Men HATE the Passive Aggression

[robertcopp]

the difference between,
“can you do the dishes.”
and
“the dishes still arent done...”
is astronomical, like outrageous.

[DJ_Force]

Average women: "If I have to ask for what I want, then it ruins it."
Average man: "She didn't ask for anything, she must be good".

[phalamy]

This also goes to parents.
If you are passive agressive about your childs chores they aren't gonna wanna do them.
Just ask normally.

[NotaFrom]

Addendum: do not tell him to do one task, then interrupt him to do another and get mad that the first task isn’t finished

[benitomartinez]

Somewhere online a woman will watch this and think wtf why do I have to be nice to my partner lol

[harher]

It’s wild to me that some people have to be told “hey just asked this person nicely and treated them like a human”

[mofire]

This is actually so incredibly simple:
By asking for something, he feels important.
By demanding for something, he feels like a slave.

[nexus_keeper]

Not gonna lie, my girl saying cutely “can you do the dishes please” is 100% gonna make me do it

[Ongomar]

“He doesn’t want to reward that kind of behaviour”
Holy shit thank you!

[Slewdr]

The ironic thing is I have a female boss and one of the best thing about her is she directly tells me what to do and what I have done wrong so I can improve. She has been by far the most direct boss I have had and as a consequence I have grown as an employee the most under her tutelage.

[JimmyVermeer]

I just gotta say this woman's husband is the luckiest man alive.

[tioasn]

Once polite civility disappears from a husband and wife, intimacy is a major victim.

[socialdeviant]

As someone married for a full decade, this is 100% correct. Your partner is not a mind reader, NOR do they have the same priorities as you. If you need something, say something.

[DeadlyPlatypus]

"I shouldn't have to ask."

- The "superior" sex when it comes to communicating...

[ordainedhail]

Met my wife while I was in the Army. She quickly learned direct without passive aggression works wonders. A “can you please” goes so much farther.
She also learned if she has multiple things she wants me to do, she tells me and then texts me the list. Then she asks me later what I did or reminds me if I forgot a task and offers to do it if I need her to.
She works mornings and I evenings so it works for us, but direct asking followed with a list and offering to help if I miss something.
Also being flexible to works both ways on my busy days is super helpful.

[Trikiran]

The girl who discovers that she can ask nicely and give positive reactionary rewards for what she wants will discover she can get anything she wants.

[Juror]

"Please" is an amazing word. 🧐

[MichaelDavis-cyok]

If you're in a relationship with a woman who constantly tells you what a child you are, and uses that obnoxious condescending attitude on you, then it's time to put her on notice or just hit the eject button. Don't be in a relationship with anyone who can't treat you like an adult, or who thinks being snotty is the right way to get what they want.

[OpEditorial]

What gets lost in the shuffle sometimes is that wives and girlfriends forget they're taking to another adult

[CountArtha]

_"He wants the respect of being communicated to directly"_

I hit the like button so hard, my finger hurts.