences of neurotypicals in relationships with ADHD partners. Whether you're dating someone with ADHD or seeking insights to strengthen your relationship, I've got tips and insights to share.

Let's learn more about love and ADHD together, offering both understanding and practical tips and tricks for navigating the complexities of ADHD in romantic and long-term relationships. Grab a cuppa and let's get started!

[SuperBisbee]

I found this video to be helpful around understanding my partner. As a highly sensitive person, I find it heartbreaking how often he can’t follow through with his words and the impulsivity can cause feelings of distrust.

[DancingFox]

50 years married to my ADHD husband and I’m still learning new things about ADHD and him.

[CathFerook]

I feel like I was the one who needed the reassurance from my ADHD partner. I ended up not trusting him and I felt he didn't care about me and i ended up walking away. I was heartbroken

[verylikecheryl]

That feeling when your partner comes into the room, car keys in hand, to say goodbye to you and you have NO IDEA where he said he was going today.

[JohnGeorge-pwxo]

I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

[gaugea]

i have adhd and i know the symptoms obviously, but the way you describe them (eg. “not lacking attention, but misprioritizing”, “interrupting because fearing of forgetting it”) is so accurate and ive never heard them put like that. I think im used to people without adhd describing the symptoms but not really understanding the reasons, so this video was sooo refreshing!! thank you for it!!!!

[TheeJamaicanHAZE]

My bf has ADHD & honestly the best relationship I have been in (I’m almost 30). I’ve been trying to find a channel that can help me really understand him & you are PERFECT! Thank you 🙏🏾💙✨👑! New subscriber‼️

[ThatNiravGuy]

That was absolutely amazing! I really appreciate you! (Married to my beautiful ADHD wife for over 30 years)
it’s been a wild ride, for sure!

[maskedidentity]

The trick I have about organization and cleanliness is to just not have a lot of stuff. My bedroom has a bed, a shelf, a nightstand a laundry basket. Thats it.

[HannahSquats]

This reality is nightmarish when you don't know what's going on. I wish I'd seen this video years ago. The knowledge would have given me more patience and grace for the man I was married to.

[veronicacardoso]

My husband has been patient since day one .. we been married for 21 years .. I just got diagnosed with ADHD May 17 2021 … now he knows why I look around while we are at a restaurant having dinner .. who knew I had adhd 🤷🏻‍♀️.. Iam just blessed to have a loving husband ..

[DavidWebsterAD]

I interrupt because I can never think of anything to say until someone unlocks a memory.

[MellowBellow]

Can I make a suggestion? Instead of constantly asking if someone loves you. Tell them you love THEM. and observe how they respond. … otherwise you’re constantly asking for external validation without offering it. And no matter neurotypical or neurodivergent…. We need to be able to offer what we’re asking for. …..

[drclairesira]

I agree with these points... and I think that people with ADHD can build their skills through coaching and practice. I don't think anyone wants to be in a parent / child dynamic with their partner.

[blainejudd]

I was reading an article about why husbands don’t plan dates (mine never has) and the author suggested the person might be in a relationship with a person with ADHD. So I looked into it and it is accurate, it literally changed my perspective. I’m completely in the parent role right now

[hollywaller]

I'm the partner with ADHD, this hit all the feels. I genuinely don't understand why my bf is still with me, surely he would be happier without me? If I could choose to leave me I would so why hasn't he? I ask these questions way too often despite being convinced that one day I'll have asked too many times and he will leave me because of it. It is exhausting. But I'm starting medication next week and I really hope it helps

[BugsyMcOvaltine]

I've been sending your videos to my wife just so she has a concise explanation of the craziness that I put her through lol. Thank you for the work you're doing.

[mikewizoski]

This video makes want I cry if my boyfriend didn’t have this condition we probably would have stayed together or least he would have kept his promises, I always felt like I didn’t matter because he would be so much more effort into everything else and expect to be okay waiting forever for him to finally focus on me. I was like the very bottom of priorities

[xplosiv_kttan]

I found this helpful as someone who's boyfriend is very adhd (diagnosed and everything). I love him and sometimes our relationship is chaotic.
Patience is a good word to describe it not only on my behalf but also for him. I'm not neurotypical, I have diagnosed MDD and PTSD so that adds a little bit more to the chaos where one partner wants to do everything and the other cant even find reason to get out of bed.
Which is why we both have to be patient with each other. It's very common when my boyfriend interrupts me or I will have misheard something he said and because of his adhd he gets annoyed and impatient that I'm not paying attention bc my MDD really gets in the way of my memory.
So we have to both understand our brains and work from there. It's been a learning experience I will say the least and we have taught each other a lot about what it means to have patience

[pault]

My partner has ADHD and videos like this really help me understand her. There we're definitely a couple points in this video where I smiled and went "Yup, that's her".