How to Make Good Eye Contact

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[markstar]

i either stare at their soul or look at the nice floor

[justanotherhappyhumanist]

I definitely do the first one. I really need to work on this.

[supermichaelssecondchannel]

7 to 10 seconds seems extreme, how about 5-7 seconds?

[allsimsfair]

One thing I learned if you’re not comfortable doing eye contact, Just stare on the person’s forehead

[SurelyGaming]

I work at at a restaurant as a cashier, and I struggle so much looking people in the eyes for longer than 1 second. The weird thing is I used to not struggle with it at all.

[spsp]

Thanks for sharing this simple great advice!

[camellia]

Interesting to understand more about optimal eye contact. As an autistic person I can force myself to make eye contact for the comfort and benefit of the non autistic person I am speaking with but find doing so is very uncomfortable for myself even to the extent it affects my ability to fully take in what they say.

[chipotlegal]

This handsome guy at the cinema was working his eyecontact with me oh my gosh I literally stuttered and was acting like a clumsy girl, hopefully this helps😭 because yikes

[rigtymord]

Instructions unclear, got 3 restraining orders.


5 stars would try again

[celestelyfe]

Thank you! I do number 1 and 2. After having some traumatic experiences I've forgotten how to make comfortable eye contact, this is just what I needed. 💜

[cherylecooper]

This is awesome advice, Alex -- with great points! I love that whole idea about connection and comfort. Very well stated! I think for me, if I don't feel comfortable with the other person, I do that scanning thing. 😬 I've never done the stare down. 😅😅 But for those I truly love, like or just connect pretty easily with, I'm able to strike a nice balance regarding eye contact. 🙏❤ Thanks again for another helpful short! 🎯🎯😊😊

[No-jsbs]

This is very helpful. Thank you. I have been told many times that my eye contact is too intimidating. When I'm with someone, I naturally want to look into their eyes, especially when they are talking. 99% of the time they squirm, and immediately look away. Maybe I'm just ugly? Idk. I'm just trying to be respectful and give them my attention, and listen. I'll try this technique. I hope it works.

[rafxjawz]

Bro I think he's staring at me for 7 seconds 😂 💀💀💀

[StressHaze]

Nice lessons as some consider me to be a sociopath who doesn’t understand basic social interaction Methods. More please.

[shuraimelahi]

The third one seems to be useful to me then all of those but thanks for this

[munizsims]

As someone with Aspergers Syndrome, thanks!! This helped me a lot :D

[TheDragon]

I struggle with this for sure. I feel sometimes that when I look away for a second the other person may interpret that as me being uninterested or bored with the conversation.

[moment-of-glory]

Interesting. Thank you for the advice.

[kester]

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[Anonymous-lh]

and that's my problem I don't make eye contact with anyone first but if they do it first and after that I look straight in their eyes and the fact is they sometimes blink and look away for 1-2 sec but when I make eye contact I can't blink or look away I just continue to stare at their eyeballs with a normal eye and silent face this is what happens with me I don't look but when I do I don't blink for a sec and that scares them but I can't do anything it's since when I was a child that's why I make sure to don't even look at them otherwise they will be scared 😞😶