How to know if your relationship is worth saving. #estherperel #relationship #therapy

How to know if your relationship is worth saving. #podcast #relationship #therapy

[joannalevesque]

An elegant and heartbreakingly accurate way of saying “you’re fucked either way.”

[fragipani]

You won't leave until the pain of staying becomes greater than the pain of leaving

[alanafrogley]

Reminds me of 'The Bell Jar' by Sylvia Plath:

"I saw my life branching out before me like the green fig tree in the story. From the tip of every branch, like a fat purple fig, a wonderful future beckoned and winked. One fig was a husband and a happy home and children, and another fig was a famous poet and another fig was a brilliant professor...

I saw myself sitting in the crotch of this fig tree, starving to death, just because I couldn't make up my mind which of the figs I would choose. I wanted each and every one of them, but choosing one meant losing all the rest..."

There is duality in every choice we make: love/loss, relief/grief, joy/sadness. Both/and. One of the most beautiful and painful parts about being human is the finite nature of our lives ❤

Everyone deserves to live with the freedom to choose their own path.

[Crow-xqny]

Be quiet...be still... breathe... then follow the guidance of your soul...it knows what to do ❤

[elianeineza]

She articulated it so beautifully and truthfully

[virtue]

If they bring you peace, that's all you need to save a relationship. Simple as that.

[bavi_harsha]

The moment you realize that the pain of staying is gonna be bigger than the pain of leaving that's exactly the moment you end the relationship

[lvglec]

You have to experience ‘loss’ to some degree no matter what outcome you choose. ❤

[claudiawilliams-BEYOU]

Separating from my husband after 25 years has been the most painful experience ever .

My first everything.

Yet sometimes you reach a point of maturity that love just doesn’t seem enough

When you desire to be real about the way you want to live

Compatiblity is so important

Without it

One cannot live authentically ❤

[avrillee]

Stay to lose part of yourself, leave to lose the other person!

[PandolfoCarla]

lol normally we hold up until it takes your health down maybe you start binge eating, skin picking… depression and then you’ll know what is the root and how to end them. It’s almost like having a tumor removed. And once you end it is only blessings since you recover your health and there’s no more wondering 🙌

[Jessica_PMHNP]

Also remember, that hard times happen in every relationship, let some time pass before you just leave, unless you or someone is in danger. Give yourself time to heal before you make a decision…let God guide you!💖🙌🙏

[rhondanerren]

Well said! I left and have learned I was truly dying. I am a new person now with energy, vitality, and excitement for life. ❤

[emey]

You grieve, but it doesn't take long... specially for people that are secure and know that they gave thier best and tried it all

[barbaramuller]

Now I know, why many months after leaving my boyfriend I still miss parts of him while at the same time I realize that this relationship was toxic and not good for me at all. Man, that is a great explanation! Thank you 👏👏

[JoseEduardo-]

I’m having trouble seeing what the loss is in staying and it ending up being a beautiful relationship. I think a third option is you go and if it’s meant to be it will come back. Don’t stay or go, just be. The universe will guide you

[sheberry]

This very thought process helped me cut my ex completely off. I knew it would be greater regret to stay then leave.

[amsthenotorious]

I absolutely adore her voice, the way her bright beautiful eyes cosmically sparkle full of wisdom and knowledge..

[esterriesparabe]

To stay makes healing much more difficult and takes longer than leaving. It is very brave of someone to stay because it is much more challenging...

[Wewillbeokay]

Yes!!! I’m not crazy for being double minded. Thank you.