Are You Feeling Hopeless? Advice From a Therapist

ARE YOU FEELING HOPELESS? ADVICE FROM A THERAPIST
I feel intimately familiar with feelings of hopelessness and despair so I wanted to share what I have learned about how to deal with it and MAYBE shift the way you think about these feelings.
I draw on the work and philosophy of Thomas Moore about how we can learn from dark times and emerge wiser people.
This applies to binge eating recovery, but also life in general.

#DarkNightOfTheSoul #ThomasMoore #Depression

[laurahicks]

I think at the center of most addictions is trying to change the way we feel, instead of accepting them. No feeling whether happy or sad stays that way forever. Most days people experience a vast range of emotion.

[eileenmurray]

So much wisdom in this video -thank you for all you do with your videos - it’s not just about binge eating - your advice helps with all sorts of mental health.💕

[barbaramartin]

I've been feeling this. like I will never be good enough. I reminded myself I am doing my best. But, I realy . tn..
like how you are helping me see its good to feel it. Move thru and learn.thanks

[IVORY]

I've been offered End of Life counseling . But never went through with it . I was beaten and abused as a child, thrown out with no care whether I had a roof over my head of food . Abandoned . I'd raise up and do my best, Try to do for others what was never done for me . Laughed as much as I could and hide pain .Even as of today, my door pounded with A court summons foreclosure, I am weak, an amputee, broken bones, teeth falling out and Stage 4 Cancer ., No family, No friends, Looking like more and more that I'll be homeless soon, I've feel I have grown strong enough to accept any amount of loss .I have a shred of Faith and I believe that is what sustains me .I am accepting that I am going to have to walk the earth, wander and find a place to die .

[chelseapoet]

A beautiful video, thank you. I've loved Thomas Moore's work for years. Both Dark Night of the Soul and Care of the Soul 🙏

[supwphilosophy]

I really like this as a response to The Experience Machine (Nozick, 1974) thought experiment. It’s not about happiness/pleasure; it’s about growth.

[SaraAnnMazan]

I needed this video today. I'm glad I stumbled on it. Thank you.

[nap]

Thanks so much with your wise words and making me think in a different way with the things you were touching on.Your positivity has really helped how I am feeling

[hectorgerardocorral]

I have Adhd hopeless that things will be any better

[mlouw]

Omg, Sarah! I’m just part way in to the video, but I was about the ask if you’d read “care of the soul” when you started talking about Thomas Moore!?! I love how the internet connects us to people of like mind ☺️💕

[al_]

This is brilliant. Thank you so, so much :)

[mlouw]

I was using the caterpillar analogy for quite some time before it dawned on me that caterpillars spend most of their pre cocoon existence eating everything in sight. That gave me a chuckle 😅👌 🐛

[thenightwatchman]

now that you mention it. it is kind of hypocritcal for me to look down on others for letting their emotions determine their reality, yet i was so blind to the fact im letting my negative emotions define my values and identity, rather than the other way around. its so obvious in hindsight and the first step towards having a more hopefull identity is to engage in actions that promote hope, if anyone expects good feelings to PRECEDE accomplishment or fulfillment truly are putting their carriage before their horse. a first practical step would just put the roller coaster in park for repairs. ill thank myself later.

[lorriredmon]

When I heard your video of feeling a failure, I was so proud of you for being willing to be in it, share it out loud with us, and go through it. I love seeing the proof of you today, knowing that the only way out is through. I don't think you know how much it helps me to know that when I'm in a bad place, there is another side and that there will be a lesson on the other side if I embrace it, say it out loud and sit still in it. I will be looking up Thomas Moore and saving his links for a time when am having a difficult time. Thank you for this very important subject. Much love....

[kratosthest]

I wish i could switch off my brain 😭😭😭

[astridkalisblomberg]

today, I just woke up feeling super fatigued and I have been feeling that sometimes a lot latley and it is very binge triggering, I also realized that I think I am excericing to much? Like last summer/fall I didn't binge for 3 months, the biggest change I had made was that instead of doing a 1 hour workout session, I did only half hour workou sessions, but than I went back to do 1 hour workout and have been struggling with binging again (alongside hormones and depression and moving from home and that kind of stuff) And now suddenly I am like how have I not connected those dots till now. Like my body has been trying to tell me all the time that my workout regime isnt working for me! My body is just waiting for me to listen to it!

[HUYI]

I am an overweight failure in my appearance, how I feel and my mental health, no matter what I do, I can't talk to my family because they are toxic and evil, I can't talk to my boyfriend because he doesn't understand mental health, I can't speak to my ex because he's a narc and will only think about himself, what am I supposed to do with these feelings and how to cope with them, I'm sorry to be rude but I'm not here for a Life story I'm here for advice and life positive actions, if I feel nothing will help I will go deep down to suicide because there is nothing else for me to help and no one can convince me out of that, good for you that you got out of your problems but there are other people out there that are still suffering and have NO ONE to help them, some people have it easy and take it for granted, I was abandoned as a child left to rot and I feel this feeling as i grow up, I feel like nothing 😢 there is nothing to help or cope with this situation

[dm]

Is it normal to feel confused about whether you are or are not a binge eater? I identify as a childhood binger but not so much as an adult. I tried eating disorder treatment in my mid 30s but was told that I "didn't fit the mold" of typical binge eaters and the treatment mostly made it worse not better. The treatment psychiatrist gave me a pretty big clue into my overall health history and hypothesized that I had sleep apnea fueling my problems including the disordered eating. I am now convinced this is what started it all. However I still feel lost about how to address my body composition goals and health distress. The sleep apnea is difficult to treat though I think a heavy focus on this is necessary for success. I wonder if also I need to identify as a binger in order to succeed or if it matters.

[Od.]

Which Thomas Moore/More, a contemporairy person? Like to found out what you are refering to.

[MrDillon]

I dont agree that “good times” cant also provide growth.