Inner Child Work: What It Is And How To Do It

[SuperGoodMush]

Ah, another 20-40 minutes of "Oh. Ah. I see. God damnit 😭." starring Heidi Priebe as understanding me better than I do /pos

[josesand]

Would you believe that 2 videos of this woman have more value to me than 10 years of therapy?
I mean it's sad that psychologist of my city haven't studied this. I don't know why. Maybe it's not in the DSM or whatever.
But holy .... Finally discover this it's life changing.
Thank you very much.

[Anadorado]

What I learned about myself from watching this video; my inner parent needs help being more responsible and less abusive to my inner child. Addiction is what I’ve been using to “deal” with my inner child. I felt feelings of resentment from my mother as a child. I was neglected. So I treat my inner child in a similar way. When I have feelings, I smoke weed to ignore them (and ignore my inner child’s bids for care) there’s also no structure to my life because I grew up in a dysfunctional environment where living that way was the norm for the adults around me. I had no healthy models around me as a child. I’m stuck being angry about all of this. But now I’m starting to see that both my inner child and inner parent need both a little nurturing and tough love in order to live a more fulfilled and peaceful life for the rest of my years

[terryvolbrecht]

This wise and lovely young woman gives me hope for the future of humanity,

[MarekLumi]

5 recommendations on how to work with your inner child:
1) 8:05 Improve your relationship with self-protection
(Would I be comfortable with someone speaking to my 5-year-old child this way? If not, how do I need to stand up for myself?)

2) 11:07 Examine your relationship with growth and self-development
(Would I push the child to try harder in the situation, or notice they're exhausted and need time to rest?)

3) 14:16 Adress the relationship with your body
(If I fed, groomed, and dressed the child the way I do myself, what message would I be sending about their importance?)

4) 15:46 Improve your relationship with self-regulation
(When I'm feeling impulsive, out of control, what might a child need in those circumstances?)

5) 18:03 Improve your connection to your life force energy
(Am I balancing my short-term and long-term wants and needs? Safety, stability vs excitement & play)

[Krystalc]

I once burst into tears during an episode of Blues Clues. The host was calmly discussing feelings and I realized I had never been supported in that manner. I still like to watch that show to give my inner child the support I never got. I'm 53 .

[atipachaleka]

I have been abused and starved as a child by my Stepmom.Now I am taking care of my inner child .2 weeks ago I started going to the gym, I go take a walk at the beach sometimes by myself.I now go out with friends sometimes and I now feed myself, dress up, sing, dance, play music.I didn't have the energy to find work but now I have just started my own business, I do not have lots of clients yet but am pushing myself to make it work.I pray I would keep doing this for myself for the rest of my life.Thank you Heidi

[ThomasFloydLPCC]

Inner child work is incredibly transformative. I've noticed in my practice that that clients who succeed in healing are the ones that face their inner child.

[Nicnac]

I have a formal diagnosis of adhd and autism … I am high functioning and a genius at masking. The more I learn about trauma and reflect on my own life the more I question if I just have a huge inner child that is unhealed and wounded. I struggle so much with the concept of aging it makes me so so sad, I don’t identity as a 43 year old. All I want to do I play … I struggle to focus, work, be productive start tasks etc. I definitely need to strike a balance and allow my inner parent to take more lead with discipline and structure by allowing my inner child certain times to play etc … this was really useful.

[morticiablue]

I've just diacovered you and for the last 3 video that I've watched I've been sobbing uncontrollably. Thank you for such valuable resources.
I have been working with myself for more than ten years now, managing my depression without meds while raising a child and trying to have a healthy family dynamic. I am so lucky for all that can be learned online as well as for my husbands support and companionship while we heal together. Thank again, this has been so eye opening.

[aboutninety-somethingcats]

Girl you’ve got me bawling rn. My inner child has a voice, but I just realized it’s protesting, because my inner parent is MY PARENTS- a mashup of a sociopath’s unpredictable disciplinary cruelty and a narcissist’s calculated, covert, deeply wounding criticism. I think the underlying problem behind so many of the issues I’m at a loss with are just my rebellious (see: historically invalidated) inner child and my inner parent at war, just like it was when I was small and disappointed and untrusting. It hurts to know that I have to be the first person to love me even when it requires sacrifice and compromise, and that it’s taken 30 years to get here, but I can’t keep letting them cause harm.

[Dariab]

You dont ramble. I have adhd and find it hard to concetrate at times. Thank you ❤

[jm]

This is the first time I have heard of inner parenting, and thank you for explaining it as well. I was told I needed inner child, but it seems that it is inner parenting that I need.

Time wasted on the wrong problem can be detrimental.

I cannot thank you enough for all of this information and your delivery of that information. You are priceless to us in need of understanding our world.

[vantablacklord]

Heidi you're the best! Your videos have inspired a lot of the progress I've made in my mental health journey after cancer. Thank you for your invaluable videos.

[mequable]

I wanted to mention that last time you had the example of "if I had a little 5 year old child with me, would I let them stay in this situation" I thought of my friend who actually did have a five year old with her and was letting him stay in a very toxic family environment, because she's pretty anxiously attached and her relationship with the boyfriend is always a priority. So she loses basic common sense and judgement.

Life is so complicated and throws at us weird use cases to test us, it seems.

Anyways, as always a very comprehensive video and by the way my friend's relationship is way better now and the kid is better too.

[a.s.jackson]

Thank you for another great video. My inner child has been in the driver seat my entire life.
I'm a responsible, dependable, reliable person, for most things. I find it easier to help others than take care of the things I need to do in my own life. My avoidance and procrastination are keeping me painfully stuck in life. I'm unemployed and the most important thing I need to do, I barely do, which is look for a job. It was approximately 2 years ago that I had the thought that my procrastinating and avoidance were "pathological" so set out to learn about my behavior. I didn't think I was depressed, but I thought there was something to my lethargy and inertia. I have now learned that my maladaptive behaviors are a result of my abusive, neglectful, unstable, violent, childhood. In childhood, I had no structure, no routines. Now, I'm trying to learn how to do this for myself. It's difficult for me, and it will take quite a while to learn new habits, to learn a new way of life. And, learning how to get my inner parent in the driver seat will be key. Fingers crossed I can do this.

[chrisf]

I have seen my inner child, and he just keeps running around in circles!!!

[xforumx]

About time we get this video!! 🎉
You have no idea how much your work has changed my life and the lives of those around me. I am helping many of my closest people begin to take their own work seriously because of you. With all my heart, thank you Heidi

[noturbo]

i didnt listen to the inner kid about a love interest the kid was right and so i need to listen more and trust myself, love myself and heal myself by not letting people abuse me.

[amasterofone]

I definitely tend to lean into my inner child running things. What I struggle with is knowing how much parenting is correct because that wasn't modelled. I tend to go overboard and then rebel because it feels like my freedom is being infringed upon.