How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others (A Flower Blooms)

Let's stop comparing ourselves to each other and instead, start loving ourselves and supporting each other fully. This video comes in two parts: A Flower Blooms vignette, and then practical tips on how to stop comparing yourself to others.

// A Flower Blooms

A Flower Blooms is about how we tend to feel insecure or unworthy when we compare ourselves to others. Yes, this girl may be smart, talented, creative, beautiful, and that’s true. But that doesn’t diminish who you are. Why do you shrink when you see that? You are beautiful, smart, talented, creative, capable too. You are a light, too.

You are both beautiful in your own right. Her beauty does not diminish your beauty. Your beauty does not diminish hers. Instead of comparing and competing, you might find that you two actually complement each other, and you two together = better & more than when you stood apart. If you can bloom confidently, you’ll find that you’re stronger and happier when you stand together.

“A flower does not think about competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms.”

In order to move towards a more supportive & loving community, we must start with our own self love & confidence. You must bloom, confidently. Know your self worth. Love yourself. Only then can you move forward to support others compassionately and positively.

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Edited by Loryn Teranishi | @yoloryn

// M A I L B O X
Aileen Xu
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Brea, CA 92822

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// A B O U T

I’m Aileen, a lifestyle blogger sharing knowledge and inspiration on creating your dream life.

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[justatinyhalfling]

I deleted All my social media acounts and it was the best decision I made this year. As beautiful as social media is, to my eyes it is more poison than blessing.

[meeps]

The comparison at the beginning is beautiful 🌹🌷

[gw]

"One person's success doesn`t diminish what you have. You are unique. You have your own set of strengths, gifts, talents, life experience"
I loved the video, I loved the metaphor and I am happy to hear those word right now! 💕

[Freverblessed]

BeYOUtiful! Someone else’s shine doesn’t diminish your own. Comparison is, indeed, a thief of joy!! Being that we know exactly what goes on in our lives, comparing ourselves to others may be easy. However, remember you do not know what happens when the camera turns off. You are beautiful, you are worthy of love, respect and happiness! From a self love content creator to another.. this is an mazing video Aileen!! ❤️

[imalyzathymia]

I love how you use Rose and Lily as a metaphor. And how you said that instead of comparing, why not compliment each other?! I like how you're filled with so much vibrant and positivity. Please do continue being YOU. Love you and more power!! 💛💛

[meeraamin]

I felt motivate everytime I listen to your words...thank you so much...love you so much!!

[xjqdgdw]

Self worth are always hard to realize especially for people who look it as a negative one. Thank you for reminding me again about it ❤

[Manuela_shiny]

" A flower just blooms" is now my favorite quote❤ This video inspired me so much. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us and bring light in my life. 🌸
Love from Italy❤

[Thefitty]

*there is more than enough abundance to go around everywhere. When you see someone else where you want to be, it's a sign of your own upcoming achievements!*

[sacdaabdurhman]

“Success is not measured by what you do compared to what somebody else does. Success is measured by what you do compared to what you are capable of doing “ sharing some love with all of you guys

[-kdm]

Best in life not to complain,
criticise or compare. Also do
not live up to the expectations
of others. Unless it is taxes,
rules or regulations. Excellent
points mentioned. The flowers
at the beginning are gorgeous.

[ashyboo]

I’m a sunflower 🌻 in a field of other beautiful flowers. I don’t always believe I’m just as beautiful as other girls or have a good enough body, but I’m working on building myself up.

[LyricWalker_]

YEAH I COMPARE MY SELF TO OTHERS ALL THE TIME😫💕

[davidawilliams]

"A flower just blooms", wow. Very profound.

[KrystalXu]

I love the flower part 😭 A good way to overcome jealousy is to replace the feeling with joy for the other person, by feeling their happiness. Eventually it becomes a habit!

[MM-umpi]

this made me stop sobbing cuz I'm one year behind than my peers
thank you so much
greetings from Egypt 💜🇪🇬🇪🇬

[alexcwilsonwellness]

I've definitely had to unfollow people on social media because they triggered my insecurities. But I can definitely attest to the fact that building self worth helps so much with how I feel about other people's successes.

[KimChi-ybwg]

I watch your video in order to not only perfect myself but also learn English. Love your voice ❤❤❤

[mayrose]

Wow. Just yesterday night a weird bout of "I'm not that good at anything, " comparing myself to others, which was never something common for me. Then woke up to this. We have in our lives everything we need 💕

[AngieARTmanga]

I really love your videos. I watch your videos for few years, really inspired me, I love you <3