My Relationship HEALED when I realized THIS!

It's not the presence of conflict that dooms a Relationship, it's the inability to repair after conflict. We need to understand that both partners need to be encouraging honesty and vulnerability in order to intimacy to be felt between two people. Can you handle their honesty?

How to get HER in the MOOD (funny)
#marriageadvice #relationshipproblems #conflictresolution

[K.C-]

Seems to me there’s a pattern where women shut down after years of un listened to requests and men think “oh good I don’t have to hear her ‘whining’ anymore” then are so surprised when she wants a divorce.

[priscilamonte-serrat]

Yes, you are 100% right. Sometimes we get tired of talking and decide to be quiet.

[onegiftedlady]

Never listen to those clowns that cheer when their significant other is quiet. It's always a death sentence for the relationship. Good people get tired of being taken for granted.

[laurienewman]

Friends and family couldn't belive when we got divorced because we didn't ever fight. I just got to the point where it just wasn't worth the fight because he didn't listen. I finally just gave up.

[AlewynMarie]

My silence was the final chapter. I had given up; there was nothing left in me to give & I was all out of beg. When we divorced he said he thought everything was great that last year. He thought it was the best we’d ever been! He was quite satisfied with my silence because I still did my mother/wife duties only now I wasn’t asking for anything. That’s not love. He wasn’t in love with me; he was happy to have a mother for his children and a life assistant for himself for twenty years.

[staceypalmer]

Communication is key... I love when a man care enough to ask questions and create a safe environment!

[dmcdmtsdccec]

"Without being punshed." Punished with defensiveness, verbal attacks, scoffing, being told you shouldn't feel that way, anger, argument, and storming off. I never imagined I would be so many years into my marriage and feel less insecure in it than ever.

Thank you for your videos. I'm too nervous to share them with my husband, but seeing your videos and the comments makes me feel less alone.

[chasemarkham]

I always thought my parents had a great relationship, they never fought 🤷🏼‍♀️. Then I ended up in a terrible abusive marriage. I realized after my divorce that handling conflict was not properly modeled for me and it kind of set me up to be a doormat.

[titiavandeneertwegh]

My husband asked me if I was happy in our marriage. This was years ago but that sweet sincere question still makes me feel warm inside.

[Ryanthebrobdingnagian]

I stopped fighting with my girl because it wasn't ever safe for me to discuss how I felt. I was always wrong and eventually it became easier to just do whatever she wanted. I became anxiety ridden because I was always worried an action or choice would upset her. I stopped making choices save for the obvious ones I knew she agreed with.


Then I became fat and depressed. It was like my body shut down. Thankfully, she ended up leaving me. I never would've had the strength to do so myself.


I am an extremely open and vulnerable person. Those aspects were punished and i was told by her that they made me less of a man.

Someday I hope to feel safe enough to open up again.

[TheNok]

I'm currently going through this with my wife. I failed to prioritize our marriage and suffering the consequences of it now. Our marriage is hanging by a thread and I'm trying to work on rebuilding our connection by getting professional help. I don't know what the outcome will be at the end, but I'm trying to do the best I can to work on me for us to work.

[jenniferthomas]

I used to tell my ex, "when I stop nagging, be worried." The last 3 months after I planned my getaway, he thought everything was hunky-dory. 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️

[jolynlaney]

This is so true. The fact that my husband and I haven't really fought in our relationship doesn't mean it's good. It means I don't feel able to share where I'm hurting

[dr.eliciarosen-fox]

That's when I should have left him when I said one of my needs is to feel "safe" and he said I can't guarantee that.

[debbiesander]

So true because after being verbally abused you no longer engage in conflict. No longer having conflict does not mean the relationship is good.

[sherylW]

Intimacy can never developed in an unsafe relationship. This is so important.

[katjongeward]

he teaches her that it's not even worth it to try to bring up a concern. not worth it at all. dealing with his crap. and getting yelled at and gaslighted.

[karadiberlino]

As a woman: When I go silent, know that you have entered the death zone!
☠️🚫😂😂😂 No trespassing!

[mattaniahenglish]

A few weeks ago I checked up on my girlfriend and just asked her “hey is there anything that has been hard on you lately but you didn’t know how to say it or bring it up?”

Well turns out there was something. It was something that I had been doing and saying for a couple weeks straight but she didn’t know how to bring it up with me. I listened to her talk about it and simply tried to understand. It brought about a much deeper level of connection and closeness

[catcolb]

22 years with my ex fiance. We were long distance for a while, so he could further his career... but it ended up being a lot longer than intended. We talked every night, and every night I said "this isn't working, a 10 minute conversation every night isn't a relationship". This went on for a year with no effort on his part to change it. Clearly I was not being heard. Finally I said "I'm done". He was stunned and couldn't believe it! He claimed I had given him no warning.