Gaslighting: What is It & How to Stop the Abusive Cycle

Kristin Snowden, MA, LMFT specializes in treating individuals and couples who are in crisis due to uncovering infidelity or addiction. She defines and discusses gaslighting--the emotionally abusive and traumatizing act of invalidating someone's reality. Kristin explores how to identify gaslighting in your relationship and steps to stop the abusive cycle

(This is not therapy, it’s for educational purposes only)

#betrayaltrauma #couplesincrisis #infidelity #addictionrecovery #betrayedpartners #divorce #couplestherapy

[wombatcitystudios]

Gaslighters often accuse you of gaslighting as a way to gaslight you. Blame-shifting, angrily accusing you of the very thing they are doing.

[MrsElated-pvzj]

I just came across this video and I is a breath of fresh air... I just recently realized that this is what my partner has been doing to manipulate me. I am now trying to deal with this huge feeling of stupidity on my part for not noticing sooner... and how to change it now 2 yrs down the line... this video is a step in right direction... Thank you 🙏🏼

[dilnozaerkaboyeva]

Amazing talk! You uncovered so many things many specialists don’t about gaslighting

[jeanetteeast]

I found panties (not mine) and a shirt in his truck and he was taking erectile dis meds again not for me and he gas lit me and I was apologizing to him for doubting him. I truly thought I would lose my mind.

[sunbabyocelot]

You’re an angel miss Snowden thank you so much for this

[sunbabyocelot]

I can tell you are such a beautiful soul and your videos have really helped me to understand so much!

[gracefullygrateful]

It's not up to the person who has being lying to determine when the victim of their lies trusts them again. They are not obligated to trust someone distrustful nor follow a timeline of healing dictated by anyone else.

[dsgibson]

What do you do if they will not tell the truth? Living in hell....except when I found your video I feel like I have more control now!

[lanadeltorro]

This video is amazing. It took me years to get away from a man who did this so badly I truly believed I was nuts. My nerves were so fractured from what I was sensing vs what I was being told, I ended up a wreck. Unable to leave the house. Honestly it’s worse than being hit. And I don’t think I’ll ever trust a man again.

[Mike-xtlh]

Gaslighting & Crazy Making is what my narc abusive manipulative father does all the time . Everything you're saying is what I am going through right now . They act as if they walk on water it's definitely betraying behavior for sure . Except I can't relate to the sex part . But I do get stolen from alot then gaslit after I also have ptsd .

[missmerbella]

Some may be “dislodging shame” (some may not possess any shame to begin with), but those that do still know what they’re doing to the extent that they know they’re lying. They know what they’re saying isn’t true—they know they’re cheating, what they said, that they hit you, abused you, etc. They may gaslight so often that it’s a knee jerk reaction, but I’m not sure it’s fair to say they’re not aware they’re doing it/it’s truly subconscious. We’re not talking about people that are disengaged from reality or truly mentally insane.

[Pattie-of]

My ex was leading a double life all the while I was slowly breaking down. He is a recovering alcoholic which I questioned him about and he immediately shut me down with the silent treatment and refused to discuss things. He created a situation that hurt me so I reacted to his behavior towards me and lack of empathy. I ended up with CPTSD while he strolls off wih this new victim happily ever after..

[Superubertrooper]

I'm really enjoying these videos from Kristin! I wish I had these resources three years ago as neither myself nor my ex had a concept of healthy relationships. I did not really have boundaries. I checked out Kristin's website and I have started sharing the resources there with others. I really yearned to relate to my ex but she chose instead to not discuss things and she harbored resentment. Based on what I have learned, I believe she is a love addict and I was the avoidant. Three years of working on myself has made me realize she was not a good fit for me. She was (and is) all about control and since the divorce which she initiated, I have seen the narcissistic side of her with full force. I am appalled that people can act this way. I am sad for my daughter because she became my ex's special person and the cycle of emotional enmeshment continues.

[DaveKohler]

Thank you for sharing your own story. It seems they all have similarities ... took me a while to get that her gaslighting was something that gave her joy. Narcs are wired opposite from me. Hope u do more videos ....

[rhondabrande]

I want to see this movie someday.why have people kept this a secret all these years .it grew a population. If they didn't get away with it in society they would have to change. It's the reason why Empaths are population is low

[mcdc]

Thank you so much for this. I’m recovering from the end of a year long relationship with a sex and love addict who had multiple relationships simultaneously. When he finally admitted the other relationships, he denied ever agreeing to be monogamous. I had previously watched one of your videos and took to heart your recommendation to write down core values, and this helped me tremendously to stand my ground and refuse to let him gaslight me any further, but in the process it became clear that he did not even remember the multiple promises of monogamy. It became clear just how unconscious his addiction defenses were. I have been suffering flashbacks and triggers in ways I had never experienced before, and your video has helped me feel a lot less alone in trying to overcome this experience.

[gracefullygrateful]

The porn example is blameshifting and a deflection from the real issue.