Ways And How An Ex Tests You After Breakup

The reasons why an ex might test you after a breakup can vary, and the meaning behind their behavior will depend on their specific motivations. Here are a few possible meanings behind an ex testing you after a breakup:

1. They want to see if there's still a chance to reconcile: If your ex is testing you after a breakup, it could be because they're hoping to rekindle the relationship. They might be looking for signs that you're still interested in them or that you're open to the idea of getting back together.

2. They're trying to ease their own guilt or anxiety: Sometimes, an ex might test you after a breakup because they're feeling guilty about the way things ended, or they're anxious about how you're doing without them. They might ask you questions or try to initiate contact as a way of easing their own discomfort.

3. They're trying to manipulate you: In some cases, an ex might test you after a breakup because they're trying to manipulate you. They might be looking for ways to control your emotions or behavior, or they might be trying to make you jealous or insecure.

4. They're trying to stay connected: After a breakup, it's common to feel a sense of loss or loneliness, and an ex might test you as a way of staying connected to you. They might be looking for ways to maintain a relationship with you, even if it's just a friendship.

In general, if your ex is testing you after a breakup, it's important to take their behavior with a grain of salt and to trust your own instincts about what's best for you. If you're uncomfortable with their tests or you feel like they're not respecting your boundaries, it's okay to communicate your needs and set limits on your interactions with them.

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[BoiledOctopus]

5. Acting like nothing has changed. This is the EXACT thing that is happening with me at the moment. Broke up with me, we had an AMAZING relationship (her words), and she keeps texting, saying 'she's cracked' after only a few days. I'm responding in a timely fashion, but giving her nothing. Taking back control, irrespective of whether she decides to come back or not.

Acceptance of the break up is crucial and that understanding that your ex will never want to come back to you. Go from there.

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Coach Lee you nailed it! I was tested. He took me around and around, before giving up and the final discard. Mine asked for Friendship and I said No.