Are you dating a dismissive avoidant?

Are you dating a dismissive avoidant (DA)?

This 1 thing often leads to misunderstandings and conflict with your DA partner.

Watch today’s video and learn how to enjoy a more supportive relationship where you both feel respected and supported!

Have you dated a DA? Do you agree or not? Comment below!

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[Mermaid_]

This is true. They have a hard time reading between lines. I’m an FA so expected a DA to read my mind like I do.

[cappygurl]

Its okay to not be with someone if they can't meet your needs. You can walk away from the DA and find someone who will be able to give you what you need without it being super hard or a struggle. Find someone who can give you what you need because it comes naturally to them. You both will be much happier.

[circlesthesun]

I'm a DA who wants to change my behavior. Dating a DA for 4 months. For me, the emotional ride ain't worth it.

[konvict]

How do you communicate with someone that would rather stonewall the sh*t outta you, invoke the infamous silent treatment, dissaoears for days if not weeks and runs out the door of any indication that a serious cinversation may cime up? These people are f*cking impossible...

[hamdlillah]

DA just broke up with me after a year and half of being in a relationship and a year being engaged... His reason was _lack of compatibility_ :/ I was heartbroken but now relieved

[armyoftwo]

I hate being DA. Going to therapy and reading some books on how to be secure attachment for my anxious attachment wife.

[Sifu_Black]

FINALLY someone said it. It amazes me how people expect others to read their minds. Women in my relationships even complain that they "can't read me, " and I'm like, "are you a mind reader? You never bothered to ask." 🤦🏿

[riiivvaaaponddd]

I did!! I did communicate my needs over and over with my ex DA but he still crossed my boundaries so wtf was his problem?? Well it's over now for the best but if anyone can help me understand why me being stating my boundaries, feelings, needs clearly over and over did not change his behaviour?

[lindsay]

If you express a need to a DA, in the most eggshell, round-about, non-offensive way, they will still detect that as a NEED (so disgusting to them) and set fire to the relationship.

[thalittguru]

Factsss 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 also ppl will try to get you to meet needs that they should be meeting for themselves! Its not my job to give you self esteem, to replace your self love or self respect, it is not my job to make you feel worthy or motivated to show up or stand up for Yourself! That Is Your Job Alone! Don’t come into relationships seeking shit that you Know is your responsibility To Self to Acquire! It’s not my job to Teach you to have Standards or Boundaries! Infact you should not be entering any relationship if you have not developed any of the Requirements I have mentioned Period! Cause you will be a burden to anyone DA or otherwise. It’s no one’s responsibility to provide these self accountable services for you at all! Anyone who wants this from someone is an energy vampire and not suitable for any type of relationship platonic romantic or business etc. Interdependence is when to ppl capable of standing upright apart in a healthy functioning manner comes together to be mutually beneficial in a non codependent way. This is the ideal relationship not anything more or less❤.

[LentilSoupGirl]

As an avoidant, i find it kinda hard to compromise for people. Don't get me wrong, I cook for people, share my food, clean up, and give them attention if they need. But conventional relationships require too much codependency for me. I don't like doing things I don't enjoy. I find it v hard to trust anyone, rightfully so because no one actually cares.

[estelao.b.]

Don't open up! They will use it against you and use it for the breakup

[doyoueatrocks]

Yeah but a dismissive avoidant does not show up and out the work in 😅