How to Stop Yourself from OVER-INVESTING

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[KG-bliss]

It's the same as when we can't leave a relationship because we hold onto who we want this person to be, not who he is showing up to be...

[blackwidow]

I decided to step back after a guy didn't text/respond to a text for 5 days (unlike him to do so) after we've been hitting it off well. Maybe he's busy. I'm not double texting because he said he'd be busy that week 🤷‍♀️. So as far as im concerned I'm just respecting his busy week and space. just gonna mind my own business and work on my garden ❤. Maybe he truely is busy yet...No ones really ever that busy they can't stop while in bed at night and ask how your day was 🤷‍♀️.

[jennas.]

Ugh I hate that I do this. In your 30s when it feels like all the good ones are picked over, it can feel really scarce and you just want to make it work when you finally find someone who fits your type and you think at the time that you connect with. Yet in reality they haven’t done anything and you’re hoping it will develop as they get to know you. That’s the biggest mistake I’ve found is, you think in the beginning they’re just shy or don’t trust you yet to justify why they breadcrumb. And then there’s people that do the opposite and start calling you babe before they’ve even met you. Can anyone be a perfect medium?

[ladyofspa]

Sometimes I feel this with our society with ghosting.
We make an immature uncommitable low level communicator more important than our self worth. Who cares what happened! Pay attention to you, honor your feelings, never talk to them again.

[thai]

I am guilt of what Mathew said, I over invested in relationship when they have not done anything special or worthy for me to invest in them. I over invested relationship and i let the relationship control me.

[maurine]

I learnt this the hard way. Now, I am meeting people where they're at and without any expectations until proven otherwise.

[makeishainniss]

Lord help me to stop making things and people more important than they are

[liveinthenow]

It's true, I invested more than he. I did at least leave when he wasn't stepping up, so there's that. No contact too! But, Oh, in my head, we were something, and that hurts! I hurt myself, yall!!

[margaretnasso]

I’m guilty of this also. I had the gut feeling he was dating others. He was pulling away and he showed poor quality side of himself in treating others. I was conflicted in my feelings towards him. Haven’t spoken or texted in months. Recently saw the person who introduced us and was told he got back with an ex. Chaos averted.

[lisahenry]

Yes this internal story I created in my head about this man when in truth his character showed after 3 months! He was doing the minimum nothing spectacular!

[ayshajohnston]

I needed to hear this today. It all comes from low self worth and until you build that yourself you will look for it in other people. I hope I learn to love myself and stop hating every part of me. Thank you for this video

[faridaaktar]

Exactly my point! Don’t make anybody that important in your story

[Jak_powiedziec_po_niemiecku]

Pls make also a video to : how to stop OVERTHINKING 🙏🙏🙏❤️

[amyli]

My brain's ability to fantasize and overinvest, even if nothing has happened in reality, is what kept me stuck in my trauma bond. It was pure hell, being in that position... now I'm having to put in the effort to make sure my mind doesn't go down that rabbit hole again. Recovering from this really isn't an easy process...

[oliviadunkley]

This is so true! And it’s often because we rely so heavily on that person to validate our self worth, that we pin so much hope on a future with them, as an extension of ourselves.

[bassoonmusic]

I've realized just how much I've rewritten my story since my ex. I've learned so much about myself. So grateful. ❤

[rhiannonh.]

I try to tell people this! Like, don’t assume and step back from your feelings. Like honestly, what have they done so far? Are they actually rising up and meeting you at the same level of interest or are they just phoning it in? Be a mirror in energy with giving. For everytime they initiate, only initiate the sane amount when texting or calling. Do not do more. Do not go codependent and prioritize them more than yourself. You gotta watch for a pattern and see if it’s inconsistently consistent or if it’s consistent as well.

[hiiiroobee]

The stories we make up in our heads! Gotta watch out

[peaceofmindofpeace]

Rationally I know this how to tame the feelings and emotions....which are ofcourse also activated by the other person who knows exactly what to say in the beginnings..we open up and then they start to close the water tap. We are being ourselves open, honest giving attention but we can't project our love and consideration on closed hearts.

[regina]

When optimism trips us up. In this situation it's better to be realistic.