How Narcissists use cognitive empathy against you

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Narcissists waits for you to fail, they needs a Scapegoat to lifts themselves. JazzyT.

Tov-hv
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I have been married to cognitive narcissist for over Twenty five years now and what she has said is absolutely true… I’ve been confused all those years and now can see why! No one in a relationship with one can ever make sense out of their behavior but this lady can and now that I have been following her I can now stop racking my brains out trying to understand what has been before me all these years ! I hope you will also find her many videos as helpful as I’m certain you will !!!


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Jockstrap
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Narcissist also Falsely accuse you of doing what they do

MrYou-nf
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That makes total sense! My ex was very spoiled and his parents never held him accountable for anything probably because his father was a narc too and his mother was an enabler.

michelepace
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23 yrs I experienced this. Every reel is spot on. I couldnt leave. We have 4 children. She was cheating the entire time and before discarding me convinced our children j was cheating on her. Its been two yrs. It took me a year to stand up and realize i was free as if conditioned to be a prisoner. My greatest fear of abandonment was realized and i survived but am still alienated from my children and its very painful and she knows it. They cant face their own shame so instead blame on their victim what they are guilty of. I am loved now by a wonderful woman and wait for my children to reconnect and i continue to leave messages with two of them. I will never give up on them.

Lover_warrior
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Mommys n Daddys please don’t spoil your kids because NPD can not be cured!!! 😮

labazoops
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I recently realized this on my own, thay can't 'feel for you' for their ego won't allow it. They cannot be seen or think themselves as the perps they are because in their mind you are of lesser value. They can't apologize for example, they'd have to admit the can be less than perfect like all of us.

janebraun
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Yes they project themselves on to you and convince others that, that is who your are. Sad fact is many people believe them. But trust that those few (usually very few) people who see the truth are your people. Also, in my situation I noticed that he tried to convince me that these people were no good. At the time I fell for it because I had zero knowledge on narcissisim. Now I know why he wanted me to distance myself from them. It all makes sense.
Sending LOVE to you all💖💖💖

LOVEISTRUTH
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And that’s what makes me feel sadness for them because I know they went through some stuff that made them So horrible when they were an innocent child. I also feel when you become an adult you have to take accountability for your own actions though and to continue to do people like that is wrong but I stopped internalizing how they treated me because they know no other way but I made that choice to go because the disrespect is unreal. The imbalance they cause in people is just so fucked up!

duck
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Perfect Definition!
It helps to understand!

fastingcoach
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Would that be like when I went through breast cancer and she would say, you have to try harder? And that she would keep saying, you know the woman that had her legs blown off during the Boston run, has become famous. Why can’t you be. Like that? She’s missing a leg and she seems to be over it. I just could not get over things fast enough. Couldn’t get over being cheated on fast enough, couldn’t heal fast enough, couldn’t let go of having to move out with the boys two times fast enough, is this why went I felt like I was getting somewhere she would say it’s not fast enough. And at some point in the conversation say, you’re not going to cry are you.

Anoushka. Thank you so much. I have been following you for months at least 7 you have helped me understand that this is no way to live. You challenged me to remember who I was before her. And I was a softball player a coach and I was the person that parents and college educated people came to when they couldn’t handle a child with autism. I was a leader in teaching the employees how to remember that these kids don’t want to be like they are. They were not trying to manipulate anyone. You have been willing to be hard on me, us, .
You just have and continue to give me a chance to come out of this stronger thank you. Oh let’s not forget you gave me permission to allow myself the grace and love I deserve.

sleepydoppy
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Yes I was dating one got rid of him real fast.

sheilamarch
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“Cognitive empathy”. That’s a good one. They get you at a disadvantage, then they say stuff to rub it in. But it’s all the listeners fault really. The one ascribing meaning to the things being said. Cognitive empathy. I like the term. Doesn’t do a whole lot for the term “empathy”’s reputation. Empathy is good. Empathy is most attractive. Cognitive empathy’s “ first I’m going to steal control, and then I’m going to beat you up by hitting on a nerve”. I’m not even sure of what I’m saying. I just see it works, and that is all that matters. I’m a pretty lonely human being.

thetruther
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Im not sure it's the abuse or being spoilt during childhood.
I personally know many people who have come out as extremely kind, full of empathy, wheras the ones who had a good upbringing have got narcissistic traits.
I think it depends on the individual as to what kind of person you actually are.

navjotnijjar
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Cognitive empathy is definitely a double-edged sword. It can be used to show tremendous interest in someone (whether real, feigned, detached or for an ulterior motive) but also to calculate all kinds of ways to use someone.

jaialaiwarrior
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They share with others who you are but, it is truly them! Fitting a profile doesn’t mean you are that person, it just makes it easier to be lied on. Thank you!

lionelwashington
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My ex was not abused, nor was he spoiled. He kept telling me that he middle child syndrome…i have never found anything that says it was a thing…his parents were wonderful, also amazing grandparents. He just became a spiteful and hateful, there were 5 children and he is a very jealous person. When his brother had an opportunity to get a job close to where we lived, he asked him if he could come to stay when he got the interview, mu husband said no…so he asked me and i said yes, husband was pissed, i did not care. My brother in law appreciated so much. He had 5 kids and he really needed the job.

DebbieNielsen-er
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help me remove the block… it’s kinda weird how I tell ppl who I am & they don’t actually believe it, I tell them what they are getting there self into & they don’t believe it, so how is a narcissist bad? Lol I try everyday to become better by watching videos to self reflect until I had to accept it. Now I just don’t care but still open to help… ppl are weird tbh, if they knew there self they won’t fall into the foolish act of a narcissist. Trust me when I tell you I had no idea I was narcissist. I just accept it after few years of projection but I don’t feel bad due to the pain I been through (Yh I’m also a victim that deals with my stuff all alone without any help). I wish y’all could stop putting down ppl with narcissistic traits, we are actually trying to change even if it feels like a fixed states.😊

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Yeah if you’re out of touch w feelings you’re generally swindling out of reality

annaturquoise
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i was shown empathy and love by my parents my whole life... thats why i am an empath...

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