9 Brutal Truths That Men Over 40 Need To Accept (To Live Their Best Lives)

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[soeffner]

Nothing is more depressing as a man than realizing the only reason anyone shows an interest in you is because of what you provide...not who you are.
This is especially true with women.

[darkorion]

At 50, I do not care much about money, my appearance, or about social status anymore. I do not smoke, I very rarely drink, and I don't hangout (or go on dates) with toxic folks of any gender. I explore new hobbies and new friends as they come along. It is the best time in my life. I hope all the other men out there find their way to similar joy.

[frankdavf]

1 .- no alcohol
2.-no workaholism
3.-take care of your body
4.-forgive and accept your past. Contrition
5.-male brotherhood
6.-attachment wounds and relation attachment
7.-get out of confortzone
8.-let go of people boundaries n limits
9.- what you want of a woman

[jamesa]

"Don't work too much".. for 15 years, while paying child support, it was either work too much or go to prison. Like hundreds of thousands of other fathers in the past 50 years. Yea, men need to know THAT can happen.

[georgemaccrone]

When I got divorced I was shattered, alcohol was an escape which cost me two jobs and a lot of friends till I realized it was self destructive behavior, so I quit drinking.

[andrewperrie]

I'm 46yo and I quit drinking 10yrs ago. It was the best decision I ever made for myself and my family.

[rdglide]

I'm 66yo. I don't drink, don't smoke and don't date. I'm my own best friend and I'm perfectly content in my drama free world.😎

[paulatk]

A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her .

[christianbrennan]

Woman giving men advice is kinda ironic. Like they know what we go through.. truth is nobody gives a fuck about us

[Chrono]

Why should we not care about work over everything else? I go to work, I get paid. It's pretty straight forward. It's reasonably reciprocal. Relationships are fickle and women are untrustworthy. People, and especially women towards men, just want something out of you. You've heard it many times that we're loved by what we provide. Why should I care about something like that?

[alanweisner]

10 years ago my right kidney had to be removed because of Cancer. This may sound very cliche but when i walked out of hospital? The world looked alot different. I had clarity on what truly mattered in life. After two failed marriages, i made a plan. Pay off all debt, save and suffer for a few years, retire at 59 so i could live while physically able. Dont drink, smoke or date and have zero interest in that. I am in shape, living a free and beautiful life, traveling and doing all the things i love. You nailed it about discovering who you are. The only way one can't do this is without distraction and clutter. Lose the chaos, live your best life 🙏

[philh]

I thought I was building her an impenetrable castle, but realized I built myself an inescapable prison. Work is my only relief.

[baigish]

1. Alcohol
2. Hiding behind work and resources.
3. Take care of your skin and body.
commercial- skincare routine
4. Forgiveness and acceptance of your past and how you contributed. Contrition.
5 Finding Male Brotherhood. Finding male friends you can bond with.
6 Learn about your attachment wounds or your relationship patterns.
7 Get out of your comfort zone- It's what builds self-esteem.
8 boundaries limits. Learning to let go of relationships that don't work anymore.
9 Stop falling for blonde Bimbos and yoga pants and start dating based on experience. How does a woman make you feel? Shared Values, etc...

Let me know if I screwed anything up

[hydroac]

I can relate to "don't wait until it's too late".

I was a senior scientist working for a Fortune 500 engineering firm. In October 2022 I had a stroke at 57 which left me with 20% mobility in my right leg, 0% in my right arm, and effectively I couldn't talk. After 8 days in ICU, 5 weeks of rehab, a further 5 weeks in an immediate care facility and a whole lot of grueling work within a few months I regained ~90% of my mobility. But I have Aphasia which limits my communication ability, short term memory loss, and I have difficulty reading. I was shocked to see the that 1/6th of my brain is literally missing on the CAT scan.

I'm so thankful during the stroke I was in a public space and received care within minutes. Otherwise the outcome could have been much worse.

[johnm]

Men! The best relationship you can have is with yourself. Then and only then you can have good relationship’s with others that want you in their lives. Do not let others pull you down! A woman is a luxury not a necessity! She is an emotional being and thrives on an emotional roller coaster. Men and women aren’t meant to be as one! We are meant to be! Stay true to you, as a man and don’t take that ride with them. Be there for the woman you’re with but stay off the ride! Wait at the end of the ride for her, that is really where she expects you and respects you at! Be up when she is up, be up when she is down, the only place to do that is both feet firmly on the ground! You can’t fix what isn’t broken but seems to be. Just be what you are men, Practical, focused and true to you! How do you fix what’s meant to be broken? How do you fix what’s meant to be?

[quentinburns]

While the work thing is certainly good advice as far as it goes, an awful lot of men MUST work long hard hours to support their family.

[jamesga]

The hard part is finding a woman who is attractive, but also isn’t a drain/toxic. It is harder and harder all the time. Sorry, not sorry, but someone could be a sweetest can be, but if you can’t look at them…

[Louis]

I am 50 and I have abandoned everything. Isolation is both painful but soothing.

[Jefleopard]

Yeah, as soon as I heard the commercial, that was enough for me. She seems to forget that we men are waking up. If women don’t like our “ roughness“, we don’t care anymore. She is, more and more, just telling men how they need to change.

[michaelwilliams]

I am 67 years young! Excellent health, wealth, & attitude. Plenty of good friends, outside activities etc. Nothing new w Sara’s 9 points & I concur w them all. What’s not addressed is how difficult it is to find a woman who brings something to the relationship. Not just physical intimacy, although that’s still important, but most women my age are definitely have their own baggage, drama, and other issues ruins any chance for a committedpartnership. Where are they?