The Dark Side Of INFJ - The World's Rarest Personality Type

Are you an INFJ? Did you know that the rarest category is the INFJ, which stands for Introverted, iNtuitive, Feeling, and Judging? INFJs are known to be gentle, thoughtful, and kind-hearted. However, with all the attention that the positive traits of INFJ receive, it is also necessary to focus on the dark side of this personality type. Curious to learn more about the dark side of INFJ? This video is for you!

Disclaimer: This video is based on the Myers-Briggs Type Inventory, which is just a theory and has personality types that are just rough tendencies rather than strict classifications.

Writer: Xinyi
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Minh Nguyen
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[choster]

a infj is like the therapist friend who doesnt get therapy back

[gurg]

Remember my fellow INFJ's, these are all things you can work with. I used to be extremely closed up about my feelings, now I am very open about them. Im setting less high expectations for myself, and im working on everything else. You can beat all of these bad traits, I believe in you and you know you can do it.

[djantisocial]

As an INFJ, I feel as if I always have to be perfect, and it's exhausting. I tend to have mood swings, I definitely bottle things up, and I feel as if I have to be the one who holds things and I'm definitely known to be a bit stubborn. It really describes me so much, and I hope one day I'll be able to stop setting such high standards for myself.

[lynearlve]

I personally think the hardest part of being an INFJ is how I can NEVER balance between two opposite traits of my personality. it's like being a walking contradiction. I tend to be hardworking, but also lazy. I procrastinate, but I'm a big perfectionist. I'm always optimistic about my big dreams, but I'm also pessimistic about them. I don't like it when I get disrespected, but I disrespect myself even more. I hate not having a plan or not being able to plan something out, but I equally hate going by a routine or a list because it always makes me feel rushed. I like to have a lot of friends, but i fear social interactions with all of my heart. Compliments make me feel good about myself, but they also make me feel undeserving. See how confusing and frustrating that is?

And what's even harder, is that some people who are like me find it very difficult or sometimes impossible to be passionate or ambitious about something, because we either simply get bored after it gets uninteresting, or become too obsessive over how perfect it needs to be

And it gets very overwhelming having to be torn between polar opposite traits of my personality. Having the ability to understand and sympathize with many people to the point of being worn down by their concerns and feeling but never being understood myself makes it even more overwhelming

Edit: would any of you find it ironic that this long rant was written by a 15 year old? 🙃🙃

[jrenzstuv]

For me, the hardest part of being INFJ is that, you'll probably won't meet someone like you who could understand the real you

[eyemallears]

As an ENFP I urge all you INFJ’s to find someone you can trust or at the very least find creative ways to let out the emotions. Regardless of personality type some worries and anxieties are not healthy when bouncing around in your head.

Much love for my INFJ brothers and sisters. ❤

[nerissalee]

i feel really comfortable here to see people having similar problems as me

[Sorcha]

Test: you are an INFJ

Friend: you are an INFJ

Parents: you are an INFJ

Heart: you are an INFJ

God: you are an INFJ

Brain: let’s take the test again for the tenth time just to make sure...

[azhniwfiqah]

Being an INFJ is so hard, we love planning and perfecting everything but in the same time, we love to procastinate and overthinking. I want to socialize but i want to be alone :')

[KzRFAUSTI]

I tried for a long time to bottle up my emotions, and even recently when it came to a breaking point I still started with "I don't mean to burden you" or "If you feel uncomfortable or annoyed you can tell me to stop"

[Pencil.]

I'm really glad that as an INFJ, I try to improve my character and slowly get rid of my flaws instead of pretending they just don't exist. Of course, it's very hard to completely get rid of your flaws but every time I lessen the extremeness of my flaws I feel much better than I did before and much more proud of myself! I've actually only recently become aware of my inability to accept changes and I'm currently working on becoming more open to changes so wish me luck! :D

[dmas]

1: ✓ bottling up negative emotions
2: ✓ abruptly cutting people out of their lives
3: ✓ extremely high expectations
4: ✓ moodiness
5: ✓ self-destructive
6: ✓ stubbornness

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[brandenduguay]

Being an INFJ is kinda like you are positive in everything and negative in everything, like profectionist and procrastinator, or also at least for me extrovert AND introvert.

[frostyhannah]

As an INFJ I found these relatable, though some were more relatable than others. I especially related to the bottling up emotions, and pushing people away.

[foxygirl]

I am deffinetly a INFJ. In all my freindships i am the one person whos always open and always listens and tries to help. I love to help people feel good about them self while I am secretly suffering. I have many, many hardships in life. I try to hide my emotions even though I need help, I dont want people to worry about me. I try to tell myself I am cool and are helping not hurting, I have increadably low self esteem. I never feel confident and are constantly worrying about what people think of me even ifs the way I eat or the way I look. When i grow up i want be a counselor and wnt to help all the people with mental problems. I hope one day I can change the world. this channle has helped me out. it has helped me figure out I have secret annxoity and secretly hate myself. thank you for all the advice and facts. :)

[bennieag]

Me: Extremely high expectations
Also me: *Procrastinates*

[arriannaneilson]

The worst part of being an INFJ is feeling like you always give so much to absolutely everyone, and then not feeling like you get enough in return. But then hiding the fact that it hurts because it would make them feel bad too and that’s the LAST thing you want!

[ravengh.st]

This made me feel so much better after knowing tons of people go through the same thing and that people understand. This is one thing I would never be able to express in my own words. ❤

[faafafineartist]

I relate to all of these - especially in my younger years - when my boundaries were shit. As I got older, I started to chill out, let go, and develop healthier boundaries.

[saltknight]

Another “dark side INFJ” thing is we’re a walking contradiction. And we have lots of interests, as well as want people to know them, but don’t want to say them