Are You RE-Traumatizing Yourself? 16 Self-Defeating Behaviors Common with Childhood PTSD.

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[crystalsingr]

Thank you so very much for being on YouTube. This just appeared on my main page as a suggested video. I ignored it but it kept appearing so I took the hint and watched. I have to tell you how floored I was by the content. I truly had no idea that what I've been experiencing is not just me. I thought I'd worked through my childhood issues but my recent past, along with your information, proves otherwise. I'm so grateful to know that I just might be able to dig myself out of this hole I've gotten myself into - again.

[MichelleVisageOnlyFans]

1. Black and white thinking
2. Neglecting your body
3. Addictive use of food
4. Addictive use of media and entertainment
5. Dishonesty
6. Work problems
7. Blame, victim thinking, bitterness
8. Numbing with substances
9. Irritability
10. Attraction to troubled people
11. Unfulfilling romantic life
12. Abusing our own sexuality
13. Fantasy
14. Total avoidance of people
15. Debt
16. Repeating traumatic patterns
You're welcome!

[dreamsofturtles]

For me, watching TV is a way of disassociating. Been using it since childhood as a means to block out feelings in both mind & body.

[jamespollyzzz]

I think the worst part is how it effects your relationships with people, isolating yourself from friends and such.

[mrmann]

0:58 b/w thinking
1:29 self neglect
1:51 food abuse
2:09 media overconsumption
2:27 dishonesty
2:42 too much work problems
3:11 blame
3:32 substance abuse
3:40 irritability
3:55 attracted to other traumatised people (me?)
4:22 avoiding romance (me? Possibly? I'm not sure)
4:36 sexually over expressive
4:53 fantasy
5:20 avoiding people
4:32 financial carelessness
6:32 failing to see trouble and repeating the same traumatising behaviour

A lot of these are things I noticed about myself and have worked on improving in the last couple of years.

[phoenixd]

I get re traumatized every time when I am around my mother, I have to avoid even talking on the phone, I am learning to reparenting myself 💜🙏🏽thank you for you're videos 💜

[KensVideoSpot]

I would add "INABILITY/REFUSAL TO PLAN FOR THE FUTURE", which keeps us stuck in a very unfulfilling present. (P.S. I EASILY had 14 of the 16 ... or 15, if we include my new suggestion.)

[melcliff-maleckar]

Today I finally called out my trauma for what it is. Not PTSD, not CPTSD - I have Childhood Post Traumatic Stress Disorder which has blasted my life to hell. Through sheer will ( which is my only legacy of my mother ) I am 'clear of the world' at 60. No debt, own home, savings in retirement and a damaged but loving husband. Now in retirement I can try to heal.

[Jonistired]

28 years of 12 step work and 20 years of therapy and I’ve never seen a list of everything I’ve done to myself laid out so concisely. I think that might be because it took years of therapy to admit that I’d been abused. I was ashamed of myself just for being alive. I insisted that the abuse was punishment because I thought I was a rotten kid. The only pattern I could see in my behavior was regularly shrugging and saying, “Sorry. I guess I’m just a jerk.”
I’ve watched a few of your videos but this one really got my attention.

[Lola-AreaCode]

It's sometimes mentioned that a person with CPTSD or CEN will retraumatise by being attracted to toxic partners, (I'm that way) but one thing I noticed they also often do is find wonderful partners who truly love them but after a short while, the one with CEN will demonise them to bits, push them away at all cost because they refuse to believe that someone can really find them worthy. They can't get over the feeling that there's something suspicious about it.
It's tragic beyond belief for both involved.

[deewoods]

Damn, when you poor even being depressed and disfuctional, is too expensive

[BeeGeeTee]

I experienced every single one of these. I'm amazed and proud of myself for fighting my way out of all of this. This is so wild...

[MJ-mysg]

I'm a Senior. Have tried for years to change my thoughts and find help. Therapists are.not educated in this field. I just gave up n avoid social contact. Lonely but prevents severe triggers.

[Jane-mbjj]

I’m up at 5 am from gaming about to eat an entire kraft Mac and cheese box. I put the Mac and cheese in the fridge and I’m going to make a dental and doctors appointment tomorrow. Thank you 💕
Edit: also, two weeks sober!

Edit 2: I wrote this comment a year ago and since then... We are not re-traumatizing ourselves... The title should be "Your symptoms from what happened to you are retraumatizing you!" It took me longer than it should to unsubscribe from this channel. The shame-based/ victim blaming approach really fuels my inner critic and a lot of misinformation has been spread here. I mean, I don't know what I expected, Anna is upfront about her lack of educational and professional background on the topic.

Giving myself patience and understanding has been transformative. Blaming myself and using the inner critic to try and change all these symptoms was a big mistake, derailed my life for awhile.

[ArtistProtagonist]

Can you please elaborate on fantasy and maladaptive daydreaming? It was a huge coping mechanism as a child. But it's completely taken over now. I've never truly opened up about how much its taken over because frankly it's embarrassing. I don't need to lose my credibility further.
Im pretty sure fantasy is one of the root causes of my dysfunction.
But without it I become very depressed.
I live in my fantasies and entertainment fuels it, gives it new textures and branches. Not just entertainment, anything new. I'm easily stimulated.

[nathaliedufour]

I am 56 and have all the symptoms you have cited and it is an ongoing daily struggle to keep myself in check. I even chose the wrong therapist who hurt me and made me sink further down into despair. I am now a recluse. Surriving thanks to the love of my ex husband and our children. Thank you very much, i just found you :)

[ginap]

Wow...the dissociative behaviors. I have been escaping into books since I was a child, and recognized how much I love to read, but didn’t make the connection that it was a life-saving coping mechanism until adulthood. When you’re a child, you can’t truly escape physically, but I could retreat into my books and my mother could not invade. However, she did do things like say, ‘get your nose out of that book.’ She could not tolerate even that much perceived exclusion or ‘rejection.’ I hung onto this safety net like a life preserver and did not let her take it away. I have done the same with TV my whole life, too. Period drama is my drug.

[melindak.]

I WAS THE QUEEN OF SELF DEFEATING BEHAVIOR!

I’M GETTING BETTER BUT
IT’S A JOURNEY

[salveregina]

I am pregnant and I am a bit scared of raising a kid because I am still in the healing process.But I have hope that things will get better and I would try my hardest to give my kid the best life.

[kerplunk]

I can tell Im healing because I can now spot troubled and bad for me people a mile away. Which has shown me just how many screwed up people are out there.