What People Don't Get About Motivation.

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[PuntedKitten]

"Motivation is the ability to hold a thought for an extended period of time." Brilliant. That explains a lot of my struggle. I lose track of everything constantly.

[Fanaro]

Finally someone who speaks some sense into the "just do it" epidemic.

[WeabooMilk]

"It gets easier. Every day it gets a little easier. But you gotta do it every day — that’s the hard part. But it does get easier."

[ersikaQT]

Personal notes:

15:24 Practicing keeping a thought steady in your mind improves motivation
22:12 Desires bump the thought you're trying to hold
23:49 Anxiety is great at bumping thoughts 💜
28:25 Discipline is not something you can create, it's an emergent property from other things

[OrlandoDelgadilloLuna]

The moment he mentioned how self-discipline it's not a thing, I felt free.

[InsertMyChineseUsername]

this is why im motivated in case it helps someone:

I want to get out of here, so I have spent the majority of everyday studying for the past 2 years. I tell myself every day that I have to do this because it is more responsibility to help myself be happy. I have all my reasons written down and I look at them everyday and I try to break down things I have to do into smaller chunks. When I can't find the will in me to get out of bed, I think hard about the consequences of failing and I tell myself that it doesn't have to be that way and that I am worth the choice to work hard. Sometimes, I can only get a little bit done, but I have learned to forgive myself for not overachieving because being mad is just gonna keep me from my goals. It's gotten a lot easier past the first year, but it's probably never going to be effortless.

[Maelthorn]

The thumbnails are starting to get through to me. I'm beginning to think the guy in the video is a psychiatrist...

[isthisagoodyoutubehandle]

I have ADHD and this quite literally fixed my imposter syndrome. I can't stop thinking about the task I can't seem to start. I'm always motivated, my body just won't act on the motivation no matter how long it's there until some urgency gives me the adrenaline and dopamine rush to allow me over the hill

[steamyrobotlove]

Sounds like the key to motivation is like "positive selective ignorance", just focusing on the action and not any of the fail states. Which can be good! I'll have to practice this.

[cheshire]

I think another reason why people act motivated, but don't feel motivated is that they're executing a good habit. Habits are incredibly powerful. They automate a behavior such that you _don't_ have to hold it in your mind constantly to be able to execute it.

[rohan]

The concept of focusing on actions rather than goals is so interesting to me because it contrasts questions I commonly hear along the lines of "Where do you see yourself in 5-10 years?"

[nepgeardam]

"Motivation is the ability to hold a thought in your mind for a long time"

So this is why Vergil is so obsessed with power. He's MOTIVATED

[Yo-zeoq]

Don’t feel like doing anything anymore. It’s all just a chore. Even so, these videos always help

[QueenCloveroftheice]

Executive dysfunction: holding a thought in your head and being extremely motivated to carry out the action, but your body does not DO THE THING

[v]

"GOD FUCKING DAMN IT HE DOES IT AGAIN!" I scream as he finally puts into words the things I have been thinking about. Thought bumping.

[khaoz]

Not going to lie. This is probably one of my favorite videos. I used to have all motivation to self study everything i could get my hands on, mainly math. A harsh and traumatic event occured at age 14 and the trauma continued until i was kicked out of my parents house at 18. Ive spent years studying even psychology to help myself and i have gotten extremly far, but i could not for the life of me find how to regain my motivation that i struggled with after the years of PTSD events. I remember math and whatever i wanted to learn was on my mind everyday. What demotivated me from this lesson is reading in articles and my psychiatrist telling me the state before trauma is never attainable.

So i was given false information and no way to figure out how to get motivation. I am 22 and almost done with undergrad in physics, ive been running on discipline myself, but my motivation has been gone.

I must give thanks for this long search of an answer finally being found for myself. 😊

[ScorpionFRE----USA]

David Goggins said "motivation is shit, you have to become obsessed!". Which is similar to what Dr. K is saying! "If you want something. Then keep thinking about it!"

[catsozen]

This is exactly why monotasking has been a great deal of help to my motivational problems. The world is so full of distractions, attacking your mind from all sides, craving attention and giving a sense of false urgency. You find yourself trying to juggle so many things, often failing to keep up, thus falling into anxiety and depression. The day I decided to eliminate those distractions and focus on just one thing at a time (therefore keeping a thought still) was the day I finally felt control returning in my life.

[AmbiCahira]

What I've learned about motivation is that nothing is as powerful as a strong why. Why does it matter to you, why do you want these results, why is failure not an option. That why is so powerful. I study a third language daily because my Why fuels me to wake up pumped to pick up the books and study.

[MarkusArkus]

I revisit this video ever few months. I eventually took notes from it and figured I may as well share. May you hold your thoughts.

Motivation is the ability to hold a thought for an extended period of time.
When you are free from desire, you will become motivated.
Seeking discipline dominates what should be your central thought.
Discipline is an external observation, emergent of other components.
Discipline is "trying to fly without getting wings first".
Create the components of flight and then flight will emerge.
Be mindful of your thoughts and motivation will be inevitable.