'Are avoidants afraid of commitment?' #shorts

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In this #shorts video, I tackle a pastiche of viewer pushback in the comments section of my recent episode, "The fear of commitment". These objections boil down to the question: "Are avoidants afraid of commitment?" Watch the episode to hear the answer.

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[caucasianafrican]

I'm dismissive avoidant. This is true. I fear engulfment and betrayal.

[zsuzsadoramegyeri]

I used to be dismissive avoidant - even though I am a woman😊 Studied a lot, worked a lot, spent a huge amount of time on my own, always had a goal to achieve. I had ‘intellectual partners’ whom I could talk about anything and everything with, but had you asked me about feelings, I wouldn’t have had much to share - maybe just on a theoretical level. That has changed. And now that I am happy to share how I am feeling, I’ve realized that intellect on its own is not enough to connect.

[AnthonyBolognese]

We don’t want to feel trapped. It really boils down to that.

[pqvruhg]

Engulfment yes. Also trust which involves risk.

[zensvlognotapro]

A man is willing to commit to a person whom he is willing to face whatever the life throws at them and the same with a woman .
Yes I agree sometimes less is more and more is less sometimes it is less is less and more is more 😊.
Be inspired Dr. O 🖖

[DrMahsa]

Please make a video about attachment style - the topic is all over the YouTube but they mostly lack depths and only describe rather than provide some practical solutions.

[sIMODINHO]

It's a risk the man has to take in order to start a family I guess.. This is why it's extremely important to choose wisely a woman that will take care of him and support him (or at least the one who will exploit him less)

[alexlilano]

The thing about engulfment is once that thing which the person engulfment leaves. The person is literally left with almost nothing and is desperate. It is a terrible position to be in.

[badgerapocalyps]

After you've been burned enough times you stop playing with fire.

[michaelgarrow]

I have a fear of sticking my arm down a wolverines den.

[alexwelts]

I didn't know there was a word for that, or maybe I'm slightly confused. that infatuated period when nose breath pheromones trick your brain into flooding with oxytocin, dopamine, vasopressin, seratonin and adrenaline and you are hardcore blind to any red flags. for 3 to 6 months and then if you made any decisions together in that time you're tangled up inside the same aquarium and a risk is a group of lobsters, is poured inside and you now see the real person and you're trapped and you hate them, . that's engulfment? 🤣. that happens when you are a container, or the contents and not the outside too. you can't get trapped if you exist within the keys, the walls, within the neurochemicals, so terrifying like the Sargassment, not trapped like engulfment. personally, but I can see what the problem would be to someone who isn't of the water at all

[LittleMew]

Just date introverts. They get sick of you too, and now you both have space.

[troyehnisz]

I have a fear of losing half of what I worked for just not worth it

[PharmacyTechLabs]

You want to be dynamite in the bedroom read the Kamasutra. 😊

[mrsherwood]

When i hear the word "avoidant" i scroll by fast. Im not interesting in learning about or understanding them any more. When i see it in people I run. Not interested in human copouts.