The Narcissistic Parent & the Scapegoat Child

[Ljbabyg]

Not to mention it sets them up for abusive relationships in the future because that is their norm.. These parents completely failed their children.

[desertangelfish]

I was the scapegoat child, the punching bag! I still grew up showing love and light. My mother couldn't break me neither could anyone after her! God gives me my unlimited love, power and strength. When God is for you no one can be against you and win!

[tinaleigh]

Best thing you can do is leave that family. It'll never change. Protect your peace!

[Xena]

The desperate for connection, love, understanding from others. I hope to find that person who truly sees me for me one day, not because I have money, accomplishments, and titles attached to my name. Because all my life family and other people make me feel like I don’t have value as a human being the way I came out the womb.

[paulaharvey]

My name is Paula Harvey, and this is exactly how I was treated as a child, as a teenager, young adult and adult.

[daebak_hana]

This legit made me tear up cuz it describes my life perfectly. 🥺

[barrymorgan]

I’m a 60 year old grown ass man listening to you and sometimes I actually feel like breaking down. This was me… the scapegoat… constantly… the black sheep… it still hurts..keep preaching sister… there’s someone out there that needs to hear this wisdom ❤

[pmprei]

I'm not desperate for connection to others no more.

[marieeustasie]

Well, the truth is that there's nothing wrong with the 'black sheep' . It's THEM who had a problem, don't you worry. You are a child of God. He has your back. That doesn't mean life will be a bed of roses but you will overcome all obstacles. Obstacles and hardship will make you strong and capable for God's plan.🙏

[wendylee]

Facts, I went through this as a child, and my young adult life, I learn to stay away from famiily.

[sophiashow]

That child was their end they expected me to be there to provide comfort ....wasn't happening.

[ScurvyRascal]

That's me, too. I still can't connect with people or make friends. The feeling of aloneness is overwhelming.

[EdenHeiress]

Tomorrow is my narc mom’s birthday and my siblings are both acting like it’s the biggest holiday of the year. I’m going no contact and tonight I just tossed and turned feeling mixed emotions but remembering so much painful things she’s said and done… and the betrayal of my brother and sister to go along with it and throw me under the bus….. they all have consistently made me feel like I’m worthless, crazy, annoying, a burden, and no one likes me…. Then when I was younger I turned to drugs and alcohol to self medicate, was suicidal, dated toxic men and had two sons with two different men, … again treated like the disappointment and shameful one in the family and heaped even MORE guilt on my shoulders…. Finally I surrenders to Christ and prayed for God to give me a husband that HE picked and I told Him I’m bad at picking someone good for me. Now I’ve been married for six years and two more sons. I cry so bad at what my mother has done to me my whole life and then to gaslight me that these things never happened, to treat my siblings different so no one will believe me, then the way I reacted in life to all the abuse I also was punished for behaving that way on top of it all…. Oh yea and even though the Bible has freed me from suicide, drugs, alcohol, and cigarettes and I’m doing the best I’ve ever been, they seem to hate me even more than ever!!! 😢

[shandabrown]

She speaking FACTS. I know, but trouble don't last always..

[debajode]

had a child hood friend who's family did this to the little sister made me feel uncomfortable hope she's ok now

[Athira_OracleSolutions]

And they become the leaders. That way their voice is expressed. Connections are made. We are only made to work on higher level baby🔥❤️

[normandomino]

That's me. The one who was viewed as the outsider. I have embraced the role. Got to work on my hands to avoid all the bully stuff. Worked on my intellect to be able to grow and elevate. They still are out to destroy me. Stole money and my children from me. Still, I rise. All hail THE BLACKSHEEP

[polabear]

That's why I don't talk to my family. They turned on me after my mom died, I was only 10. Now I still feel like I can't even talk to my family without have a bpd episode.

[sharon]

This is the story of my life. It never ends, “family” will NEVER let go of their low opinions of you. Just last week caught my sister using my painful stories of abuse as her own to gain sympathy from her in-laws, friends, coworkers. When I am around them I can feel the disdain they have for me. Still makes me look bad and gets pity for herself using my pain. Yeah, that’s “family”

[jamoriah]

I have been surrounded by the wrong people/ relationships for years. Im starting to understand why.