8 Hurtful Things Parents Tell Children

Do you have a good relationship with your parents? Do you think you might be raised by toxic parents? How you were raised is one of the biggest factors that determine who you are. Your parents and environment shape your personality, interests, and ideals much more than what most people realize. However, parents are human too. As much as you may idolize them and want to follow in their footsteps, they make mistakes as well. Whether you’re already a caregiver looking for phrases to avoid or a child seeking information, here are a few hurtful things parents tell children to help you become more aware!

Disclaimer: This video isn’t meant to diagnose, treat, or cure anyone. It is for informative purposes only, so if you or someone you know may be struggling, we urge you to seek professional help from a therapist or another trusted professional. If you can relate to any of these signs, please do not take this feedback as an attack on your character. This video was meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck.

Writer: Lily Mentriko
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[somebody]

“Talk to me about what’s wrong”
“I’m listening”

two sentences i have never heard in my entire life

[annathepotatowitch]

who else really wants to send this to their parents but are too scared because you know they’re going to counter it with some shit reason? Just me?

[Mushroom-Top]

Skills I learned from having a toxic/strict parent
- sneaking things without anyone noticing
- recognizing sounds like steps
- seeing through lies
- not making empty promises
- going through a day by barely eating

Thanks mom.

[AnnaMay-edmh]

My friend was asked seriously "why are you like this?" by her dad, for fathers day, she killed herself because what he said made her believe that he wanted her gone, and she really loved him, she just wanted what was best for him. She took her own life, for somebody she loved.

[imalittlemffrog]

“There are people who have it so much worse”
“You’re being selfish”
“Crying isn’t going to fix anything”

[mediocregamer]

"How are you depressed and unhappy? You're life is so good. I've given you everything you could want. You're just spoiled. You don't know what it's like in the real world. You've never actually suffered."

[Joanna-uheq]

“stop crying or I’ll give you a reason to cry.” Is a sentence that always makes me cry more.

[randomhuman]

“You’re a horrible example to your little brother” is one my dad has said countless times or “you’re too sensitive”

[constancelai]

Things I learn being in a strict family...
• Hiding emotions quickly
• Being able to recognise everyones footsteps
• Learning things by myself
• Good at keeping secrets

[mohamstaz]

"I had it worse growing up." Trauma isn't a contest, mom.

[lunarmcflurryonrecroom-bscl]

Stuff I’ve learned while with a toxic mother:

• The sound of her car coming into the garage
• The sound of her footsteps
• When she is mad but doesn’t show it so I know to stay away until she calms down
• The difference between play-fighting and secretly hurting me
• How to stay calm when publicly humiliated

I’m still fighting anxiety and depression while this is going on 💔💔

[Manic]

I’m 13 and depressed and my parents would be super angry at me for accidentally making a mess I try to clean it right away but when they see it they say “your a burden” or “why are you like this do you want to have a future!” And I’m still scared of those sentences and for the people that have depression you can talk to me about anything and I’ll do everything in my power to help you, and I’ll try to make you feel better

[JayV]

Parents: **Says hurtful things to their kids**
Also parents: Why doesnt my kids love me?

Its like saying "Im stabbed, why does it hurt?"

[joannaliu]

Grades and being successful in the future mattered more than my mental health, I want to be a better parent or a caretaker when I grow up.

[imnobody]

My parents acts like their good and nice parents only in front of others but u never know what happening inside the
You mentioned everything that my parents say to me time to time

[FredrickAddo-scfn]

my parents have said a lot of hurtful things to me but the one that hurt me the most was when my mom told she regretted giving birth to me. I really cried that day.Iwas only 13 when she said that.Then she said that two more times when I Was 15 I told her what she said hurt me she didn't care she was laughing and being proud of what she said.

[Sizzle]

“Thats the way I was raised, and I turned out fine.”

This hurts so much

[thorach]

The worst thing about our parents is that they neglect us everyday, but act surprised when something happens to us.

[twistedaddiction]

Honestly this video hurts a lot. I was forced to grow up very fast after I turned 11 and was molested by a close family friend three seperate times until he ran away. Also doing the same to a few of his nephews before leaving. Ever since then my innocence was shattered and most of these things except being told I was an accident weren't even seen as problems. Im 20 years old now, turning 21 soon. Yet I carry so much truama from my childhood. My Mom has gotten a lot better now that I'm an adult; but when I was 16 I fought her boyfriend several times after he put his hands on my Mom. Defending her from her abuser; and she took his side and let him back into the home. After a few more fights I moved out at 17, and returned a little over a year and a half later after winding up homeless for a few months of that. Thankfully he was gone, and that's when my Mom apologized for everything. But it hurts; so much to think back on half the shit I've done. I'm leaving out so much here; but I have been through the ring of abuse so much. These videos are hurting my soul because I can't help but watch them; and hate myself for just how commonly I can relate to things in them. I'm a broken person; and my fucking head hurts. All the time.