How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Today I wanted to talk about toxic comparisons and how we can stop comparing ourselves to others. Let me know in the comments if you guys can relate.

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[MalamaLife]

Hi everyone! I'm having trouble putting subtitles for this video, but it'll be up soon :)

[SFlaidlaw]

I think this is especially important when it comes to the digital age. I stayed in Hawaii for 2 months and there was a certain beach I would go to every day. A popular YouTuber went to the same spot and filmed it.... and it looked like a completely different place. The water was a different color and everything looked 10X prettier. I was really blown away and it hit me how different reality can be from the internet. 😔

[WaffleTraveller]

My first yoga teacher used to say "Don't compare yourself to others. Comparison is an act of violence against the self." It has stayed with me for years and I've come to realise that, by the same logic, accepting yourself without comparison is an act of much-needed kindness. So let's be kind to ourselves, people 🙂

Lovely video with lots of food for thought as always, thank you 💜

[DemetriPanici]

*"You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength." - Marcus Aurelius*

[milami]

When I feel like I am jealous of someone else’s life I think: this person, like myself, is not always happy 🙂 it is normal to feel unhappy or frustrated sometimes. this thinking helps a lot to stay by myself and be grateful for what I have ☺️

[DeandraStubbs]

*It's taken me years to stop comparing myself to others and to realize my path and pace is different from others an that's ok. We all are not supposed to have the same journey in life; there is nothing wrong with having guidance but we must find our own footing in this world. I'm not perfect I still find myself comparing to others but the differences now, is that I know when it's toxic and I need to take a step back.* 😊💕💕

Love the watermelon umbrella 🍉

[lilsistha]

I realize when I walk into school I start getting insecure because I see many people with unique clothes and hairstyles while I look like a quiet nerd girl. I keep having thoughts in my head saying " what will they think about me " and it is bothering me! I'm so happy I took the time to watch this! It help me a lot 😊❤️

[starsimmons]

We grew up rather poor but really didn’t know it until we compared ourselves to others. A lifetime of trying to be the same or better than someone else’s life robs us of our authentic selves. Messages like yours reminds me to continue pursuing my own truth rather than attempting to mimic others.

[gabrielarocha]

As a mom to a 2 year old I’ve realized social media is not my friend. Not only did I experience fomo since I could no longer do the things I used to prior to becoming a mom, but also experienced a feeling of inadequacy looking at “helpful” mom videos/content . I’ve learned I need to stay away and it’s made my life a whole lot better. Thank you for the video.

[bipintripathi]

Comparison is also a form of violence but it takes tremendous effort to avoid it as society teach this to us every minute. Listening to self may be helpful.

[Ifedoyin__]

Comparison is a killer of joy. As much as I know this, I compare myself to everyone around, even the people that think they are less privileged. Sometimes it's good every time, it's bad.
Thanks, malama for the word of wisdom.

[DemetriPanici]

*"Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point." - C.S Lewis*

[haseena]

Hi Sophie - 'Comparison is the thief of joy' - I think most if not all can relate to the toxicity of comparison with others. This is amplified and heavily influenced by many factors all around us in the world and societies that we live in today. We are exposed to many different situations, circumstances and online/offline tools and platforms that can lead us to compare ourselves to others in a negative and self-destructive way. Even if we are self-aware and know that this is happening the effects of it can be challenging to deal with and we can find ourselves in a vulnerable place mentally, physically and spiritually.
For everyone the journey of effectively dealing with 'comparison with others' is a little different as it will extend from our own unique experiences, personal history, personality and belief systems. It is hard. It is painful. However, I hope that everyone knows that they are a treasure to the world, that they matter, that focusing on their path, at their pace and that being authentically them is what makes them incomparable to any other.
Amazing video and message as always x stay safe and well x

[ryanharuo]

Yes! When were too busy comparing ourselves to others, we can't see our beautiful individuality. The world needs you as you are, not another carbon copy of someone else. Yes, we can admire the merits of someone else who we deem influential, but it should come from an alignment with our own core values. We're all individual links of the same chain and the fact that we're distinct from one another is what makes us the same! Plus, finding our tribe requires us to be authentically ourselves. So be who you are to the core without a filter to dilute you, or even to hide you. It can be scary at first, but it is worth it I promise ❤

[The]

I think social media distortion is fueling a lot of this today, especially platforms like Instagram and TikTok, I definitely think that reducing the intake of that stuff can help to change your mood and outlook for sure.

[tracellehinze]

I wish I had learnt this years ago. Thank goodness for maturity. Beautiful lesson to learn early

[sarahconnor]

This is honestly the most calming video I have seen in a while. I'm a teenager and lately my mental health hasn't been great, partly because I was often subconsciously comparing myself to others in every way. But I've been trying to let go of these things, because I realise finding peace and following my own values is the most important thing. And in the end, it is pointless comparing people because we are all completely different.

[ericeichstaedt]

I'm not very competitive, I just want to have a meaningful and adventurous life. The path I choose is so outside the standard norm, I rarely see anyone I want to be like. If anything, I just feel isolated with my authenticity.

[lailaniesiddique]

Very timely! I am currently on a social media break and I am on my 7th day. My mind was filled with a lot of stuff, insecurities and senseless thoughts for the past few weeks and I felt that I am slowly forgetting how to be genuinely happy. I decided to do this socmed break for a month and just focus on positive things and celebrate my uniqueness as a person. I should love myself more and I deserve my own peace. Actually, we all do. :) Sending love to everyone, from the Philippines.

[AparnaJain]

Comparisons are the number one reason for sibling rivalry and they can deeply hurt children. I know it did me and my brother. I learned and realized this and now as a mother, I try hard not to compare my children. It’s hard but so worth it. Thank you for this message and it’s so nice to see that you and your sister still have a good relationship. I wasn’t so lucky with my brother :(