#1 Narcissism Doctor: Toxic Signs You're Dealing With A Narcissist Causing Trauma & Disease | Ramani

Social media often mentions narcissism, but what exactly does this term entail? What traits define a narcissist, and what are the implications of being in a narcissistic relationship? Today’s guest contends that these relationships pose the most significant public health challenges of our time, and the full extent of their impact on our physical and mental well-being remains to be understood.

On today's episode of The Dhru Purohit Show, Dhru engages in a profound discussion with clinical psychologist Dr. Ramani Durvasula, delving into the intricate topic of narcissism. Dr. Ramani offers clear definitions of narcissism, dispelling misconceptions, and highlights the telltale signs to identify a narcissist. Additionally, she dissects the underlying wounds, childhood traumas, and relationship dynamics that may predispose individuals to narcissism, shedding light on how their behaviors can ensnare others into a cycle of blame. This episode delivers profound insights into these toxic relationships, elucidating their detrimental effects on survivors' daily functioning and the resulting health challenges.

Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a licensed clinical psychologist, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. She discusses narcissism on her popular YouTube channel, social media, her popular online program on healing from narcissistic abuse, and as the host of the podcast Navigating Narcissism with Dr. Ramani.

In this episode, Dhru and Dr. Ramani dive into:
-The toll that narcissistic relationships take on longevity
-The lack of courage, awareness, and training to identify narcissists
-What is a narcissist and signs to spot one
-A narcissist’s goal, what makes them happy, and childhood wounds
-Can a person stop being a narcissist?
-Transactional praise and blame
-Types of narcissists and their characteristics
-How self-blame arises and navigating toxic relationships
-Sacrifices you make, how to heal, and radical acceptance
-A discerning approach and believing a person when they show you who they are
-Imagining a life without the toxicity and a new way of life
-Being a survivor and self-forgiveness

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[f.frederickskitty]

Living with a narcissist in your life feels like being slowly poisoned

[angelinamthenjane]

I'm a living proof that when you leave a toxic relationship, your health improves tremendously

[willemkoppier]

Homeless, financially wrecked, lost job, depression, suicidal thoughts, yes it can happen to anybody. But it isnt the end, there always is hope

[sunflowers]

The happiest and strongest people are those who are free from toxic people!!! 😊❤🎉

[luannkelly]

I went from a happy healthy, smiling woman to chronic fatigue, 50 pound weight gain, depression, anxiety, bilateral semi detached retinas, Reactivated Epstien Barr, and a nervous breakdown in a matter of 6 years! I had to go on disability. I divorced his a$$ and now 5 years later I am finally about 90% healed and back to working. It is literally life and death!! I am a textbook example of what she is talking about. The psychiatrists did not ever tell me to leave him. That should have been Mal practice!!!!

[christheclinician]

It seems so hard to prove because the narc will switch up and change from the aggressor to the victim. They are such good actors.

[GuaduSanz]

I traveled around the world with a narcissist and one of the most disturbing things about him was his inability to enjoy the simple beautiful things about life. So good you pointed that! Narcissist take the joy out of you because they are incapable of feeling it themselves, hence they envy it and seek to destroy it in others.

[ricksanchezcc-]

Supportive relationships are more precious than gold.

[yukio_saito]

1:20:00 "When people show you who they are, believe them." 🎯

[annaa]

Public health crisis- she nailed it. I predict workplaces will acknowledge it next when more and more people will go off sick as result of dealing with narc psycho at work

[lisaariottiart]

I ended up the hospital with organ failure due to extremely high blood pressure---

Once I kicked him out everything regulated.

She is not wrong. Protect your self .

[deborahserafin]

Dr. Ramani: "Narcissistic people put people on pedestals only to knock them back down." This is very very true...

[marycarrillo]

She is my hero- you are saving lives, I’ve never felt so seen and validated.

[aliciapatterson]

I saw this myself. Once the narcissist was gone, my whole life changed.

[BushraS-zlgi]

No narcs are never happy from the inside. The only time I have seen them show some sign of joy is either when they gain some material things, or when someone praises them.

[LibraryBP]

Narcissistic people completely drain you. You are so physically and emotionally exhausted. Doctors and friends conclude that YOU'RE sick. No one believes that the sick one is the narcissist in your life. Seeking counseling is vital.

[livkind]

It took me getting cancer and him immediately leaving for a new supply to realize. It’s mind boggling. Depleting. Can ruin you. Don’t let it. Do not let it.

[InvisibleWarrior]

The mind-body connection is a VERY real thing. Maybe being alone isn’t ideal but it beats the hell out of being in a destructive relationship - on every level!

[MayaChadalavada-nzqg]

Yup. I was sick for years while with a psychopath. Two months after leaving him my health improved by 90%. Issues doctors could not help me with disappeared.... Mind blowing !

[APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU]

As someone who suffers with extreme severe anxiety I can totally relate to her. I would stop eating for days at a time as a punishment. I worry a lot about my life, everyone around me and pleasing everyone. It's absolutely crippling, so glad she got the help she needed, lovely young lady it's so sad that society has 1 in 3 people suffering mental health issues. I hope everyone seeks help