5 Easy to Miss Signs Your Ex Wants You Back - Clay Andrews

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Today we’re going to be talking about five signs your ex wants you back.

These are going to be a little bit usual, so bear with me.

First is that your ex experiences what is called a positive pull back.

A positive pull back is when you have an interaction with your ex that they actually enjoy, but then they go silent after that.

What’s happening here is that your ex is trying to feel you out. They are trying to reconcile the two different versions of you in their mind. There is the version of you that they broke up with. Then there is the version of you that they saw there when they were interacting with you.

If you’ve done your job well, there should be a stark difference between these two versions.

Your ex is pulling back because they do not know which version to put their trust in.

The second sign that your ex wants you back is that they are actually discouraging you from getting back together with them.

This happens at the Crisis Point on the 5 stages of getting back together.

This happens because your ex is trying to make things easier for themselves. They are hoping that if they can just test you to see if you will walk away or give up, then they don’t have to actually go through the trouble of rearranging their life in an uncomfortable way.

The third sign that your ex wants you back is that they mention anything beyond a platonic connection.

We’ve talked about the friend zone in other videos, and how this isn’t something that you really need to worry about with your ex.

And this is definitely true. So I won’t bother discussing it here.

Your ex will often keep things platonic while they are trying to figure out how they feel about you. This is because they are worried about accidentally giving you “false hope.”

If they are moving beyond the platonic with you, then it means that they do not care about giving you false hope anymore. And this could be because they are open to the idea of getting back together again.

The fourth sign is that your ex and you are able to connect on an emotional level, and not just a superficial level.

And the fifth sign is that your ex is actually expressing interest in other people. Your ex might do this because they are actually testing the waters to see if you are interested in them or not. It is an invitation for you to show your hand without them having to seem over invested by directly asking if you are interested in anyone else.

[anewloveofficial]

Some guys are foolish, they'll realize our worth once where gone and What I hate the most is when they insert more effort to convince us to Come back again but when you are still together we can't even feel their presence.

[Karina_Engr]

1. 00:36 Pull-back (The REAL you conflicts with their projection of "you") and don't trust the real you
2. 3:12 Discourage from trying to get back with them (to make it easier for them) even though you two have an emotional connection
3. 5:45 move to the next level (past platonic, but into grey area, flirting)
4. 7:17 willing to talk on an emotional level, and be more vulnerable
5. 7:55 They want to know, "Are you dating anyone else?"

[arshiaalexander]

My ex has all the signs and we are kind of making some progress. I was just honest to her about my feelings after she asked to be her friend. I told her you are not friend you are family. Our relationship was positive and healthy I was just being too needy and she is 20 and we dated for 2 years. She asked me to move on and I said I will move on from the relationship but I do have feelings for u but I dont want to force you to do something that you dont want to do. I just stopped messaging her all the time and now she is reaching out and she is so warm toward me. Pray for me ❤😋 I know I've got this

[ivyloly]

You're describing my ex's attitude right now. He said it. I just don't want to be hurt again. So he's seeing my interaction, I'm trying to be always positive and be consistent to regain his trust again.

[lucianestor]

you are one of the best dating coaches on Youtube and your advice is very valuable. Keep up the good work.

[anonymouscreature]

We broke up because my mental illness took the best out of me and I hurt him 💔. But I truly change and I am now able to control my anxiety and I fixed many of my problems.

[jirokatsutoshi]

I can't stop laughing that all of these videos are EXACTLY what I needed to pay attention to but didn't see any of it until it was all awful and almost 100% gone for good.

[stendec]

Your videos are great. I have a son with my ex so I speak to and see her a lot. We broke up about 3 months ago. At first I thought there was nothing there, like she was pretty much indifferent to me, but in the last month she's really warmed to me and we talk like we used to. I've noticed some of these signs you've mentioned and she's pretty much admitted to me that she's unhappy and lonely, but doesn't want to get my hopes up. We're going out as a family this weekend for the first time since the split. I'm staying grounded but still optimistic.

Keep up the good work. Your ideas are much more realistic than some of the 'game playing' suggested by other coaches.

[LEFTY]

Wow, you literally just described every step of my mentality when I was trying to figure out if I wanted to get back together with my ex. I had no idea what was going through my mind was so textbook or predictable. Too bad during “crisis point” he got off the train and decided to move on with the person he was talking to. Thank you for making this video. I now understand the logic of what I was going through emotionally the last half of last year.

[a.d.b]

I have been very well behaved, not contacting. However, my tendency to hone in on videos like this just underscores My Wish for some hopeful sign that I have missed. It is fallacy to think one can turn off their feelings like a machine. And it is folly to think that the fantasy of a wonderful reunion would be the reality..

[LadyLindy]

Hi Clay🙂
I thought my ex and me would reunite one day but after watching this video now I’m more sure we will.
We have 4 of the 5 signs here!
I visit him periodically in the shop where he works and he is definitely showing the first 4 signs to me mentioned here!
He just needs to finish with the rebound now.
Please pray we reunite Clay. Thankyou for this insight here!
My small hope for me and the ex that I had, has grown to a much bigger hope now. I will be much more sensitive to his emotional temperature(you always say, which I so like)from now on Clay🙂
Please pray that me and him reunite.
thanks again Clay🙂🙂

[oxymoron]

Thank clay I wasn't a fan of your channel at first but this video has given me closure

[Banana-lktf]

Sounds so much like my ex, except he's not willing to talk about anything to do with feelings, just things that don't directly relate to our relationship. He's currently in the avoiding and posturing phase.

[Torithewanderingma]

It’s like you can see into my relationship with my ex. I know he wants to get back together. He tells me we’re never going to have a relationship again but his actions don’t match that. He says he’s never leaving his new girlfriend. He says he’s confused because he has a new gf and he has me. So I’m taking this advice and backing wayyy off and going to live my life and concentrate on me.

Keep the emotional connection because we have our own language and kids together, but take the pressure off him.

[danielbrown]

She's telling me I can do better and tells me to move on. I told her I'd wait. I got 4 out 5 signs. I give it 2 weeks.

[Mopark]

I think I'm in the crisis point. She's been calling me to talk often recently, then today she messaged me saying she just wants to be friends.

[lethal_vamp]

Can't believe everything you said is so true. I've experienced it myself.

[merovictalaue]

You're brilliant! I almost observe those signs to my x. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. 😊

[mareewaugh]

He also tells me he loves me but he doesn't love me the way he should

[ErikBCSA]

Clay you do AN AMAZING job. You are helping me a lot right now!!