Personality Disorders & Relationship Strategies

In this MedCircle Live session, personality disorder expert Dr. Ramani Durvasula and MedCircle host Kyle Kittleson walk through the most effective relationship tools for each personality disorder. Plus, they answer more questions on personality disorders from the audience.

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[MedCircle]

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[lilstinkers]

I think I grew up with 2 Narcissistic parents. I've never been able to find a regular therapy I can afford, so your videos are like a God send to me. Thank you for sharing this knowledge for free.

[shanaadams]

This is so helpful! Speaking as a member of the black community, we don't usually seek mental health counseling or resources. In the South, it's about "praying". You can't pray mental illness away or push it under the rug. It's important to bring it to the forefront and talk about it. I know several people personally who definitely have some undiagnosed issues going on.

[homefryniles]

Dr. Ramani's empathy for people with borderline personality is VASTLY UNCOMMON among therapists---doctors, psychologists. Her attitude is the attitude and understanding that borderlines should find when they seek therapy. But unfortunately it's not common. Take note, hers is the right view.

If you have to try a dozen therapists until you find one who gets you, keep trying.

Borderlines don't fail treatment.
Treatment fails borderlines.

[LiveFaustDieJung]

The thing with being “too sensitive” is that everyone has a breaking point and it may happen over a petty situation. It’s not about the petty situation. It’s a build up of bottled emotions.

[naiyalexic]

This is how the Internet is meant to be used: to help others. Thank you for your series, and thank you Dr. Ramani, for your endless dedication to helping others. Thank you so much.

[jojobee]

The loved ones of Borderlines.. it's so easy to tell them to be patient and understanding and "remember they are hurting"... These same loved ones are on the *receiving end* for decades, they have to suck up all the verbal outbursts and madness the BPD does. You can be the 'bigger person' only for *so* long. The BPD doesn't change. Their hurtful words are still *just as hurtful* as if anyone else had said them. You come to a point where you realize that as adults, there must be *consequences* for bad words and actions - *even if* a BDP had said or done those things! It's the *right* of the loved ones to start building BOUNDARIES, and say "ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!". The decades at the front row seats to watch this roller-coaster ride, the constant worrying and trying to support is beyond draining... And the only 'thank you' you'll ever get is just another outburst sooner than later, the verbal abuse or other trickery.
With the worst BPD has no problem taking everything they want from you, to manipulative a person after person, to play constant games, all the pathological lying - with zero regard to anyone else's feelings.. Yet we, the loved ones, should be patient and understanding.
Sorry, but I'm *done* with this "remember THEY are hurting" and letting things slide. I'm putting my foot down and saying "NO MORE". I will treat you based on your *words and actions* ~ BPD or not! Loved ones suffer the most because we're stuck in that *world of madness and toxicity* with zero power over anything, just having to be at the receiving end year after year! The loved ones suffer in silence, with no help or support.

[suepeasebanitt]

“You’re pain isn’t shameful. It’s beautiful. It’s part of who you are.” Thank you Dr Ramani from one psychotherapist to another. This is the content missing from the world’s conversations. So grateful for you. 🙏🙏🙏

[joanofarcxxi]

Living with someone with a personality disorder is like walking on a mine field every day. You have to be really strong and thick skinned, patient, and long suffering to endure it successfully without becoming emotionally disregulated yourself.

[dk]

I am so grateful to be able to have access to such amazing information, at no cost! I do not take it for granted 🙏 thanks MedCircle! Thanks, Dr.Ramani 💎

[doreenplischke]

I have never heard a professional being able to successfully understand who someone w/BPD feels/thinks/behaves…( of course dependent entirely on each individual)…but the way you describe who we over empathize, then at other times aren’t able to empathize ourselves…dear Loardie lord. Soo so true. Thank you Dr. Ramani, for spreading the word/info/education to us and others. 🙏🏻

[samco]

The way you just explained BPD hit me so hard. I always felt I was BPD but could never relate to the lack of empathy, because I've always had too much empathy for others to a detriment to myself, and then also beat myself up when I couldn't be there for someone when I was in so much pain - and this is exactly what you just explained.

[nik]

You two are my favorite duo. Please keep the uploads coming!!

[purpleturtle]

I'd like to hear a discussion about the emotional, mental and physical toll that dealing with a family member/members with a personality disorder takes on the person in that relationship who inevitably becomes the target of abuse.

[KatieLesnick]

You are saving lives. Thank you - Misunderstood BPD here.

[priancavail]

Learning how to handle Mental Health in relationships is so very important!! Sometimes we cannot survive and live with someone that has a personality disorder! We’ll get sick!!

[Aldedandra]

I currently struggle with NPD. It has taken many years of psycho therapy, EMDR, CBT and NeuroFeedback therapy to actually accept it and strive to change. But most of all, EMDR has helped me to understand where it came from. Mine originated from childhood trauma and at first (and for a long time) I was blaming it on my parents and everyone else. Once I owned and accepted my behavior and NPD, I have been able to focus on processing those memories and work on my NPD. I still struggle with it. And gaslighting is hard for me to NOT do. But I can admit that I do it and I hate it. If anyone sees this and has tips on how to stop yourself from gaslighting, PLEASE provide me some insight. And thanks Dr. Ramani for all your insights. Your videos have played a part in helping with my narcissism.

[PancakeX]

A shoutout to Dr. Ramani! Great job with the internet, webcam, and headset quality. And thank you for never holding back on sharing your wisdom and feelings to help everyone!

[vickysviews]

As someone with BPD and constantly learning and educating myself and people around me with my channel and life, discovering such content is always so enlightening and helps me to better interact with people in my life and listening to Dr Ramani she really gets it 👌... Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

[christinehaigh]

When an abuser constantly keeps attacking you, they can give you a complex and makes me react to his abuse, forever trauma bonding.