How Your Childhood Affects Your Love Styles #shorts

Our childhood, how we were brought up, our relationships with our caregivers play a big impact on our love styles. Whether you are the pleaser, the victim or the controller, your upbringing is largely responsible for that. Watch this video to see how your childhood might have affected who you are.

#shorts version

Shorts by: Luna Joy

[Psychgo]

What is your love style? Comment below.

[sskyloft]

Why I love psych2Go:
•They help me learn who I am
•The narrators voice is relaxing
• OMG THE ANIMATION'S ARE SO CUTE

[abdelkaderelbrazi]

I'm definitely a pleaser. I've known it for some time but it's soooo hard to stop. Whenever I am asked what I'd like to do/eat/watch, my answer is "And what would you like?" It's not like I even put my own wishes on 2nd place. If I have to give an honest answer to those questions, I don't know what to say. I'm just 24/7 prepared to do whatever the other person feels like doing and, as a result, my brain almost completely stopped creating its own preferences. When I need them, they are just not there.

My favourite one is when I'm about to do something with friends and somebody asks the question "Who is driving?" Then I'm like: If I don't offer to drive then they'll think I'm selfish or that I don't want to waste gas. But what if I offer to drive and they actually find me a bad driver or they find my car inferior to theirs and they are just too polite to say it to my face. I don't want their trip to be hell.

[themightypizzadevourer]

This channel gave me the courage to talk about my declining mental health to my head of house at school, he said he'll tell my parents as I just don't have enough balls to, I'm still waiting for therapy and counselling, being rejected by my crush the third time in a row didn't help but I'm surviving. I really hope this comment reaches you and makes your day, you deserve it

[TheDSasterX]

Avoider: that image of cooking lunch for myself rung true. Babysitters or being left to my own devices almost all of the time as both parents worked long chaotic hours left me to take care of myself. My parents give me a hard time to this day for being so independent. They ask me to ask for help now and I'm just like "idk what you want, you raised me to be independent". It's not so much that there was a lack of love at home, just that everyone in it was either too absent or tired to give much of it...

[sreelathavalluru]

I'd just like to say YOU ARE PERFECT AS YOU ARE!

[av]

I'm the avoider: As a middle child I never had anyone to talk to about personal things because my parents where always focusing on my older sister who never listens and my younger sis that always wants attention. I alway saw the stress my parents had so I liked to lay low and deal with anything myself, I'm also really independent and tried to do chores before my parents told me to or straight after they asked me, to try and relieve their stress. I always tried to get my schoolwork done and never really had time to sort my emotions out. I also like to help people (friends) out with their emotions. I feel I don't have time for a relationship because I still haven't found myself and I don't feel I would be good with a relationship because I like things done my way as I have never worked with other people well, with anything. I would be good with listening to their feelings but I personally don't like to open up because it almost makes me feel naked, to put it in a way of understanding.

[AmerieFanbase]

Some parents really don't deserve children!

[fazetta]

I grew up as a pleaser with real strict and controlling parents. And there was always lack of emotional connection in my family even my sisters hardly ever showed affection towards me even when I needed it the most. But all I learned from all those miserable years is that you need to focus on yourself and self-love if you don't have anybody else to do it. If I didn't have anybody to care then why can't I be that person; For me And for other people who need it. :)

[jaydehy]

I’m the “pleaser.” I hate only having one friend, I always try to make somewhat superficial relationships with everyone and I can’t focus on just one person. I enjoy seeing one person in only one class and nowhere else, it’s hard to explain

[gracep]

I’m definitely ‘The Pleaser’ and it’s so hard to stop even into my adulthood.

[TheMacgician]

I definitely relate to the pleaser type

[chrishawking]

Unfortunately I can relate to the situations of every single one of the terrible upbringing's . In some sort of way one way or another .But the kind that I absolutely am is a Vacillator✌🏼

[somedudedoinart]

my love style is giving and helping people in anyway possible

[waffyyy]

I've promise to myself that my difficult childhood will not ruin my future

[jonathon]

i love this channel just putting it out there

[drinasun]

I am the secure connector. I grew up in a loving home.

[xxhunterxx]

this channel is free therapy for me ;-;

[shirleyware]

The pleaser....just because you can be a parent don't mean you should if you can't do right by them!!! 💚

[karoshi]

Grew up as a pleaser, later married a victim. Did go well for a while but eventually the flow from source to drain went out of control. Was unable to rescue them and only later learned I would never have been able to.