Boundaries and Complex Trauma - Part 12/12 - Tools

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Tools for setting healthy boundaries.

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[ilovesamyo]

I wonder if Tim knows how many lives he’s helping and saving. He’s doing that for me and I am so deeply grateful.

[toliveischrist]

What’s amazing about keeping boundaries is that it’s not about perfection but consistency. Consistency leads to routine and satisfaction. That encourages me and it’s easier to see when I’m being unhealthy.

[iw]

Yes, prioritize your own needs, then others. Recovering people pleaser 😁

[benjamintice]

I could not be recovering as well as I am from Complex Trauma without these videos. Thank you so much.

[juneprice]

I am so grateful for the Complex Trauma series and would absolutely love to meet you. It is amazing how listening to each module touches my heart so deeply and makes me want to face my demons and truly heal. Thank you so much.

[sukhmanicambridge]

These talks are incredible so glad I found this man.

[lizparenzan]

The end of this one made me cry. What a good man.

[iw]

Thank you Tim for sharing & helping our soul. God Bless you and yours

[reneemoore]

Hmm. Procrastination and boundaries. This is my step six and seven. Very cool talks. They are encouraging as I work my 12 steps. I have no idea how your program works. But AA does. And the price is right!!

[lisacurtis]

You read my mail every time. Thank God for you. God bless you.

[dr.laurawilson]

So grateful for your teachings Tim. I’ve learned so much from you 🙏 💜

[gretalukoseviciute]

Dr. Tim thank you so mucho for your work..!! Just one video is worth of many months of work and money… that we do no t have.. thank you so much..

[Callitout-kluq]

I wish I’d heard this years ago. Definitely came from a family that had the wrong boundaries. I tried to work with my now ex on creating a healthier family than the one I came from but he came from an equally messed up family and refused. The idea of having set boundaries and punishments and follow through plan was not what he wanted. His view was the kids should do what he said the moment he said it no matter what. And while I tried to be better, i had no support or guidance and was not able.

Our poor kids. Their parents could never agree and now are divorced. They have endured a lot and I want to change but I need to not say it but instead do it. I will need to find a good therapist to help me.

[lynnev]

It’s like he is talking to me, boundary and self discipline.

[marty]

happy new year to tim and everyone at the react centres :)

[CarniBarbie]

So wish I had heard these talks 20 years ago before I ruined my life.

[FlorenceLunsford-sknj]

Setting better boundaries sum use to cross my boundaries

[badriakhavan]

How can I trust my gut ? Help me understand its message ?

[RealTalk-mqug]

EXCRUCIATING DEBILITATING
TRAUMATIZING
EMOTIONAL PAIN.

Submerged in darkness.

Paralyzed with panic.

He raped my soul with the way he threw me away.
Absolutely raped my soul.

I MISS HIM
AND OUR CONNECTION
AND OUR CONVERSATIONS,
WITH ALL MY SOUL.

HE REPLACED ME.

Abandoned and betrayed.
Discarded like trash.
Grief consumes me.
I am traumatized and terrorized.

I have nobody, I'm all alone, and the suffering is immense and intense.

He - the man I called my best friend - gave me PTSD.
Severe PTSD. He left me in February. Discarded me like garbage.

The grief is unbearable.

He left me. Replaced me. My "best friend".
The only friend I had. The ultimate betrayal.

How the actual fuck could he do this to me?
We went from speaking every single day
about every damn thing,

and now we're strangers!

I AM TORMENTED AND TORTURED AND HAUNTED.
AND SO FUCKING DESPERATELY ALL ALONE.

The pain and the panic and the terror are truly unbearable.

[cindy]

If you don't work on the inner wounds you can't not just proctastination because there are so many trauma's on doing chores, take responsibility, stand up for yourself, find energy to do al the things like standing up early, cleaning, cooking, going to the store, work, going to the gym, taking care of kids etc....
Where is the solution for the inner work for healing al the trauma inside...?
It looks so simple like you just have to do it..just do it or you are lazy..no you are not lazy you are exhausted by surviving al of your life..
Just take litle steps and rest a lot and listen yo your energy...