Highly Intelligent Empathic Narcissists They DO Exist

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The highly intelligent narcissist is the most covert manipulative and dangerous narcissist - they are truly the wolf in sheeps clothing.

Today I wanted to talk about the highly intelligent emphatic narcissist. Do they really exist? In today's video not only are you going to find out that yes they do exist, but we're going to understand why and how they even came about. And if you are dealing with this kind of narcissist watch till the end of the video I'm going to give you 7 things to look for in case this behavior, this "empathy" and the super spiritual behavior is confusing you and making you wonder if and fact this person is a narcissist, I'll give you specific clues to look for. With that in mind lets get started. I've done videos in the past where I said a narcissist will never get help, will never go to therapy, they will never become soul searching, holistic healing individuals. It's always the other person that has to change, they're already perfect just the way they are. And for the most part that's true but we have to take into consideration the highly intelligent narcissist, and with narcissist the high intelligence comes more effective manipulation. And one of the things that they have learned with the passing of time especially now, with so much information available to victims of narcissistic abuse they've had to make some changes, some adjustments. We're mostly talking about the covert narcissist who likes to hide his or her abuse, they like to appear perfect to the world and the only people that suffer from the covert narcissist tend to be those that they live with, those that are behind closed doors with this kind of a person. With so much information available even covert abuse is coming out into the light, and so that's why they've had to make these changes.

[shesh]

Give them less credit. This is just the covert narcissist AGAIN. I grew up with a narcissistic mother who did this to me. There’s not difference between the two because they don’t have the ability to empathize with us.

[carolinemhurleyful]

OMG...my ex actually went to therapy as a "victim"...

[jimhendricks]

These presentations just keep getting better and better all the time! I love the new visuals, too. Cheers! Thanks for all your work.

[LifeAfterNarc]

Divorced now but went to therapy with the narcissist for 8 years!!!! Everything was looked at as my fault, until he went to jail for hitting my son and I worked with CPS and the social worker said Narcissist, emotional abuse, and showed me the power and control wheel...we had been married 14 years by then! I agree with you...NEVER EVER GO TO THERAPY WITH A NARCISSIST. Oh, and yes he knew how to turn on fake crocodile tears.

[DrewNorton]

this is very important to understand! narcissists are not going to lay down and die because 'empaths' or 'targets' are learning to understand them! their lives revolve around abuse so as the target learns and grows and develops new strategies they will also change and develop strategies to counter the progress that the 'target' has made! this is a never ending game and the best way to win is not to play at all! that means going 'no contact' as soon as possible and staying no contact permanently!

[HaleyMary]

Thanks for covering this topic! I was trying to figure out what type of narcissist the last one I dealt with was. The narcissist I knew acted like they cared a lot for other people, but one-on-one, they changed into a different person and they told me I was taking things too personally after their friend bullied me in public for my abstinence values. The empathic narcissists are the most confusing of all the narcissistic types.

[davidweber]

Mirror mirror on the wall ... its funny sad and ... real. They mirror you, even the drinks they have, food they hated with you, a week latter they love it. So confusing, especially when they are learning what makes you tick. Love your stuff Michele .

[nuria]

They are like bacterias. They become resistant to the most modern antibiotics and adapt to new times to survive

[rosejohnson-tsosie]

I was married to one of these guys. He was motivated by competition. He could see that I got a lot of strokes for MY life and he couldn't stand being ignored. He even started baking to compete with me. For the only birthday he ever put any effort into he baked this elaborate cake and then invited a lot of people. It wasn't MY birthday, it was the "come see what I baked" day.

[CapeFearCaneCorso]

Mine went to counselors, therapists, changed long enough to get me to trust again. He was always trying to keep me no matter what, he would do whatever he had to. Even started going to church, going up front... but spiritually empty... he did all this unconscious... in his own mind everything he did was from the heart. He did all these thing but the true self was always underneath....and came out. He made it look like he was trying so hard and I didn’t appreciate it! Love this video! Thank you, knowing this helps validate my knowing.

[ladyt]

I knew it!! Was afraid of that. Thank you for the confirmation!

[tac]

Grandiose Overt Narcissism perfectly shown here! Keep these videos coming! They're perfect examples of how dangerous this can be to people uneducated in mental health. Especially when triangulated it can really manipulate a person to believe the lies that come up.

[notyourfrind]

This video just further entrenched what I already knew, the only way to truly survive a narcissist is NO CONTACT.

[devonk]

Yep this was mine, not easy to spot. And very clever! Took me years to reconcile my constant feelings of not wanting to be with her and what seemed like the facts that I was taking her for granted because she was so supportive a nice. Turns out she was not very "supportive" or "nice" Just impecably concerned about my perspective of her and everyone around her. The most difficult thing about this type of person is you first have to suspect that someone would go to these levels and act in these ways. But that's just it. Why would you suspect anyone of behaving that way? If you are a normal person you have no frame of reference or good reason to suspect any other human being to have that kind of desire to vampire off of you. Because your normal! The terrible thing is until you start to suspect it you're defenseless. I once heard someone say that whoever reacts the least is in control of the frame. Now I realize she was constantly in control of the frame because she knew every button to upset me. When we were in a conflict I would usually apologize for whatever she claimed I've done but she would just continue repeating it until I finally lost my cool. That way she could just say look you never can control your anger this is about you and somehow we're not talking about her anymore. We never talked about her! because she knew how to control the frame, by reacting the least and getting me to react the most. She knew all my buttons and when she ran out of buttons she resorted to hysterics, and antagonistic Slanders, till I finally would lose it. I hope this helps someone! And thanks for this beautiful lady above. Her videos and coaching helped me a great deal. She knows exactly what she's talking about. I feel this video describes what it was like more than any others. It's the first time I've seen someone acknowledge the possibility that they could be empathetic and highly manipulative at the same time. It was very very difficult to pinpoint. Took ten goddamn years!

[perfectday]

Yes Yes Yes
Completely accurate!!! Thank you, Michele, for talking about this aspect. I love how you can articulate and describe things about narcissism. It's like I know it and see it but it's hard to put it into words where it makes sense. I love learning from you! Thank you for making such a powerful and positive impact on my life.
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[itsallaboutnothing]

Jesus Christ is any way to escape from them? I am afraid to maintain any close relationships with people.

[ATebbs]

Thank you SO much for this! I felt like I was the crazy one because outside people said our narcissist was “changing” 🙄

[jay-syc]

They use cognitive empathy, not genuine empathy.

[larasita]

"no real resolution, no positive validation, anger is still seething at the nonstop deception, constantly being provoked & blamed for reacting... 'it's all still your fault!! ' "

basically, they are having a relationship with themselves - their story, their rules, for their benefit only - and we are having no relationship at all.

[ormorphe]

This! They learn their audience and morph into what gives them crowd approval. And “I’m sorry = SHUT UP! It’s in the past!” Despite the chaos, Molotov Cocktails that they just threw and the fire’s still burning.

They throw the flames and criticize how you burn.