5 Signs Your Ex Wants You Back - How to Tell Your Ex Wants You Back

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If you want to know a few signs your ex wants you back, you have to look at your ex’s psychology.

You see, if your ex is thinking about a future with you in it, that is a huge sign your ex wants you back.

So you want to know how to tell your ex wants you back? You’ve got to look at the expression of whether or not your ex sees a future with you in it.

What would your ex do if they saw you in their future? Well, for starters, they might take an interest in your life or your experience of the world.

They might even talk about doing things in the future together with you.

These are a few ways you might learn how to know your ex wants you back or not. The secret is to look at what sort of space you hold in your ex’s mind based off of how they are interacting with you and responding to you.

Some of these signs might be quite obvious, such as flirting with you, but others might be less obvious.

Part of this is because people have a tendency to focus on catastrophe prediction about the future. They imagine the worst case scenario and they brace for it. This causes them to discount obvious signs that their ex wants them back.

Notice if you are making catastrophe predictions and ask yourself if it’s a realistic view of the world or not. If not, then ask yourself what a more realistic view of the world might be.

This is how you can spot the signs your ex wants you back.

[zianacoll]

Thank you Clay Andrew My ex and i are getting back together

[GHOBLN]

I'm simply writing this in hopes of some much needed advice, because I'm so confused right now. My girlfriend and I dated for 8 months and dumped me 2 weeks ago (I was completely blindsided by this). She initially told me she fell out of love, but then after going over everything in my head I realized it's because I took her for granted and didn't give enough of my time to her. I apologized for each individual mistake, and said I can fix it and asked for a second chance. I was told "no, I don't have those feeling for you anymore I'm sorry". She still wants to be friends but I cannot do that, I love her too much to be around as a buddy when she finds someone new. I accepted the break up and told her we can't be friends and went into NC. She reached out and I answered in a way where I didn't show emotion and I didn't ask for forgiveness or mention the relationship. Few days of talking on and off, and we met up about 3 times since the break up. Everytime we met up, she'd cry and said she missed me, and she'd kiss me (not in a friendly way, but in what seemed to be a very passionate kiss). I tried to avoid kissing but the chemistry is so strong it's imposible for me to reject a kiss. So basically I'm in a postition where when were together it seems like we're dating, but she says she isn't in love with me, so we're not. She also made a tinder immediately after our break up and I know she still has it as of today which is the last time I saw her. I haven't reached out once to her, she's done all the reaching, when we met up today it was her who asked me out, and like I said we kissed again today, except today seemed to be the most passionate kiss since. All of this said, she says she isn't in love with me, and she intermittently brought up little jabs about how I messed up the relationship while we met today. Basically all I want is some guidance to my situation. Because to me, deep down, she's in love with me and wants me back. However, she says the exact opposite. So her mouth says one thing and her body says something completely different. I just need some advice because I have no idea how to handle these mixed signals. Thanks, hope to be hearing from you.

[odd]

Im happy af rn. All of these points are reality for me

[yoyomonique]

Me and my ex are weird. We meet up once a week (he comes over) we greet each other with a hug and kiss (on the lips) we hang out talk about our week we kiss passionately randomly he initiates all of the kisses we sit and hold hands . He tells me he misses me I tell him the same and he spends the night. We're not back together and after the overnight we don't talk till later into the next week. Idk he's like my best friend but I'm madly still hopelessly in love with him ughhh

[elenafurlanetto]

Hi Clay!
Thank you for these videos, they are amazingly helpful. Not only because your advice is intelligent and perceptive, but also - and this is extremely important for me at the moment - because you offer constant support for people going through this complex process of getting your ex back. I watch your video and read your emails every day, I wait for them, and they make me feel BETTER! Whenever sadness takes over I just have to watch your videos to feel that there is still hope. Soooo much hope! Keep up the good work!

[kayleecole]

Thank you Clay! And the problem for me is that he went into a rebound relationship the day after he broke up with me and all she wants is problems with me. And she gets angry, mad, jealous TOO MUCH! She tries to control him too and she's a cheater and she's not good with relationships. And he's made it seem like he wants to "be with me" while he's with her. I don't get why he's doing this if these signs in this video apply

[gtaashwagandhaman]

When we starting talking again 2 weeks after finding out about her new relationship then during a few days after thanksgiving, we starting talking on the phone!
She talked about me getting the full time position making $27 something an hour and am i still getting laid off for 2 months getting unemployment and then her big emotional streeses about her family she doesn't get along with but 2 - 3 weeks later shes calmed and got a job at wendys. She asked me about a stone shot on her windshield and what to do about fixing it yesterday lol. Last week Clay she talked about all the negative things i did! I was saying sorry to everything and that i took the time to figure all that myself. I guess thats all for now Clay.

