All Insecure Attachment Styles: 8 Red Flags to Watch Out For When Dating

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In this video, Thais Gibson reveals the 8 major red flags to look out for when dating. Watch now to find out the 8 red flags what you can do to improve your dating life as Thais offers up some useful insight and tips. To learn more, explore the empowering course, "How To Master The Dating Stage Of Relationships," for powerful tools you can begin using immediately.

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00:00:00 - Intro
00:01:32 - Red Flag #1: Disrespect
00:02:23 - Red Flag #2: Unwilling To Communicate
00:05:13 - Red Flag #3: Shaming
00:06:13 - Red Flag #4: Secretive
00:08:13 - 14-Day Free Trial: How To Master The Dating Stage of Relationships
00:09:19 - Red Flag #5: Lack of Individuation
00:12:26 - Red Flag #6: Unfinished Business
00:12:56 - Red Flag #7: Controlling Patterns
00:13:39 - Red Flag #8: History of Bad Relationships
00:15:50 - Conclusion

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[ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

What are some red flags that you have seen or keep an eye out for? comment below!

[Bulldogsrentfree-mg]

Several of my exes didn't seem to have any hobbies or interests when I met them. I didn't think much of it back then, but now I look at it as a red flag. I've now learned that looking at what a woman does in her FREE time is an indicator as to whether she's healthy for a long-term relationship. Both of these exes were VERY insecure about my commitment to my fitness and martial art goals and even felt threatened I'd meet women at the gym and leave them. Not having a life outside of relationships may be a STRONG indicator of neediness and insecurity (or as people like to say now, codependency). "If they had no life when they dated you, their life will become you when they commit to you."

[RubberJunk]

I think more secure attachment style videos would be really helpful to contrast with the insecure ones.
Sometimes I watch you videos that cover all 3 styles but want to know how the secure attachment would play out. 🙏🏻

[nickus]

Resentment from previous relationships and situationships is incredibly hard to unwire. Especially after being prepared to work things out only to be hurt and discarded by emotionally unavailable ones and avoidants over and over. That's more an anxious attachment issue, but still affects trust and makes you want to drop dating altogether.

As for some other big red flags I would definitely mention flaw finding, lack of self-awareness and accountability, not being able to apologize on one hand and not being able to forgive on the other.

[hathorhealing]

Moving really fast in the beginning, making big promises in the beginning, and love bawmbing are all narcissistic red flags.

[gx]

For some reason, midlife brought me a limerent episode with all the trimmings. The LO had 8 out of 8 of these characteristics. It was quite discouraging because I've never picked so badly before. Fortunately I found great YT resources on limerence quickly and was able to shut it down. Really hard experience, but so grateful for this video and hundreds of others that have kept telling me the truth. Thanks for your work Thais.

[kittthompson]

The secretive thing was the biggest red flag that I should have paid attention to. He lied about kids for 6 months, wouldn’t invite me to his place. He cancelled dates, wouldn’t instigate them, was hot and cold. He also gaslit me, and didn’t understand why I got frustrated and lost my temper with being treated so poorly. I’m mostly annoyed with myself for being so naive.

He says he has someone new now - I hope for her sake that he is honest about who he is, and fair to her.

[alexisb.]

Yeah, I definitely feel like my last relationship had a lot of these, but it wasn't super obvious at the time. I guess I need to tune in more. I learned a lot from this video.

[courtneylougheedm.a.]

Inability to make repair- even if not wrong. If you care about the person, you dont want them to hurt, period. Being able to apologize even if you feel you're correct signals low self-esteem and self-worth.

[pawa]

Ideas for videos: Gender differences for behaviour for each attachment style. For example: “The female dismissive avoidant is usually less closed than the male, and usually has more willingness to discuss issues”. I understand there are studies which reflect these kind of differences.

[Slipping_thru_the_Seams]

disrespect, flakiness, emotional unavailability early on. rushing things. the disrespect is what i really wish i would have took note of, looking back it was sooo blatant. he told me i dont meet his standards but "love is blind" what bs!!!

[beckichaplin]

In my experience, secretive ppl are hard to spot because they are aware of how to hide it until much later in the relationship. Then, you're already in the web. 😞

[deymimartinez]

Thank you so much for sharing all of this! I think this is probably one of the best relationship videos I've ever seen. Well done!

[NailaTyner]

Thank you for always giving great insight. I would love to see more videos on how each attachment styles deals with goals and which ones are more prone to sabotage and why.

And would also love to understand more about the 7 needs that our caretakers give when growing up. The one that you mentioned in a previous video. Just more understanding about it. (Financial, emotional, career, etc…)

Thanks!

[roshalllambert]

They are all good and interesting points! It all makes sense!

[ash]

Omg thais your timing is always impecable 😂 thank you for this!

[crazymusicman]

@12:26 - what is unfinished business? Thais did not give us a definition or description, just said it's bad.

[mrssomeone]

It is about how they are talking to you, how it makes you feel

[FrankM]

I've lost count the amount of women I chatted with and/or went on a date or two, only to find out they still have unfinished business with their ex-boyfriends.

[HH-pjbl]

My ex was somewhat secretive with her phone, a message will come through but she would tilt her phone to read it if I was next to her, I confronted her once but got shut down by her saying I'm overthinking and it will hurt me for overthinking, I was so sad that day, but I loved her and chose to let go. Also she told me there was this married man she feels he knows her personality well and she enjoys his conversations but she doesn't like him or anything but in her chat app he was pinned as a important contact that confused me. I also never confronted her but when I look back there was many red flags I by passed. Good person but bad behaviours 🤷🏻 thank you for the share thais and love you ❤❤❤❤❤