Most Infidelity Happens Because of This

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[MorgueInTheVoid]

Yeah I can see that. Because in a long term relationship, that other person knows you and all your flaws which you hate. You look at your partner and remember all your mistakes. With a new person, they don't see all that. You're a blank page to them and you crave that because that's easier than taking accountability and facing your demons to make it right with your current partner... sad..

[danielleacosta]

Thank you for saying this. My husband blames me for all his problems. He has ZERO accountability.

[davidfriesen]

HE WHO LOVES HIS WIFE LOVES HIMSELF. THATS A DIRECT QUOTE FROM THE KING JAMES BIBLE

[beak]

“And I’m blaming you.”.. yep that’s pretty much it. ❤

[Musicismylove]

That's absolute right. So many people have problems because of lack of self-love, which gets passed down from one generation to the next.

[gia]

Thank You. I needed to hear this. His mama told me his behavior had absolutely nothing to do with me.

[jeanettepelletier]

He’s right the cheater seeks instant gratification outside of the relationship because they can’t do it for themselves.. don’t blame yourself it’s not about you. I think 🤔 this needs to be talked about more because so many blame themselves. Don’t stay in a relationship with people like this they’ll constantly hurt you ..😞🙏☮️💯

[aprilwolcott]

OH MY WORD…THANK YOU for saying this!!! I remember having a conversation asking why he didn’t want to be married…he said, “I just don’t want to be married to you!” …. Sliced my heart apart ….

[erikasmith]

Sounds like my recent ex. He gas lit me for years and blamed me for his abuse and his infidelity with a female co-worker.
He told me I made him do it cause I'm useless and I'm the stupidest person he's ever met. He blamed me for everything and is now smearing me to everyone to make himself look like the victim.
He did it with his first wife, ex's and now he's done it to me. And he moved me out just to move this new girl in, and I'm living in my car cause my family is gone. So I'm here on my own. But, I know I'm in peace because I was always on edge around him. Just hurts cause I did what I could to show my love for him, but it was never good enough.😕

[phyllis]

A man telling the truth! I'll have to get used to you., John. This makes such sense!

[neesaljohnson]

This is such an important truth of how folks distract themselves from the inside job of addressing the INNER SOURCE of self worth, confidence and self respect

[peggyrahija]

Thank you, i never hear this before, ive had both my husbands cheat on me, so now im afraid to even look for another relationship because i am afraid of my choices, ive chosen wrong twice now i dont trust myself,

[NYNanaASMR]

Wow, never heard or realized that! Explains a lot—except for the narcissist or bully.

[laurelw]

You hit the nail on the head with so much wisdom. Thank you!

[ST-rjiu]

Since it is not your problem, your partner's problem, it is not for you to solve. Leave.

[rosebud]

That’s not what the internet commenters usually say. Usually it’s “my wife is no longer a supermodel after 5 kids so what did you expect I would do??”

[Rae]

No. Selfish. No principles. Lack of character.

[charlottechristian]

Yep. I wholeheartedly agree with this. Especially the blaming their partner part. It's a weak flaw and they should leave before they hurt someone like this.

[shireenhendricks]

Brilliant 🎉🎉🎉🎉😢It's about them ....I never blamed myself when he slept with the found myself and love where I'm at in my life.🎉

[StrongHorseTrailBreakers]

Well, that brought me so much clarity! I was in a narcissistic marriage for 33 years. All along, he was always doing things that were counter to a healthy marriage. I never understood what it was that caused him to be pulled in such directions. Eventually, he made it impossible for us to have a moment of peace together and then he left. But I had seen so much in his behavior that I could tell he was truly hating himself.
And now I understand completely. He had to leave me because he hated himself. That is an epiphany.