Delicately dumping the narcissist

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[imnoel]

There is nothing cowardly about delicately dumping a narcissist. It is a courageous act of self care.

[TheSelfCenter]

The narcissist always knows when you're dumping them, no matter how gentle you try to be. Set your boundaries and be firm! ☀️☀️

[Violet_Lotus_]

When your survival is at stake! You do what you gotta do.

[XanthiKokkinos]

I blocked her the last day... after that she kept sharing on facebook how bad I was. Fight for your sanity! You don't want that energy in your life! Talking to a narcissist is talking to a demon

[korab.]

The part about quiet dumping that hasn't been talked about: you have to have resolve. That takes courage. Your continued exposure gives them the opportunity to manipulate, coerce, and gaslight while you're quietly getting out. You have to be sure, stay sure, stay the course, and follow through.❤

[juliepatchouli]

I delicately dumped my narcissistic husband after 30 years together. We have been apart now for 16 months and divorced 2 months. What pure relief, I have happiness, peace and calm in my life again.

[theresed]

This is like all those super difficult people who have held all the power in relationships and punished any negative feedback saying: "But why won't you TELL me what's wrong? How can we fix this if you don't communicate?" Ignoring the fact that they have often spent years punishing and stomping out any uncomfortable communications.

[rando]

i stayed in a narcissistic relationship for nearly 5 years because i was taking “regular” relationship advice, which only made me spiral harder into shame, helplessness, and losing sense of self. my narc ex would say the same things when i would attempt to voice my feelings or disengage as this so-called expert (ie. being childish, a poor communicator etc). - and so did therapists i saw over the years. Dr Ramani is right! you have to see it for what it is and learn to leave in the way that will leave you the most psychologically intact. unfortunately, i didn’t know then what i do know now about narcissistic breakups and it went down in flames and rage and smear campaigns. whoever is reading this, i believe you! don’t doubt yourself. your gut is always right. wishing you tons of healing ❤

[jimmieuajack]

I cannot tell you Dr Ramani, just how much you are helping me navigate this situation that has taken all my years of potential happiness away. I am so very glad to have stumbled across your channel a couple months ago!

[backthebasicsx]

After I put my ex-Narc on notice that we can’t live under the same roof, within hours I went to the house, got the remainder of my stuff, and drove off. Prior to me leaving with my stuff, he sat in a chair, in the sun room, looking out side in silence. He knew it was over and the divorce papers were coming. At that point, there was no arguing and I went low contact to eventually no contact. I put him and the whole situation in The Most High’s hands. I have peace of mind.

[tims]

If you can keep the narcissist happy and confused about the relationship it gives you a way to get out as they're then often shocked and confused when you get away. Worked for me.

[cijmo]

I would think that delicate dumping is what comes after all other efforts of communication are done. It's like "I have nothing left, this is all there is left to do." Everyone has a limit and has to just give up being the one willing to work on things.

[ZeroFs-ok]

Regular relationship advice does NOT cut it. Amen...I have been telling myself that for years and this is this first I heard it coming from someone else mouth. Thank God ..I'm on the right track. Thank you Dr Ramani!!!! So happy right now

[andystreet]

Faced another screaming fit three months ago. It was the final straw. Sick of being told that I'm the problem, that I'm far too sensitive. She ghosted me, so I ghosted back. Now my name is dirt, her kids have cut me adrift. Yes it hurts but once you make that decision, the relief is akin to lancing an abscess. Roll on the end of the year and the start of a new one without that God awful feeling of despair in the pit of your stomach.

[LoquaciousByNature]

I had a need for a PFA against my ex. I honestly hope, once the order expires, that he'll not try to reach out to me ever again.

[edgreen]

That is wise to pull back from an abuser.

[debhervol]

Thank you for this video!!! I shame myself enough, I don't need others adding to that shame!!!

[vampireslayer]

I actually did that. I was with a BPD with comorbid Narcissism.
The relationship started to get strange with gaslighting, etc and I could see the Devaluation happening.
She was already seeing someone else, and I could see the "writing on the wall". So pre-empted the inevitable.
I said "Goodbye" and wished her the best. She immediately ran into the arms of her new lover. It hurt, but "Lucky Me".
He dumped her too within six months; and her wrath was directed at Me Again".
At one point early on, I was going to call him and tell him what he was getting into; but I used good judgment, went no contact, and kept my mouth shut.

[backthebasicsx]

Thank you Dr. Ramani for keeping it 100. This is why I had to physically separate before filing for divorce. Depending upon the situation, don’t give the Narc any notice. Just make an exit plan and execute it swiftly 🎯.

[mthomas]

I had that "difficult conversation" and, because we all know that narcissists don't listen and only hear what's in their own head, I got the blank stare with a large scoop of deflection. It's not about avoidance, it's about being aware of their lack of connection and deciding to slowly walk away. Their enablers are the ones that try and find out why you're distancing, so they do the work of getting into what the issue is and reporting back.