7 Questions To Ask Yourself As You Break Free From A Narcissist

The longer you are with a narcissist, the more exposure you will have to their gaslighting. Once you decide to move on to better circumstances, their invalidating messages can still linger in your mind. That being the case, Dr. Carter addresses 7 common questions to ask yourself as you move toward a more free life. As you learn how to make sense of that person's influence, you can become poised to find the peace of mind you deserve.

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, Tx. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[lynnfincham]

The anger calms after you’ve broken free... enjoy your long lost liberties and start to enjoy your life again 🌸

[lynnfincham]

After breaking free you find that your tolerance of fools is short lived... your learn to break away easier cleaner ... you will not live a life of hurt again 🌸

[salonsavy]

Looking back now, a year later, , and I still am overwhelmed at all the abuse i endured, , I’m much stronger now, , and wiser !, , to NEVER let the happen again!

[cherylduckworth]

When I was beaten down at my worse I came across your videos and they kept me breathing. Every time I woke up in a cold sweat and panic I would turn one of these videos on. It's been almost 2 years Dr Carter since my narcissist discarded me. I actually have normal days now. Thanks again for another fine video. It helps with my ongoing education and rehabilitation.

[bretharoldhart-americanson]

I live in a struggling small town in NC that was once a Fortune 500 city when it was a booming milltown, and the 'old money' here, and those who strive to associate with it, ' seems to exhibit a trait I'm calling "Community Narcissism". When I first moved here in 1998, an old guy whose grass I mowed said, "People don't love their town because it's good...they love it *because it's theirs*."
Two years ago, our City Manager was indicted for embezzlement and fraud, lost his job, and was fined and his family shamed b/c of it.
The 'old money', City Council, & such never uttered an unnecessary peep, as little as possible, about this costly mis-hire.
His name remains on 'Thank You' plaques in our parks and schools for his generous donations.
It occurred to me that many of them had been social friends with the man for years and years, and likely benefited from his bounty by having been welcome at the nice beach house, house parties, and other entertainments that the crimes made possible. Silence is consent.

[janetstonerook]

The best way to deal with any leftover anger or bitterness is just to gray rock and watch, from very far away, how the narcissists will continue to ruin things and relationships in their lives. No name calling or interactions from you. Just stick to your guns. Be happy and productive and let them wallow in their own mess. To quote Shakespeare "Leave her (or him) to God!"

[Joe-tlsz]

I learn a lot from your videos, thanks for posting. I especially enjoyed the section about "shaming". That's exactly what my "x" did. Seriously, what kind of a person puts marks on themselves and then calls the police and tells the courts LIES about how she got those marks...? People wouldn't listen to me when I said she was lying. It was like she's a girl and you're a guy so you must be in denial. It was a no-win situation, I was shamed to my students, community, friends, and family. As a result of that constant shame, I can no longer teach, have trouble getting a job, and lost over 20 years of my life for dating a girl for only a year and a half. I have struggled with it daily for 12 years now but find some solace in your videos. It doesn't take away the constant depression and anger, but they help me to understand, thanks again.

[marykoch]

I moved away from a Narc situation a few months ago and still dealing with PTSD from the whole experience...It was a life lesson where I learned how to truly empower myself!♥♥

[andrearush]

"You get to decide who YOU want to be." These are freedom words right here, thank you! <3

[lynnfincham]

Once you’ve experienced a narc you find that you are reserved with future relationships, and this is good as you will evaluate before you rush on in...🌸

[rocksoft]

I am angry for the hurt, insult and shame they caused to me. I am very angry...

[devinesoullovefrequencies.]

Now that I am out of the relationship he's playing the victim role, acting like I did something to him . It is unbelievable that he acts this way, but I am grateful for this video, the information goes a long way for me . My boundaries have been established 5 months now, I forgive myself and him and that's where I stand . Much love, respect and honor. 💗💞🙏🏽

[oxigenarian]

Your capacity to love after you leave is like a bank account. While all of the trouble is going on, make deposits in your love savings account, bank love like riches, remain lovable and you will be ready to share that wealth when you break away...

[d.h.fremont]

I am still in utter disbelief things are so broken...

[terrywade]

7 questions to ask myself:

1) Am I a shameful person?
2) How do I explain why I left?
3) Now I’m free. What does that mean?
4) What do I do with my lingering anger?
5) What boundaries should I reinforce?
6) Am I ever going to trust or love anyone again?
7) How might my pain be a catalyst for others?

[cherrybacon]

1. Do I feel a sense of relief. YES
2. Do I feel strong. YES
3. Will I cope. YES
4. Do I want him back. NO
5. Will I forget him. YES
6. Will I meet someone better. YES
7. Will I find peace. YES

[sfuterfas]

Awww, Dr. C's doggie asleep on the chair. Too cute!

[hiTekHOBO]

In my late sixties, the best way to go is alone... on borrowed time, it's just not worth it 🙄

[SweetiePieTweety]

Yes, my daughter is suddenly realizing she is outside the fence of her narcissistic father’s home and her religious private school. Running wild & free at college. Praying for protection and a long life on the daily 🤗

[mthomas]

Being in a Narcissistic relationship is about them. Being in a healthy relationship is about you. What I mean by that is, you get to create your own life and if others want to be a part of that, they certainly can, but if they don't, you still have you and that is an amazing thing.