Preparing Your Mind For A Break up With A Narcissist

Before you physically remove yourself from a narcissist, it's good to know that your decision is being guided by strong reasoning. Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter offers seven insights that need to be in place as you are emotionally and physically unhooking from the narcissist.

Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who lives in Dallas, Tx. In the past 39 years he has conducted over 60,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.

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[janiceweed]

Being in a long term relationship with a narcissistic person can cause you to lose sense of your unique personhood. You don't really know who you are anymore.

[cyndimoring]

my biggest problem wasn't leaving. It was blaming myself for letting this happen to me in the first place. And it took me years to trust someone else.

[lizzyflip]

I disconnected emotionally first, left the bedroom, lost weight started working out, now ready to move out physically after 31 years🙏🏼

[kam]

It was really hard to get my head around that the person I loved was nothing more than an empty shell. There was no real, genuine emotion being returned to me. I came away feeling used and tired and mentally and emotionally drained, yet somehow, I find myself missing this person at times. It's crazy.

[loligranada]

I left him yesterday and said: I love you but I love myself more.
Drops mic 🤜🎤

[JasmineReiki]

I love myself enough to walk away from a situation that no longer works for me.

[USNBLUE]

Remain silent and plan to move out when they aren't home if you live together. RUN FOR YOUR LIFE.

[TarantulaswithShanti]

It's really generous of you to take time out to make these videos.

[peter-cjfo]

Q How many narcissists does it take to change a light-bulb ?
A They're only interested in gas-lighting

[Vezmus]

Marcus Aurelius Quote: “The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury.”

[laurenchieco-garofalo]

I divorced him and all he keeps saying is, “ if only you could have ... fill in the blank” Never occurred to him to ask why I even filed in the first place. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[whosyourmama]

60 yrs in a FOG - and here you are Dr. Carter - a wonderful kind beacon of light helping all of us victims of abuse. Thank you!

[leonsmith]

No greater love, than one who would give up a significant portion of his life to
bring life giving information to people he will never see.

[Fargoguy]

My mindset: "Free at last. Free at last. Great God Almighty, free at last."

[narcslayer]

Escape from Alcatraz and never look back!

[benchild]

I was married to a Narcissist for twenty years ..I left her 4 years ago and I’m still processing it ..these videos help, thank you

[krtyrgrl]

The narcissist in your life can NEVER hurt you enough to make themselves happy, but they will keep trying as long as you allow them to.

[aprilt]

You don’t realize the slow erosion of yourself until you are away from the narcissist. Thank you Dr Carter for clarifying exactly what was happening to me and, more importantly, helping become a stronger happier ME!

[DBrown-slwe]

The narc I am in the process of leaving absolutely refuses to acknowledge his over week long bouts of silent treatment are abuse. He disrespects me, calls me names, and then goes silent for a week or more. Whenever he gets angry, no matter how small the incident is that he is mad about. This most recent one was because on top of ALL the house work I do (I do it ALL) and I work, he flipped tf out cause I left clothes on the basement steps. Smfh... Then acts like nothing’s happen, won’t apologize, and once I confront his ass all he does is twist and turn my words, what he’s done, and then ultimately justices his horrid abuse. I’m fuckin exhausted, he won’t leave my home and is claiming his legal 30 days!

[loripatten]

hi- one of the best in your series. i just got a divorce from a narcissist after 36 years of marriage. he had reduced me to a shell of what i was and could be. the point i took from this video was that i need to build myself back into what i know i am capable of being. although i never, ever want to be married again, screw that, i do have a ton of gifts that i can share with so many others through service. I didn't hear about dr. carter before i started my divorce, but he has really helped me since i filed. thanks. hang in there people. we can make it!