How I Overcame Being the Angry Black Woman

This video is a request from Virginia College in Birmingham, AL.

In this video, I discuss pointers on how to overcome the anger that's affecting different areas of our lives.

Dee Edwards is the Master Business Coach and the Author to 10 Mistakes Startup Businesses Make & How you and Avoid Them.

[kaylaacton]

I know a lot of people can relate to your video, thank you for sharing! You have such great energy and it shows how positive you are now and how happy you are. Controlling your anger is hard, I am tested by people every day in my job, but overcoming the anger is the best part. Thanks for sharing! -Kayla Acton

[charismafranklin]

Okay first I want to say Yessss honey on this video! I can think of several people I know personally that really need to hear this message. I can honestly say that I used to have a problem with anger as well and like yourself it began with hurt from those I put trust into. It took me to look at myself and constantly remind myself that I can't be angry at everyone else for allowing myself to be hurt and naive. Over the years I let a lot of things go and made a vow to always put me first and not let people take my kindness for weakness again. I also found someone that made me check myself and see that the reason for my downward spiral was understandable but that I shouldn't let it define me as a person. I definitely take A LOT of woosa moments and try to give advice to those around me that I see also struggle with anger and I have come to realize a lot of times the best way to get rid of that anger is to distance yourself from those that can trigger it. I am so much happier than I was a few years ago and it's only getting better. Thank you again for sharing your experiences and you are definitely not alone.

[kimalmanza]

I agree with taking our anger out on our family I am guilty of that. We use our family and friends sometimes as outlet for our anger when what we have going on really has nothing to do with them

[stephinetyler]

I have a lot of anger in me. my only thing is the things that have angered me I cant control or fix them. I cant even talk to one of the people that has caused a lot of my anger. I just deal with it and go on. I do try to ignore a lot of my anger and try and think about better things that help me focus on the good things. I like the video it helped me rethink some of the things going on in my life. I appreciate that you were honest in your video and spoke out about where your anger came from. Not gonna lie and say  I didn't tear up cause I did. I hope the best for you in all you are trying to do and I hope that one day soon I can face my anger issues. Thank you again for sharing your story

[BiggMoney]

I really needed to hear this message. I know I have a lot of anger in me. I don't take it out on my family and friends, but it is extremely hard for me to open up to anyone.

[SKAkidz]

I can definitely relate to this video. I get angry too easily at times, and I get frustrated. I take it out on people I care about most, especially my fiance. Once I cool down, I feel silly that I get so upset about something that really is not a that big of a deal or that works itself out later on. I have been trying to manage my stress and anger because they often come together. I have to remind myself that I am very lucky, I have a job, I am working towards a good career and getting education, I have a roof over my head, I have a car, and I am able to eat whenever I am hungry. I can't let the little things get to me.

[carlinwynn]

I can definitely relate to this video. Because I get angry about different things

[jarquiseedwards]

i can also relate i have a hard time dealing with my anger issues i was hurt by a family friend someone who i never thought would hurt me and being hurt by someone who i thought was protecting me but one thing i understand was that i had to forgive him not because i felt bad but because of my own personal growth and health but every time i cry im reliving stress and heartache that's how i solve my anger i hide n cry or i smile through the pain.

[octaviouscampbell]

I can honestly say that I am experiencing  something like this myself using different things as a defense tool has always worked but after seeing this I need to forgive that person. I need own up to the fact that it happened and I may NEVER get the apology that's needed but in order for me to move on in peace in my life its what I need to do. This video was very touching and helpful I will most definitely share this.

[iliacowan]

Thank you so much for sharing your story! I was also a very angry person and it took something pretty nasty to wake me up to the kind of control I was allowing people to have over me. People that did not care that they were hurting me. Anger turns into poison. I learned from my own experiences that the act of forgiving people is something you do for yourself it's not something you do for them. You don't need a person to seek your forgiveness to forgive them. Again, thank you for sharing!

[keyunnaglover]

I can most definitely relate to this video i experienced this same problem except i told my parent and nothing was done about it i get very angry at times and it can get out of control at times it damaged me..!!

[jbester]

I can relate to this message on so many notes.I have moved on with my life and my past obstacles come back on a negative accord to the point.She's correct the people that you love dearly will cause so much pain in your life.I've corrected my past so me and my family can have a better future.

[calebwynn]

I can relate with anger issues and being hurt by trusting someone who i thought was protecting me, but one thing i understood was you have to forgive others not because it is right but because it makes you feel better to know that you have the ability to move forward and sometimes your blessings are been set back because of your anger. We do not know the hour nor time of our emotions but we change our mindset. Always and continue to start your morning with a short prayer and you will be surprised how things workout .

[ambertyler]

I love this video so much! I relate to it so much. I get so frustrated so easily over some of the stupidest and smallest things. I end up taking it out on my husband cause he is the closest to me. I have to walk away and go outside to calm down and rethink the situation and think about how good I have it. I have a job I can go to everyday, a house, car, and family I can go home to everyday. I hate that I get so upset over some of the smallest things like my husband not cleaning something right or not doing something the way my mom taught me to do and something I had to do daily. I have to walk away and get myself together. I love this video and wanna say thank you for sharing! Very inspiring!

[daniellejackson]

Sometime tragedy influence our lives in a negative way. It is up to us the pray to find a way to move on in a positive way. Hurt people hurt other people, you become bitter and no one wants to interact with you. Being angry and aggressive all the time is unattractive and you might end up in prison. Nobody can control life we just live with the punches thrown but you can create a better future.

[janicadudley]

First of all, thank you so much for doing this! I truly appreciate it. But, you did a great job on this topic, anger management. I couldn't have said it better myself. I, too, have a similar story, so I understand and get what you're speaking about concerning managing anger. As an educator/counselor, I constantly find myself talking about topics such as this; therefore, I know your video will bless many students....many people.

I'm so happy that you spoke how managing your anger is a daily decision, as well as a process! I've recently told people the exact same thing. We have to constantly decide to manager our feelings and emotions as different situations daily approach us. I just had a relapse a week or two ago, I really wanted to tell someone off because I had enough! I had to realize he/she touched on one of my triggers! At the end of the day, it wasn't worth it. I left it in the hands of God.

I'm also ecstatic that you acknowledged that we all hurt people, intentionally or not. People tend to say I "make excuses" for people because I, too, say this, but it's the truth because we're human and flawed. When you truly know the heart of the people in your circle, you know if they intentionally hurt you or not.

We all must learn how to manage emotions for ourselves! Our inner peace & freedom depends upon it! I concur with everything you said. Congratulations on another job well done. Keep allowing God to use you! Much Love. Thanks, again.

[asenathedison]

As a counselor I share the same advice with students to help them manage emotions that come from hurts, habits and hang-ups. I hope this really blesses Virginia College students.

[emilynm]

Thank you for sharing your story with us. Everyone could use some anger management in their lives. At least once in everyone's life they are angry. You just have to find things to get you through it. People who don't care for you just hurt you more. Thanks again for doing this for us!

[jjssquadchannel]

I use to allow my anger to deter me from where I was going. I allowed others to control my emotions and feelings

[red]

It was very helpful and showed ways to overcome anger.