Narcissists believe they are entitled to 'speak their truth'

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[NarcSurvivor]

But they don’t like it when you speak your truth…

[rebeccaf]

Has anyone else experienced the narcissist projecting this back on you? When I called my narcissist out on his abusive behavior, he insisted that I hurt him deeply with my cruel words. Never mind that I ENDURED the abuse, my SPEAKING about the abuse (my truth) was the problem.

[aydenblack]

I broke up with my narcissistic girlfriend a couple days ago. Finding this community allowed me to validate so many experiences that left me questioning myself and my worth. Ultimately she didn’t love me, she loved the way I loved her. It was grape juice, and as my first real relationship I drank it not knowing any better. I’m so happy I found this channel; i feel like I dodged a bullet in the long run. Thank you

[BrlliantBeauty]

Truth designed to hurt another person isn’t truth, it’s abuse. That will be my meditative thought for the day as I focus on healing from narcissistic abuse and unlearning toxic methods of communication that hurt others. Thank you Dr. Ramani. 💕

[samf.s]

What baffles me is that after a major falling out, they contact you or talk to you as if nothing happened. What the F is that? You have to apologize when that stuff happens, it's not "kay, guess you're excused now because you're so awesome and I am so lucky to just know you". Like, no!

So best case scenario, they excuse themselves for the awful stuff they did, worst case scenario I have to sit through an explanation of why they were "justified" in their behavior.

[cyndyrella]

One of the best lines against the narcissistic type person when they come at you, is "I'm willing to accept your perception of me" said very calmly, which shuts them down immediately, because you're basically saying, that A. It's only their perception. B. You're not willing to defend yourself or argue about their perception. C. Their perception isn't gonna upset you.

[Marsolan]

"Truth that hurts isn't truth, its abuse"
Here is a golden nugget to reduce the confusion when attacked by a narc's truth. Thank you, Dr. Ramani.

[kdoddo]

OMgoodness! My eldest sibling did this ALL the time! I received 10 page single-spaced REGISTERED letters, emails, and phone messages telling me why I was at fault, being “too sensitive” and overreacting to their behavior. That relationship has ended and I’m so much more at peace. Severing that relationship was the hardest thing I have ever done and took YEARS to make that decision.
Thank you Dr. Ramani!

[lindabell]

Before I knew better, I would ask my mother why she would say such mean and cruel things about me, and she would reply "because it's the truth". When you go no contact, they continue the smear campaign, but the glee they got from watching you squirm, is gone!

[bizzyb]

My narc spouse (who has proclaimed himself a god) always says, “I have to say what’s on my mind!!” My response now, ”You have every right to say what’s on your mind, BUT I DON’T HAVE TO HEAR IT” as I turn and walk away. I refuse to let him devalue, berate, belittle and demean me anymore!!

[reneeflamand]

“Only words of truth are coming out of my mouth, ” he would continually say….while he was lying, and swearing on his mother’s life, his sons’ health, and his own both. It was a sentence he came upon, suddenly, and then just couldn’t stop repeating it, robotically. I marveled at the audacity, and I prayed for his family. Thank you, Dr. Ramani, for speaking THE truth.

[Aanframe]

"Truth that hurts isn't truth. It's abuse". Wonderful affirmation that helps to learn how to set personal boundaries. The real truth helps the receiver to evolve and respects his/her dignity. When paying attention to what is said to us in a contemptuous or humiliating way we are diminishing ourselves because it's a projection and not our reality. Even when we need to listen to uncomfortable truths about ourselves, we only are grateful to people that have said that in a loving and respectful way. The "truth" of narcissists keeps us stuck. The truth said by compassionate people liberates us.

[sarahgrohmusic]

My Narc tries to convince me that my truth is not how I experienced or remember. 😳

[kryssysmith]

I was raised in an extremely narcissistic family, and I am such empathic it's not funny. I put distance between myself and my narcissist, so when my truth came out I didn't have any repercussions because they automatically give me the silent treatment which is always fun. I've kicked them all out I don't have to deal with them anymore. I hate when I have to deal with two-year-old and adults body throwing a freaking tantrum

[kkryz]

Distorted version of events. Domination and shame.

[otherworlder]

My ex would keep me in front of him listening to him for literally HOURS! Hours, days, weeks years of my life wasted by him "speaking his truth"; "my concerns"; "you are making me feel less than". Jesus; I go through good days and bad days just thinking about everything he put me and my daughter through. Eggshells mixed with ground glass. God that is 100% correct! I spoke my truth and I got it from him.

[peterknyk]

The narcissist used to say to me "you have never met anyone more honest than BS!!!!

[PrurientOpera]

I am very grateful that I found this channel and Dr. Ramani's wisdom as a whole. I also enjoy reading all of the comments on this channel. Oddly enough, I find that we live in a world which certainly promotes an unhealthy sense of self which they are awarded for in the face of likes and loves on social media. Once I deleted all of my personal social media I started to get a lot less worried about the opinions, likes, and loves of the public. I wouldn't say that I am narcissist "immune, " but I certainly don't entertain their rants, energy vampirism, or otherwise their inflated sense of ego. I just literally am not affected by them anymore. My interactions these days are so unusual to other people because I don't make friendships at work, and I have no social media so people say that is weird, strange, or odd, but I have few personal problems. Stay blessed everyone in this community.

[moniquejackson]

"They create a Bullying pulpit for themselves". It never ceases to amaze me how Narcs can twist these normal and powerful phrases to control others. Thank you!

[csc]

I just vacationed with an old childhood friend. She disapproved of everything I did, my lifestyle, job, that I got into the ocean, combing my hair to how I threw away a paper plate. She oversaw everything. Told me she had boundaries so therefore I'm not supposed to talk, to be awake, to be out of her view. I didn't think properly, my opinions were not right. It was exhausting & I left early!