Are you manipulative? 7 ways to stop

Last week I released a video about why it may be easy for you to be manipulated and I got a lot of questions about what to do if you're manipulative and how to stop. So are you the actual manipulator or perhaps you're that friend or girlfriend or boyfriend that people are always saying is toxic. Or you're asking yourself am I toxic or am I a manipulator? We may not always think our behaviors are manipulative but perhaps we're always using subtle tactics or behaviors to get our way or to get people to act or behave a certain way, this is manipulation. But how do we do this and not engage in toxic behaviors or be a toxic person in our relationships. We have to first recognize the signs we're doing this and then we can start making changes.

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[fairygurl]

Here's to Having Healthier Resources 💞

[Moon_Fire_Water]

I'm very glad to have found your channel in recent months, I wonder what my life would be like now had I had more of these very helpful, not accusatory or blame /shame ridden discussions around the topics you cover earlier in my life. Growing and healing things now as an adult I wish I had learned sooner. Very grateful still to have this now, thank you for everything you are doing in the world to help others in this way, myself included!!

[jennyanderson]

I'm thankful that someone told me that people pleasing and constantly apologizing was manipulation. I thought it was nice and had a really hard time breaking those habits. I still struggle, but I see now that I am trying to manipulate situations to make them safe for me.

[brittanywilcox]

Fabulous video! I started it fully ready to reflect and tweak where I might need it. It felt good to see my progress in therapy has already helped me identify and avoid these pitfalls. The ones I haven't ever struggled with made me see where I lost relationships with people because their forms of manipulation just didn't work on me, and that it wasn't my fault. ❤

[TianaBarker]

I’ve realized these things about myself and I want to stop it because it hurts me and everyone around me thanks for the video hope you have a good day ❤

[BP-nntq]

thank you!! love how this is being addressed ❤

[tiresias]

I struggle working out the difference between setting a boundary by saying no to doing something I don't want to do compared to manipulating someone to do it the way I want them to.
Like if I want to do something one way and someone else wants to do it another, me saying no to their way effectively forces them to do it my way if they want to do it at all

[zak-a-roo]

I manipulated my drunk parents into parenting me as well as I could get them to, they were incredibly resistant. Probably doing it to everything since.

[leonievh]

I am guilty to be a people pleaser and some of the things you mentioned
the ather day me and my daughter was walking and she hurt her foot and I told her there is no time to worry about your foot you can worry about it later when we are home later I was feeling bad about the way I react because I don't want her to learn it is wrong to show your feelings or pain like I did now I'm working hard to show more empathy when It is necessary❤

[masolhaosol]

omg it's me I'm doing that 😢
someone important told me they're getting frustrated (bc I wasn't answering a particular question, which was communicated in a good way) and I just agreed that I was frustrating and went completely silent on them 😮

[Altermyego-]

For some reason i quite often will say something that was negative towards myself when i didnt even need to make that comment.

[okyouwinleavemealone]

Stan... Pumped up kicks... 💀🔫🤡
Nate AZ Highschool 💀🔫🤡

[eugenekrabs]

See none of these manipulations work if you embrace conflict and i don't mean in a angry way but in a logical peaceful way see most people can't take not being able to win an argument if you're dealing with someone who is always argumentive or passive aggressive or trying to break your stance they'll soon find out its not gonna happen and they'll either leave or accept help to change see endurance is the name of the game

[okyouwinleavemealone]

...yes, but I'm not the overly sensitive clown with a gun 🤡🔫,
I learned to be a manipulative Bully from fighting games. Set Ups 24/7