Stop Being So Nice To Men ~ Here's Why

Stop Being So Nice With Men ~ Here's Why

There are women who are too kind to men which while noble, often it results in being used and I'm here to suggest a better way to approach men.

There's a saying, being nice is not telling someone how you really feel, and expressing one's truth is more important in the long run if one wants a healthy happy relationship.

In today's video, we are going to explore the DEEPER need to express oneself more fully in relationship.

Let's talk about... Stop Being So Nice With Men ~ Here's Why

[zanastrange]

I like your phrase “You can never say the wrong thing to the right person.”

[simmer]

When I started calling men out I found that I was able to avoid a lot of bad relationships. I once dated a guy for about a month when I had to tell him that they way he was speaking to me was not acceptable. He would yell, threaten to throw stuff, etc. He would comment on other women’s bodies while we walked in our city. He would get mad and explode. I told him 1 time that the behavior was unacceptable and he got pissed, so I walked. I feel like I avoided a potentially abusive relationship because I told him straight up to quit the fuckery.

[nunya]

If a man is pulling back he is not my man. Men go after what they want. If we have some conversation about why he’s pulling back, and we agree to keep trying, it just postpones the inevitable. We might stay together for a while but ultimately it won’t work.

[normajeanadams]

I was married for 40 years and
& never had a problem being too nice to him. That blunt honesty helped us get over many a hump! Now at 59 & dating again, I find 60 yr old men to be just as immature as they were in my teens. I have more of a problem calling out these older men I think because I expect them to be mature and civilized but sadly, that’s not always the case.

[terralynn]

What refreshing advice! Don’t lean back - be authentic and call him out in a polite, but honest manner. Love it!

[adrianeshands]

I had the WTF conversation three weeks ago. I let him know that if he can’t do right by me, we are done. Haven’t heard a peep from him. I love and respect myself, I don’t have time for games from a 60 yr old man.

[danz]

" you can never say the wrong thing to the right person". Love this, I mean stop wasting my time otherwise.

[smores]

I wholeheartedly agree with you. I realize I’ve been too nice and men lose their attraction for you very quickly. They want someone who stands firm in her beliefs, self-worth and value. I was put on the back burner and not prioritized for being too easy going. Lesson learned. Have boundaries and set standards. If you don’t ask, you’ll never get what you want. And if you don’t ask, you’ll never receive any answers.

[anadebeljak]

He is killing me with his “lean back” 😂😂😂😂😂

[dwillis]

I just called my guy out on his behaviour- I haven’t heard from him for one month. I’m done ✅

[withRealtorMia]

It’s so irritating when women let men walk over them / especially the older men

[gingerrosenhan]

Oh wow, I so needed to hear this. Your timing is impeccable. The 60 & 70 year old men I meet are brutal and take incredible advantage of my niceness. This all ends right now!! Thanks once again for the wake up call.

[ziggypip]

Omg, I LOVE THIS GUY!! I call men out on their shit, and it works for me. Just do it in a mature respectful way and not an immature or name-calling way. I see my friends act like a man’s bullshit is all okay, and they keep giving em bullshit. This is GREAT advice!

[darlawarmann]

Blunt and bold dont hold back, we need to hear the harsh truth.

[Prettybraidsofafrica]

Thank you so much for being a big brother. The best thing that can happen in a Queen's life is protecting herself from toxic relationship through standing up for herself and calling a spade by its name.

[nursewhitman]

This makes sense. We need to be "easy to lose". Call them out early in the relationship.

[Lil-Be]

Finally someone gave advice that makes sense! Yes, I am all for calling people on their s... instead of wasting time on wrong people. Thank you, Jonathan!

[cegiehd]

I actually did this. I started calling him out. He always said he wanted to make things work with me.

Then he discarded me.

[robincovington]

Believe me I love men. However, I’m so glad you are finally throwing some shade on their behavior or lack thereof!! Bravo

[LynnTarr]

I got sick and tired of other vids that say don’t call him, don’t do anything when he pulls away. Yea right, after he’s done using and dumbing you, you should just let him go and not tell him how selfish he was because you’re hoping he’ll come back?