[nicolebrowne]

Clay - my ex and i finally got together last Sunday after he reached out finally after 5 months . We had a great conversation, we kissed, cuddled and told me how much he loved me, missed me and wanted to try again but slow . He did talk about some future things etc . Since then he is starting a new job but doing hard training for two weeks so we been on and off texting etc . Yesterday, My anxiety was high, i texted him and although he texted back he was busy working on his car, he didn’t mention meeting up . I know he mentioned taking it slow but i want to see him. Do I need to just chill and take it day by day or is he playing games ?

[baonguyen-jpxe]

Hey Clay, my ex and I have been talking again. She says she wants to be friends but does not want to get back together. At least not for the time being. I feel like I'm in the wall of reactance right now. She has been talking and saying things (nicknames, etc) that we used to say in the relationship and she brings up past memories sometimes. I don't know what she means because I feel like she's giving mixed signals and being hot and cold. She asks me to hangout and what not but a couple days later she says "I don't want to date" I don't know what to do. We dated for 2 years and I miss her and love her a lot

[misswendysss]

Hi Clay, thank you for your helpful videos. So after our breakup, my LD ex initiated contact first. We slowly started having more contact, mostly initiated by me thru texts, but he'd always reply immediately and sometimes call me during our text convo. All our conversations are fun, happy and positive, and he's been flirting with me, complimenting me and talking about doing things together in the future (trips, activities etc), signs that you mentioned in the video. However he doesn't really initiate nor does he talk about getting back together. Can you perhaps shed some light on what's possibly going on? Thank you.

[sysda]

So tell me if I messed up any chance of getting back with an ex...broke up in February 2016 since then basically stopped talking and we didn't have to work with each other (YES SHES A COWORKER) ...well up until last Sunday...she took the shifts of someone who transferred out of our job so we'll be having the same shifts a couple times a week...so I decided to just be cool and we spent lunch together this past Sunday..we ate and chilled then back to work...even after work we hung out in the car at a nearby park...no serious relationship talk..just kind of catching up..I tried to avoid saying anything with feelings of still wanting her...she asked me if it was weird hanging out with her and I said no (even tho it was after months of basically no contact)..she said she was fine with it..but did I just put myself in the friend zone? I do still want her and I just didn't want any work shift to be awkward which is why I did what I did... WHATS your opinion? Thanks and sorry for the Longread

[jerrylee]

Hey Clay, Im in a 5 year relationship and been in a 1 year far distance relationship. My gf is in grad school told me she want to break up. She say she want to talk to me about the break up in person when she come back in a week. It was shock to me bc we don't really argue and I thought we was doing good. She says she want someone to help her grow as a person and her feeling have change. My drinking habit and calling her when im drunk. She didn't like it. And what is your opinion and advice

[josiebautista]

what if you tell them, I love you and responded I do too

[cr]

Hi Clay

I've been attempting the active no contact and have been for the last 3 weeks or so. (This comes after I did pleading and begging initially after the breakup).

My ex came to my place to pick up some of her belongings and we had a good positive interaction with chatting and flirting and her telling me she missed me but she turned down my advances of kissing.

She does all but 1 of the things in this video but she is also spending nights with another guy.

What can this mean?

Thanks

[riajose]

Me and my ex connect on a emotional level n he confessed that he pretty much said he misses me ... n he flirts with me by playful touches me but he doesn't say I'm sexy and he's prey much called me a pet name he use to call me in bed ...but he never speaks of me in the future he speaks of the future as if I'm not in it .. he says things like ... if we were still separate why if he's doitstuff like this n bought me a gift but still hasn't asked me back out can u tell me.. anyone?

[butteryfly]

2months of brk up. 50 days of no contact. I am still blocked everewhere possible. From the last 15 days or so I have noticed him logging in to my Facebook account and messenger (he has my password and I have knowingly not changed it). Also I hav seen him posting things which indirectly mean that no matter what he doesn't want me back. Also before brking up he said he would never return even if he misses me . What does all these mean?!!plz help

[dkeys]

My ex keeps asking about how my mom and family is doing and how my work is going whenever we talk once in a blue moon but it doesn't seem like she is ready or even willing to get back together anytime soon if not ever. -_- I don't know if she is just being nice or actually cares. She does give me the flirty eyes when we run into each other on the streets. I did ask her to go archery one weekend but she told me she can't she's hanging out with her friend. I didn't even tell her what time or day hmm... I don't know

[amysunshine]

Haha he asked me how things were going with the guy i was seeing, when i said i got used again, he asked if he could kick his butt 😂

[chfborde]

my ex broke up with me yesterday, and she says that when we were dating that she keeped crying or being upset over her ex, she said maybe in the future we could have it work again but what are the chances it will happen...will she ever feel the same as she did before ?

[tanyabartley]

So after the no contact rule i texted my ex he took three days to reply. I texted him on a MOnday and he replied the Thursday. His reply text started with lol, i miss you a lot and hope that everything is going well with me. . Do you think that he wants to get back together with me again?