Why Absent Fathers Harm Children and Ruin Society

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[anc]

I grew up without a father and I will never abandon my son.
The love I have for my boy is endless.

[Mentherex]

My wife worked in a government funded daycare for poor families, special needs kids or new citizens. There was only one male daycare worker in the whole building, and he was a 50 year old man. The children, especially boys, loved him, he was the closest thing in their lives to a father figure, or any male figure that actually paid attention to them. It was actually heartbreaking seeing how much they needed a man in their lives.

[UnschoolingCOM]

“What society does to its children, so will its children do to society.” ~ Marcus Tullius Cicero [De Officiis]

[spellcasterneo]

It hurts. It really hurts not to have a father growing up. But you know what is more of a jabbing stung to the gut, is finally meeting him and realizing you were better off without him...

[TheFarCenter]

I denied that having an absent father affected me for decades, until I grew up and had my own children. I then realized how much a child needs his father, and have made this my commitment to my own children, nephews, and community by coaching baseball.

[UnschoolingCOM]

“His heritage to his children wasn’t words or possessions, but an unspoken treasure, the treasure of his example as a man and a father.” ~ Will Rogers, Jr. (1879–1935)

[averageasian]

My sister is divorced- resulting in a child with no consistently present father figure. I still remember how his eyes lit up when I picked him up (5 years old) with no effort and swung him around playfully. He snuggled into my chest and arms as I could tell he felt something he never felt before; strength, security and power all in one motion. It hurt me to see that he does not experience something like that often.

[cruzan]

My father was kind and loving towards me. Being a poor immigrant my father was unable to obtain his ultimate educational goals. Fortunately, he had the pleasure of seeing me achieve what he couldn’t. He’s gone now but he lives on in me.

[bluemoon]

My dad passed away right in front of me when i was 11. His addiction ended up killing him and, sadly, i didn't get to spend very much time with him because of the former and because of his job. But, his last words to me always hit me: "Don't waste your life being angry at the world. Live your life to the fullest." Though he wasnt around long enough to see me grow up, i hope through all of my ups and downs that i live up to what he said.

[vandolmatzis]

My Mother died when I was young and my Father was mostly absent.I was lucky to have loving siblings who nurtured me.I am proud to be a Father to my two sons.

[davidcoalkey]

My father was in the home, but very absent in the ways that matter. At 17 I joined the Army. Years later I've often reflected that the Army filled the role of father for me.

[yqhvoun]

Having an absent father has made me realize how much my mother has gone through to fill that gap for both parents. She did the best she could and I will always remember that type of love she has for me for when I become a parent. Although it is upsetting seeing all the others kids with their fathers and knowing I would never experience that, I never felt unloved because of the amazing job my mother did. Thanks mom, you're the greatest parent I could have asked for.

[David-wwsg]

As the son of a physically present but emotionally-unavailable father, much of this video resonated with me. I really dislike blaming others for my problems, but I think my lack of self-confidence and esteem that I have felt for as long as I can remember likely had something to do with the fact I have little to no memories of my father when I was young. I'm not even sure if he is even aware that I was bullied at school. I hardly saw him in the house, and when I did it had that same feeling of being with a house guest you don't know too well.

I hope that everyone here can heal as best they can, and put an end to the generational cycle.

[hrosch]

I work with primary age students who have behavioral and emotional problems. Almost all of them either have absentee or abusive fathers. In my professional experience, the lack of a positive male role model is one of the most detrimental things to a young child. I strongly admire all the men who are present in their children’s lives.

[Mishina]

As someone who grew up without a father I can only confirm, that my stepfather sees me more as a competitor to him than a companion, which is a very accurate explanation of his behaviour. Thank you for sharing these helpful videos. Keep up the great work!

[EmanuelCrag]

We don't need just any father. We need good fathers with values and love.

[SuperCheeseUs]

How damaging is it to an infant when left 40+ hours/week with strangers at daycare? It only adds to attachment and emotional issues, IMO.

[flinchfiles]

As a fatherless daughter, it's not just the fact that he wasn't around. It's that you have no idea who you are and cannot ask any questions as there are no other living relatives to draw back on. He died recently & it's like a void that will always go unfilled. BUT, you can never play the victim card, just get on with it as the f^ckery will mess with you for the rest of your life, do not allow it to power over your life, accept it, deal with it and move on. You're not alone.

[danieldamata]

I've experienced that, although my father's absence was painful, whenever he was around was somehow worse.
Some people are just bad for your health, and it often happens inside families

[csj]

Big props to my dad. He always took care of me, wasn't mean or violent and sacrificed and busted his ass for us. All of that is amazing to me, considering he really didn't like me all that much.