The best relationship advice no one ever told you

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Hey there, I’m Clark Kegley, a pro drummer turned self-improvement advocate. Here on YouTube, I provide guidance to help you transform into your 2.0 version.

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[jonathanhinson]

I loved this. "Instead of trying to find the right person, become the right person"

[oliviaharris]

“Stop trying to LOOK like the 10, and focus on BECOMING the 10.”
THAT. IS. SO. GOOD.
THANK YOU.

[brandonf]

As my father in law once said, "Live your own life, and look next to you, and you might just find someone going the same path as you, and that's a good start." I think this is the best way to find a "compatible" mate. Honestly you don't have to be compatible, to love, because you can love anyone, but it may be work. So to find someone along the same path, makes it much easier.

[NickNotas]

Attraction alone is not enough. Just because you _feel_ good with someone, doesn't mean you can build a healthy long-term relationship. You need to align on values, respect one another, and have good communication. Well said Clark.

[socialguarantee]

"You don't attract what you want, you attract what you are". Amazing quote.

[drbones]

Been married 35 years now and the number one thing that ALL relationships MUST have before love and friendship, for a lasting relationship is "RESPECT". If you do not have respect for each other then love and friendship will not carry you.

[privateequityguy]

*"If people are doubting how far you can go, go so far that you can't hear them..."* If you are reading this, I hope you have an amazing day!

[FenyaFirewolf]

The most important thing in any relationship is good communication.

[rickmoco]

“Stop looking for the right person and become the right person” Love this 💪🏿

[knickandknac]

"you don't manifest what you want you manifest who you are" YES.

[seekingpersonalgrowth]

One of the most TOXIC beliefs around relationships is that there is one right person for everyone. I've been married for 21 years (8/19). Love is WORK. It might be rainbows and unicorns for the first 6 months, but eventually, as you mentioned, those immediate feelings fade. My husband and I married when I was 19 and he was 18. When people are in a marriage, they can grow together or they can grow apart. Either way they are growing. Love is definitely a choice in a lot of ways. Now, of course if your spouse is abusive or dismissive, then working on the relationship may not be worth it and might be futile. However, if we aren't working on our relationship by loving each other every day and making that person feel loved, what are we doing? It's definitely a two-way-street, but over the years, one of us definitely has more energy to give at times than the other. We hold each other up and help each other be our best selves. We've been through a lot and there's no one I'd rather spend my life with than my husband.

[chelseamoneill]

Most people looking for “the right person” forgets to think that the other person has needs and dreams of their own.

[ADHDDoc]

I never played any relationship games. I was my authentic self from day one, and I share everything. I knew I was going to marry my wife after our first date, and I told her on our second date. She thought I was nuts, but we've been married for 17 years.

[chris.bussing]

“10’s attract 10’s - Not just looks wise but energetically, lifestyle wise, communication wise, value wise, job wise, social circle wise - you don’t attract who you want you attract who you are”

[Abhishek-vzud]

When issues develop in a relationship, many people consider leaving. But I've learned that it's critical to talk about and work on relationships on a daily basis.
Especially if you really love the person, but I get it sometimes it’s hard. So, for those times we use lovify’s couple games, to share our expectations.
We are now trying to open up about topics we previously avoided ❤

[missstorme]

Best relationship advise I ever got was, "Don't look for the right person, become the right person for YOURSELF and the right person will be drawn to you"

[misslayer]

Being "in love" isn't Love, it's infatuation. Notice it happens before people actually get a chance to truly know each other. And you can't love somebody without knowing them. Loving someone for real is a choice you make everyday. Infatuation while often a precursor for the real thing, is also a precursor for the very opposite

[Prettythinker]

Thankyou for saying "you dont attract things you want, you attract things you are" cause that taught me alot. I understood more. Thankyou! And also "stop looking for the right person, start becoming thr right person" have a good day yall!:)

[inhobiswinecellar]

“Start becoming the right person” literally 7 mos after I started working out I felt way more open and at ease. Thinking abt relationships didn’t fill me with as much anxiety. Had a lot of firsts from then. I’m 19 and still figuring stuff out but I’ll forever live by this rule. :)

[ElseyandEssie]

This is so true!
I’ve been in love with my fiancé for 12 years..
he feels like home to me. He’s my safe space and my person.
He drives me mad.. a lot. We bicker.. a lot! But we also resolve our problems, laugh & truly WANT to be together.

We have brought 4 children into this world and got through really horrible and hard moments within our relationship.
Love absolutely is a choice.. and I choose him every single day, in every reality, in every lifetime.