Why a Narcissist's Triangulation is So Triggering to Us All (And How to Get Past It)

If you've been a target of triangulation, you know how damaging it can be.
We so often fall into this trap at the hands of a narcissist, but many emotional abusers use triangulation to keep their victims playing "the game."
In this video, we explore how to get out of this trap and stop it from coming up again in our lives. Lessons will repeat until we learn them, so let's dig into this one.
There's no turning back from here! Only positive vibes ahead...

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*In this video, I share the tips, techniques and insights that have worked for me in my own journey of healing after narcissistic abuse along with expert tips and tools I've learned through years of coaching narcissistic abuse survivors. I am not a therapist and this video is not meant to provide therapy of any form. #narcissist #covertnarcissist

[ginafarley]

The intent when they praise the third party to you is to hurt you. Feel the hurt, but never get mad at the third party. They’re trying to make you feel bad about yourself and be jealous of the third party. Don’t fall for it!

[suzannemaroney]

Yes, I’ve heard that we are attracted to abuse because we are wanting to get the love from the initial abuser that we never got, like our parents especially. We’re trying to rewrite our history so we feel worthy of love we didn’t get.💔

[christinejackson]

I'm going thru this right now. I'm sick to my stomach, cant sleep or eat.

[El-vilg]

Be in control.See it as a form of provocation.Keep in control.

[lisamichelle]

Hi Christina, my Ex Narc used to to triangulate me with other women on Social Media.. at first I was wondering why he was obviously trying to make me jealous .. now I know exactly why he was doing it. But I’m out of there and it’s game over for him now. By the way you’re really so lovely, keep up the great work 😊👍🏻

[JB-swdb]

When I started watching videos about narcissistic relationships, I was skeptical at first. Watching these videos it’s like having the other teams playbook. Virtually everything that has been said would happen has happened. Stay strong, my friends

[victoriac.attorneyatlaw]

Triangulation is how my FOO communicates. I went NC with the head narc 5 yrs ago before I even knew about this disorder! It feels so good to hear "you got out, you won!" what validation.. thanks

[drtilde]

i was triangulated with an old "friend" aka ex. there was a lot of lying involved. i felt exactly like you mentioned: like the third party's thoughts feelings and whole existence was Perfect and they could do no wrong. i was constantly compared (though funnily not directly, but specific enough to where i could figure out who i was being compared to). i used to compare myself to others a lot and was compared by my mother a lot as well. i was the perfect victim for this in my opinion. but now, if there's even a hint of a third party i'm out. i do not need to go through that again. i deserve to be respected and liked for who i am. if i'm not up to par or whatever then i'd rather be left alone 🙃

[JMoooovies]

Great video, Christina!
My ex triangulated me with her ex-husband, with friends, with any male that walked the planet. It took me waaaay too long to realize I was being set up for failure again and again. She was toying with me. Thanks for making the connection to childhood. I felt taken advantage of by my mother- and that I was never as important as other people who she wanted to complain about night and day. It was almost the reverse. She praised me to manipulate me in comparison to other people who let her down. It’s a sick game, but I’m happy to be learning the roots of my hurt. ❤

[flowerchild]

My ex, me and the new supply... Instinctively I fought very hard for the relationships. I'm out of the relationship now and I wasn't picked so I guess I won and I'm trying to get over this trauma Bonding thing now.

[LG-vhgs]

Triangulation may or may not involve another romantic partner, it may involve family, friends or someone they will give their attention to.

During the love bombing, they give you of their attention.

During the devaluation/triangulation they will give you crumbs to nothing of their attention and you will crave for the same attention they once gave you.

If you react, you’re the needy one and insecure and crazy.

These people are really evil and will crash your spirit and your sanity.

Stay the hell away.

[missminti]

Watching tv with him, he’d start fawning over certain actresses like he was in love with them. He’d also casually throw in anecdotes he’d extracted from conversations he’d had with mystery women. I think he was desperate to see me jealous. It was competitive, cruel and obviously a game. Another obvious sign was when he’d pretend not to hear me when I spoke directly to him, making me repeat myself and then pretending to be annoyed. He also lied about very strange things, like the color of his own eyes. Yes, this was extremely bizarre.

[naturopath]

I used to constantly say, when trying to explain how left out of his social life I felt, that I feel like I m the only kid in the playground that you don t want to play with.

[cassielindeberg]

I just found your channel yesterday and it is helping me so much. I’m at almost five months no contact, six months out of an emotionally abusive relationship with loads of triangulation. Thank you for all you do.

[Liz-tqoi]

Ex-boyfriend always talked about his ex-wife, how beautiful, accomplished, perfect she was. He would talk about how cool she was in public and embarrass me. I felt like I was in a low-key polygamist arrangement. It seemed almost calculated, like he said things worse than the reality just to push my buttons. It kept me up at night. It was exhausting. I think there is a "fear of abandonment" at play when we get triggered by this. Get out before you get in too deep. People don't change much.

[getrudemwaura]

There's really no need of staying in such kind of relationship 🙏
Thank You 🌹🌹🌹🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕

[chantalaletheyiaborel]

Rather sadistic, machiavellique game

[naturopath]

He also had his phone on speaker so I could hear him love bombing the new supply. It was so hurtful and he seemed to gloat about the whole thing. I threw him out.

[CommonEgo]

Sorry for the audio glitches. I didn't realize my external mic was off till the end. I think the message is still clear, though. Thanks for watching, and I look forward to connecting with you!

[Stretesky]

Don’t send the message that people who find themselves in abusive relations needed those relationships to learn about themselves or learn a lesson. The truth is abusers are manipulative and no one needs to learn about abuse in the form of being a victim of it.

As a society we must shut down abuse, not send the message that people attract abusers to learn a lesson. That’s toxic and harmful. No one needs abusers and they need to be shut down, and not be there to, “teach a lesson”.