Men (Over 40) Don't Want a Feminine Woman, They Want This Instead

#jonathonaslay #datingadvice

Get Him To Commit Before Sleeping Together (The Dating Vow)

Have you ever heard the saying: Women are the gatekeepers of sex, and men are the gatekeepers of commitment?

The "Dating VOW" Before Sleeping Together

I ___________________ agree to explore the process of getting to know you with the intent to declare something serious in the next 3 to 6 months.

I ___________________ agree to be monogamous sexual while we have regular sex together

I ___________________ agree to not actively seek to meet/date others while we are in this dating process (include taking down dating profile)

I ___________________ agree to speak up if this isn't working for me vs. pulling back, ghosting or disappearing

I ___________________ agree to invest regular time in this process of getting to know you which looks like this _______________

90% of men will bail on this because thousands of women will have sex without any commitment/agreement whatsoever. If all women are banned together (going forward), this will change how men treat/view sex, but in the meantime, if he does agree, you have a better chance of commitment than without it.

[PinkCodeBook]

I love when a man brings out my feminine energy. I’ve noticed if I don’t respect a man, my masculine energy comes out. I get bossy or harsh. Mocking femininity is not cool. Embrace women’s feminine sides. We can be both independent/strong and feminine. I don’t want to be a man.

[janetblanc]

Jonathan, I am an older woman and I believe that a successful, self-confident and independent woman can still be feminine; let's not confuse submissiveness (heaven forbid!) with femininity. Too many women today emulate mens' aggressive and often vulgar behavior. it's possible to remain gentle and caring while handling traditional male roles.

[patric]

I got to say that after hearing the story of how you initially met your gf, to me it didn't sound as 2 people investing equally. She reached out 1st and emailed you and after the phone call, a week later, she had to call you to follow up. Seriously Jonathon? you, the one that has studied relationships couldn't reach out and tell her you saw red flags on the phone call. Lucky for you she really liked you and in my view went the extra extra mile. Yes double extra.
I get that middle age men don't want to put effort but no effort means no interest. It might be naive of me to believe that the man that wants to be w me will show effort but I'm willing to hold out for that type of man.

[suekennedy]

My mother told me and my sister, learn to take care of yourself, you never can depend completely on a man. She was married 60 yrs, thought she had no clue, my husband died after 35 years, and my sister divorced, guess she knew something!!

[sharonscheer]

If You want lasting relationship sorry, I disagree.Nothing has changed in centuries.Men chase....they stay with those who are focus of love. When women chase it does not give him chemistry to the level you are the prize.Its 🧪 biology....chemistry.Books can’t teach school of hard knocks. I stand my ground be independent be strong but not so strong you cannot let them make you happy.They want to make you happy...period.

[candysmith]

I'm a successful business owner and a single parent. The last thing I want is the role of being a man in a relationship. It's refreshing to be just a woman and embrace all involved with this around a man. Now don't get me wrong, I plan dates, trips and pay for things. I don't cook, so that's out the window. lol For me, if he's remotely feminine, it's a huge turn off.

[DarlingStarlingsTarot]

Let me just say this, life is not ever about what men want! It’s you! Making yourself happy & loving yourself is the only way you can be open to true love. You won’t allow half assed breadcrumbs for shit. Because you know you’re worth more, no matter how much you love someone. 😘 & also our femininity & being in tune with our authentic selves is exactly what attracts men.

[Sashologist]

Feminine Energy = Feminine Power! It's where assertiveness meets elegance &class while leaving room for the man to still reign in his own nature. We're not chasers, hunters nor aggressors. Going after what we want requires a level of confidence &self awareness that is exuded in our feminine energy 🤷🏾‍♀️

[XYZOxyz]

Men over 40 who never married don't know what they want (or if it's a woman they want at all). You should make a video about this group.

[Francin]

I’m older too, very feminine, independent, not desperate, gentle, good hearted, friendly for this world, and I don’t care what they say about me. I don’t want to change to agressive, I stay the way I am. That’s me. There’s too less kindness in this world. ❤

[lauriemayer]

Feminine and masculine energy is a natural way of being… it’s not acting or pretending. Men who operate from their masculine energy are natural protector/providers…. It’s an active energy. Feminine energy is not passive, it is receptive. And if you don’t operate in that polarity, there won’t be any erotic polarity, which is what is needed if you want a successful relationship.

[karenlouise]

Women get burned too more so than men If a man can't be the man in his 40s 50s 60s he doesn't deserve a woman. Your conversation sounds very passive. That's a real turn off to any woman at any age.

[ngoddess]

I think someone should start a channel on how to date with a disability. Many of us look "normal", are very attractive, and get hit on incessantly. However, our disabilities hinder us from being able to be independent. It is cruel, because most of us are very strong women, we persevere and take the little we have and make something out of it. We can't do everything that is expected of a "normal" person. But we are still worthy of love. Dating for the disabled. Maybe some day.

[WVgrl]

They want a woman that is self sufficient and able to take care of them.

[colinsanders]

Jonathan, speak for yourself. Just because we are divorced does not necessary mean we are all emotional wrecks !

[carolb]

Choosing wisely is incredibly important.
I’m now so underwhelmed by men who are emotionally unavailable.
That’s a great thing!
Appreciate decent honest present inspired transparent individuals so much.

[Shasha]

To be feminine to attract is like trying to be sexy to attract and then you get the guy who wants sex only and no relationship/friendship. Meeting people on the internet is harder.

[b_kootswild]

I’ve watched you for a while now and you’ve helped me navigate so many dating issues. I have to say, it us so much easier to listen when you speak calmer and aren’t yelling or shouting! I understand you get excited and passionate but this message resonated with me so much more, even if I don’t always agree with your points, and it was easier to listen to you. So thank you!

[singuensful]

Im in my late 30s. Men in their 40s are my main target but I agree it’s been an emotional roller coaster. In less than 2 months I’ve had guy a/ who actively pursued me, told me he wanted to expand his family, was talking about the ideal woman being, a great confident, being nurturing like his mother, having social skills, giving great sex. I have all these qualities but He ended up breaking up with me because I refused to have unprotected sex with him. Everything he said just vanished. He blew up on me during an intimate moment & i felt totally lost. I agreed to be intimate but now I wasn’t enough because he didn’t want to wear a condom for our FIRST time… i ditched him.
Guy 2/ says he’s a Christian. Let me know right away he doesn’t believe in sex before marriage. We go on 2 dates he just hugs me at the end of each date like I’m a friend. then today sends me a message saying he’s not interested in going further because « he feels like it’s the right time to break up » and « there was nothing wrong » like what do you mean? We had nice dates and were talking everyday! I’m like something is wrong. These men say they want one thing then totally go the opposite way. They don’t know what they want. I think dating using apps is just a matter of luck. There’s no real formula to get them to commit.

[ladylibertywdc]

Those older men looking for women partners who live as "men who wear skirts"- these men often treat their partners as business partners.
Nothing like a selfish man who treats their partner like an employee or a tenant.
Who needs men who do not appreciate genuine feminine traits in real women?
Your points make total sense.
Thanks for expanding my reading list!