The best relationship advice no one ever told you - Jordan Peterson

Speaker: Jordan Peterson Thanks for watching!
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[beyond_words]

"bad cords in the melody of our conversations." That's some line there.

[cdbennett]

Wow. Just wow. I really think this is what holds me back in life.

[VE.creations]

As a person who grew up shy and timid and easily intimidated by others I can say this is powerful!

I’m 29 now and I work for a school district. Looking people in the eye let’s them know you are present

[SuwingMasunurin]

I'm actually thinking about this, on how I got to talk so normal and smooth with someone yesterday. I'm socially awkward. I guess it's because we're talking about something I'm interested in and I'm focused on what he's saying rather than myself.

[przemekpolanowski]

"Knowledge is not for free, You have to pay attention"
~dunno who

[derekomeara]

As someone with Autism - I don't like making extended eye contact.

It is because I read the emotions on the face of the person. Then I know if the person is lying or being truthful.

Easier to look away from the eyes, they are too much information..

[SanderBastiaans]

This is so true.
I feel much more comfortable in social settings when I focus my attention outward and remove my focus from rumination and worries.
Zen meditation helps me a lot to reach this state.
It helps me to be in the moment and surrender to my surroundings.

[thetaart]

Jordan Peterson adds so much nuance to basic concepts. Thank you.

[AJWindsor]

Attention is so powerful. I read situations way better now because I always look for what’s odd.

[isaackellogg]

One day a kid came into my work, asserting dominance with his eyes. I felt them pushing at me. So I looked him in the eyes and pushed back. He withdrew the pressure and went and sat down. I had defeated him without saying a word.
Serves him right, coming into my place of business like that. 🤨😎

[yvonnelee]

I just showed this to my 9 yr old who has autism. He is extremely bright. As is typical of people on the spectrum he has obsessive single minded interests. His interest pervades every single conversation he has with anyone. I constantly try to get him to understand how inappropriate that is as it alienates him from others. Not getting non verbal cues makes him awkward and his peers don’t tolerate him for very long which leaves him lonely often. Having the right words to help him understand how to go about paying attention to others when he’s talking to them is a game changer. Applied knowledge is power. One of the hallmark signs of autism is the inability to look at the person talking to them while they are talking. My son definitely one one who had that marker. Armed with that knowledge, I had him listen to Jordan explain this concept. I had him explain back to me his understanding of what Jordan said to be sure he got it. We did the exercise immediately. I watched the lightbulb go off in his head as he struggled to apply the counsel. He immediately realized he has to push his attention outward so that he can stay engaged with the person he was talking to to understand them. As he did so, he would repeat, “ Keep your attention outward “. He was for the first time able to control himself instead of looking down and around, fidgeting and swaying. It was a beautiful thing to see and and a piece of knowledge that I am sure that will change the trajectory of his life and ability to communicate forward. He has been in occupational and speech therapy since he’s turned 2 and didn’t talk until he was 3. This knowledge applied in this field would single-handedly change the lives of those struggling to keep their impulses from causing him to miss out on so much in life. It’s a blessing to understand this now but a shame that this isn’t understood in the mainstream knowledge of Autism in general much less the realm of education itself.

[Nussad]

I can’t describe how this video is valuable for me.
I’m watching it almost every day and it helps me while I feel « out » (i’m not native english, sorry if my words are not precise).

The message is so simple but yet so powerful.

Tank you MR Perterson and thank you for posting this content.

[unknowngirl]

I have started practicing eye contact with people because of this man

[wallacebankley]

Its true is music trying to make you emotional, is music a distraction, is music giving you better focus on words.can you learn from music instead of voice communication. LOVE YOU SIR

[anastaziak]

When I was growing up my FATHER ALWAYS told me
"LOOK AT ME IN MY EYES WHEN I'M SPEAKING TO YOU"

And to this day I ALWAYS look into the person's eyes! I have been told a few times by the opposite sex that I have an intense stare when im listening to what their saying my come back is "well my father brought me up to look into his eyes when his speaking" 😆😂😂

Their response no its Good !
Also when I do look into people's eyes they tend to look away they DONT look back they wonder the person feels intimated ! But now it's been BUILD INTO ME and now if the person doesn't look me in the eyes while I'm speaking I expect the SAME level of ATTENTION and 2 things happen
1.Their intimated
2. They are dismissive
3. They have never experienced someone giving them FULL ATTENTION because it iS as if your looking into someone's soul so it can be intimating!

[karimraimbekov]

Finally someone making connection between the Gods and human energies. Attention is everything, it is the tip of mind. Path to enlightment.

[FORVR_]

I struggle to put how I feel or see into words, but, thank God for Jordan Peterson

[verna]

Awesome Dr. Peterson. You are my hero. I have been following you for years. I learn from you every time. Thank you

[marshey]

I learned this lesson after some traumatic experiences. My self worth has increased so much since then

[Ana-rbws]

Basically, face your fears. Don’t run away from them. Address the issues in your life. Don’t avoid or ignore them.