Re-Parenting - Part 18 - Resilience

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Children are naturally resilient; it is something that must be taught to them. Children from Complex Trauma learn to survive, but are not resilient. Complex Trauma creates a sense of helplessness and hopelessness. Re-parenting involves learning resilience today. Learn how that is done.

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Tim Fletcher is not a doctor or licensed therapist. Tim’s videos are for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment.

[KatWoodland]

This is soooo good. Thank you. At 60 I am healing from THREE relationships in which I was abused by a pathological narcissist. Root cause? A pathologically narcissistic mother. Yes. I am 60 and beginning my life anew. It can be done! I am healing. And it’s true. What doesn’t destroy you does make you stronger . . . with the help of these videos and by the grace of God I am healing!!!!

[daceschlentz]

I can't thank you enough Tim - this series has changed my life.

[Odetta-cy]

This is quite interesting and a lot of important information so thank you. The sad part for me is that out of the list of 15 things I had none of them growing up in particularly as a little girl so this information will add to how I have had to re-parent myself over the years. I am very fortunate to have gotten into recovery at the age of 27 and I am now 62 and been clean for 35 years a day at a time. This information is so good for me and I will work through the sadness of not having anything on that list then but I can give all of that to myself now

[shelteredsparrow]

I wrote a play about Esther.
Her being chosen was such a difficult part to write. I almost skipped it completely. Then I went to maybe It wasn’t that Esther that made wonderful but God in her. I also solved a problem for the king using Scripture. I made sure that she was honest that she borrowed the story from someone else. When it wasn’t how great Esther was but Esther’s God it wrote itself in 20 minutes

[dnk]

This series is helping me be more patient with myself and the healing process. I feel much more able to acknowledge the needs of my inner child. Thank you Tim!

[lovelyrainflowerfarm]

‘A child does not learn resilience unless they have at least 1 positive adult support.’

THIS is what I’ve been Sometimes therapists try to convince you that you can develop resilience without connection to another human being. Not possible.

I wish I could talk to somebody like Tim who really knows what they’re talking about when it comes to trauma. Because some of the things I’ve intuited and observed, do not make sense to other people.

[sarahlowe]

This is what I did wrong I was persevering and enduring instead of resilience. Thank God for you, thank you for sharing the light.

[lovelyrainflowerfarm]

THANK YOU!!! That’s what I’ve been saying for the longest time. Just because I lived through horrific things doesn’t make me resilient. I survive, but it’s not because I want to. I haven’t been taught resilience.

[summerwine]

Yeah another Friday night talk!!! 😅 it s Friday everyday since I found Tim s video! 😅

[veronsin]

Thanks Tim. You are changing the world one video view at a time - the unpacking and affirmation you give in your every talk has helped me tonnes.

[F]

The evaluation shows that I should be resilient. Great.

[jessicamorales]

this education is so important. It is a shame we did not get it when we were children, but even now, still extremely useful. Thank you!!!!

[Augfordpdoggie]

I love your channel. this is my biggest struggle. even at 50 i still get frustrated by small things

[susanbaker]

Thank you so much for this reparenting series Tim.

[temmellese]

Another home run of a video. Such good content. God bless you.

[aprilthomas]

A lot of this sounds great except for the assumption that adults have support. How do we build resilience as adults if we don't have support?

[tearthangel]

Happy Resurrection Sunday Tim and Thank you

[awakeref]

Finally understand why my mind 100% always goes to worst case scenario

[catherinewilson]

The only time I have been able to use a new tool to deal with a challenging situation was after I had been doing daily meditation for a couple of months.

[universaltruth]

Some of these can be influenced by personality, health or genetic neurological factors (eg if someone had adhd) as well as cptsd. Often people with neurological conditions or who are highly sensitive did experience trauma as children so its sometimes hard to determine the primary cause & therefore how best to treat it.