The Truth About Narcissists: Why They Discard You

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Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist. That’s me - Ben Taylor a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook.

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[rebeccablakey]

Narcissists like to use a hard discard when they realize that you know who they are and what they have done. The Narcissist ran for cover when he wasn't able to be the boss anymore.

[amygrelecki]

My narst. just love bombed the hell out of me just over the past week, took me away on a trip, bough me dinner and now I haven't heard a word from him in a few days now . I'm so sick of the way he makes me feel, he builds me up then puts me down just as quick . How can someone be so evil ? It's disgusting what this guy does to me and I'm sure he's Done this to many others .

[lorrainethomas]

I've been discarded by three Narcs including a friend and family member. Of course, they attempted to return which was immediately denied. NEVER allow these people back in they'll do it again.

[rockybalboa]

I got discarded immediately after I exposed mine and told him I think he’s a narcissist

[shellyruss]

We were engaged, bought a home together; as soon as we closed on the house I was told who I could be friends with, accused of lying to him, silent treatment… two months later I left. I held him accountable by not reacting, not taking his bait. I packed up, I was gone. I couldn’t stand the character assignations, the inability to have an opinion or thought of my own. One minute I was planning a life with him, the next I was packing to leave and find emotional safety. It’s so crazy, I don’t want to be controlled, I want love and connection. Thank you for giving us a safe place to learn and heal.

[cherrybacon]

A Narcissist discards in whatever shape or form because they're not capable of genuine emotional connection where they'd sacrifice something of themselves if need be to make things better. I stopped sacrificing parts of myself and my personality when I realised it made no difference to his abuse of me which continued nevertheless. 🍒

[Missybella]

My ex Narc reverse discarded me when I began mirroring his behavior.
He said he caught on my “games.”

[iMikkeysat]

I'm not naive, I really trusted that he had genuine feelings for me... that hurts 😔 but I know that god is taking me to the desired direction after that ass*ole 😑 not feels so good to leave but true and right at the end. Peace and Love to everyone.

[melissabrzescinski]

I asked my bf of two and a half years if he would consider moving in together eventually. I was discarded two weeks later with no explanation other than he’s been dissatisfied in the relationship. No indications beforehand, no discussion, nothing. Cowardly.

[justme_brentg]

The very day I confronted her on her ignoring me and treating me like a nuisance was the last day of my ten year relationship. Just gone. Poof. Insanity. Painful.

[jenyahwehsal]

I realized now I was just being used for a whole year all of a sudden. His phone was disconnected and poof he was gone, haven't heard from him over four months

[czgiomn]

After my narc ex left me for someone else, I just wanted her to admit that she was using me the whole time, but she wouldn't even grant me that. Instead she got angry and justified herself, telling me how irrelevant I am to her, but that somehow doesn't mean she was using me. It was like the *only* explanation for her cheating that she would accept was that i wasn't good enough.

[p.s.]

Discarded and then they deny the discard. Say that you discarded them. So confusing.

[BrokenToyGoddess]

He walked out on our children. He has new supply. I became the other woman a month after he left. I realize now that it was a trauma bond. I had hope he would come back but I question myself. He was an abusive monster. Now he claims she is the love of his life. He started telling me private information about her. He wanted a friends with benefits. When I became jealous and started reaching out to her. Now he is punishing me because she is starting to see that he is lying. I stopped reaching out to her. It’s pointless. I’m hurt and broken. He no longer sees me as supply. I am grateful that this final discard is the end of this nightmare. I’m trying to put myself together.

[cherankimiorak]

This is gold advice 🙏🏽 My ex narc blamed me for going through his phone and said to me “if you think I’m cheating I might aswell do it” turns out my instincts were right he was cheating on me all along. I thank God he saved me from this torture 🙏🏽

[mcostilla]

What if he tell you he doesn’t want to be either you anymore because it’s not gna work because he says it was to much drama ? When it was him all this time creating the drama but blames everything on you ??

[KereolaPatunia]

I acted like a complete lunatic with a narcissist. He told.me to leave him alone. Hopefully it worked so he doesn't come back lmao!

[Leila_Amel]

The awkward thing is the fact that I did not question my worth, I thought that something happened to him and really was worried about him until I saw him on social media seeking public recognition as he has always done.😅

[passionprincess]

Excellent video Ben. Thank you for being definitive in your explanation. Your examples are so helpful at understanding. Keep up the great work, Love this!!!

[exodus]

Great video Ben! I really like your delivery. My narc left me, because I started to stand up for myself, and used it as control. Not sure what was waiting in the wings, but clearly didn't work out, because she came back 3 months later. Then oh shit!! She was worse than ever. She finally left after threatening me with legal action etc. I got her to sign a mutual release, got the engagement ring back gave her a few bucks (would have spent on an attorney fighting her frivolous claim) and complete no contact. She of course went back to an old boyfriend from 20 years ago, who has been on and off the shelf with her since they broke up at 25. You videos have been helpful, and it is so much easier when it is confirmed they are a narc. Oh yeah, Ive been hovered 3 separate times since going no contact, she did it through alternative email accounts, that were not blocked because i didnt know about them. Its really gross!!