Trust me, I’m A Sociopath

[badguys]

The "This is why you should stop trust sociopaths and psychopaths, trust me😉" got me laughing so bad😂🤣

[TurinTuramba]

The cruelty of a narcissist is like nothing else

[squirrelsinmykoolaid]

As someone without any of these personality disorders, I also think it is important to note that "good people" can do awful things as well. Society often glorifies or normalizes treating people badly even if these rules state otherwise. Not being diagnosed with one of these disorders does not exclude you from causing harm.

[AmberDawnMoon]

It's great that your using your self awareness to educate people. Your willingness to be honest and admire what most sociopaths would never admit is helping others.

[AshaLee]

The fact that they know they’re awful people and can articulate all of the whys yet still continue to act the way they do is the freakiest part for me.

[empathicwarriorlissy]

That's why you should block all these people. Period

[MaryDunford]

Trust people to be what they demonstrate themselves to be. Anything else leads to disappointment.

[carolallison]

I think the issue is that most studies are done in prisons. This is a very biased data set. Im an ecologist who is also a sociopath. These studies are basically like me trying to study animal behavior by going to the zoo. I personally am not a dangerous person. Some are, but most are just busy running businesses. Yes, i lack empathy for most people except children, but that also doesn't mean i hurt people either. In fact, im the only woman my husband has been with who hasnt abused him. We've been together for 12 years, married for 10 and i have never been abusive. And i know people are like "of course you would say that, youre a socipath". Well i probably would say it, but this is actually what my husband says. He says i make him feel good about himself, and often jokes that it took a socipath to make him feel safe and loved. This is actually my grandiosity kicking in. My grandiosity makes me feel like im too superior to be abusive. My grandiosity also makes me veiw my husband and children as far superior to other people. So basically, if they are a part of my life, they must be the top of the top of society or i wouldn't have them in my life. Instead of being abusive, im much more manipulative, but in a way that's a benefit. Think "here comes the airplain" to make your kids eat their broccoli. So for example, i hated how he dressed. So i took him out shopping and just pointed out things that fall into how i want a man to dress. I didn't lie. I told him i think he would look good in these clothes, and he does look good. This benefits both of us. I get to be seen with a well dressed man, and he feels more confident and gets treated with more respect from other people. Also, we have to remember the science of love. Love is a chemical reaction that occurs in the brain to protect future offspring. Basically, no one loves anyone, we are literally just high. Seriously, it's the same reaction when you do drugs. In the modern world, we dont need this chemical reaction. We have grocery stores. What we do need is logic and reason. I can reason that my children are my responsibility, and so i must treat them right. Im too grandiose to f*ck up my kids. That would be embarrassing. So i treat them very well. I don't need a flood of oxytocine to treat people well, i need logic. Ive also explained this to my husband so he understands whats going on in my head. He knows he won't get to disney princess love story, but he will get fairness and kindness. Being a socipath doesn't automatically make someone a bad person. It really comes down to how much self awareness they have, and if they are able to control themselves and behave in society. I behave very well and it has served me well. Im successful and very happy. The people i actually like and respect (yes we are capable of liking people) are also happy to be around me.

[everevelyn]

At least you’re honest. That’s respectable.

[anitadadal]

I think sociopaths and narcissists are the way they are because they believe it’s the best ‘way’ to survive. At least for them.

[Bizarrebarbie]

I got diagnosed as a sociopath at 26 and everyone in my life prior said I was before I even knew what it was this resonates so much

[heartjewelrybunny]

In some ways sociopaths teach “normal” people well because your knowledge helps people to prevent themselves from falling into emotional traps. Life isn’t always about goodness though it’s about balance, sometimes you can’t always be nice.

[lindasacks]

I never knew people like this actually existed. It has changed me and i no longer trust anyone. When you say awful people, i cometely agree. Too bad for the children who have no choice but to deal with it. Its heart breaking.

[andieincasablanca]

Watching you helped me understand my new father in law.my hubby talks about him and couldn't figure out what the dig.was now I do..thanks

[simasolomon]

people can only change if they can recognize that they have a problem and take steps to fix it/keep it under control. my partner has aspd and he used to be THE WORST. we grew up together so i’d known him since i was 9. we started dating in hs and he was horrible to me. i cut things off with him, and 4 years later he comes back telling me he’s in therapy for aspd and that i inspired him to do better. i decided to give him a chance and actually saw (not just thru words but also thru actions) that he wanted to change. with sociopathy, you can’t give everyone a chance, since most sociopaths are awful. but it also does depend on the person. while my partner can’t feel any empathy/sympathy towards me, he can still see when i’m upset and does things to help me feel better. he never actually understands why i’m mad at him, but he’ll listen to me and do what he can to make sure i’m happy and comfortable. he does what he can to make the relationship good for us both. now my situation is not common, kanika says “trust them at your own peril” she is absolutely right. when people show you who they are, believe them. most socio/psychopaths have absolutely no remorse and it’s a small percentage that you’ll end up happy ever after. i didn’t just take my partner back on a whim, it took him a year to win my trust back. when in these situations, it’s really important to consider if this person knows their bad behavior needs to change, or if they act remorseful and then go back to it.

[whatsup]

My sister's ex was a narcissist... Perhaps some traits of ASPD...
That was not a good time in her life
But I wonder what would be different for people with personality disorders if society did a better job at raising children. A lot of these personality disorders might present differently in different cultures

[alexisscarbrough]

Whenever someone tells me, trust me, I yank back and decide not to trust them at all.... But this time it's different.
I appreciate you sharing this. It's vulnerable and honest. And it's a life hack for us Non- sociopaths to less disappointment and suffering.
Thank you. ❤

[TheGalacticFederation]

I do love your honesty. It's refreshing. Do you know what you'd make a really good stand-up comedian! You would deliver absolutely blinding dark punch lines and a sarcasm that would be hilarious. You remind me of Katherine Ryan! Look her up if you get a chance. I think your delivery would be very much like hers!

[Crystyna]

Normal people also offer conditional love, unless we talk about the connection between a mother and her baby. How can an adult love another adult just cause he/she exists? Of course, if they don’t meet our standards, we won’t build a connection

[chelleybeans]

As someone with aspd I’m only a good person or appear to be a good person to the one I want. Like my boyfriend for example, I really love him so I’m trying my very best, hopefully he’s the one. My family having personality disorders as well, you can imagine how chaotic that’d be lol. But I think most of us don’t actually want to harm anyone unless they harm us or someone else we care about. But yeah be cautious, I’ve really treated some people like trash in the past.