How To Stop Being Too Nice

[berserks.]

I was raised by asian parents and they made sure that I become a people-pleaser and a nice guy. It is hard to stop having these two traits.

[Remember-Death]

Years ago, I had a woman say to me, "You don't have to be so nice to women, you're *NOT* ugly." That was the "wake up call" that led me down the path to behaving more like a Bad Boy, even tho I was raised to be a "nice guy."

[ptolerov]

I just got rejected about a day ago and this happened to me. She said "you're too nice." I think I tried too hard. Thank you for this video, this video really shows what I am.

[chrisscrow]

hi man, i’m here to give you some validation. i love your videos and i wish to you and your project all the best. you always delivered great points and informations so i’m really grateful to your work

[Aklyn]

The longer videos of Rob are the best 🤎

[steve]

quit worrying about being liked, focus on yourself and not what people think. Do what makes you happy and not what you think looks cool.

[sonnypattison]

Your video’s literally describe who I am it’s scary.
So grateful that I found your channel man

[imsparta]

Rob, one of my trades is I am nice guy please could do more videos on this topic so can stop this habit.

[olix-milan]

This video is gold!!Too nice = too desperate that's true

[jcronin]

I never tried too hard, the problem was I didn't try at all.
On one occasion I was talking to a woman who I asked out and she said that I lived a bit too far away from her. I replied: "that's ok, I hope you meet someone nice there" and proceeded with the conversation for a short while before leaving.
After I said that, her energy towards me totally changed and I knew she regretted what she said. Before I left she tried to claw me back by saying, "I'll call you"

I never bothered to pursue my interest, but what this man says is very accurate.

[jarvis_plays]

*Asian* parents tend to raise a people-pleasing child/children usually when they manage to instill fear that they think is equivalent to respect and "good behaviour" of a child.

The child is now "hard-wired* to please their parents. It's where it all starts.

I am like that child too, and now that I'm looking at this video makes me re-assess all these favors I did for insignificant people in exchange for their validation that I am indeed a good/nice boy/guy/person.

Actually, those were the things I hated the most. It gave me a hard time.

I just hope we don't repeat this unnecessary hardships to our children.