How to Build Self Confidence

We are all imperfectly perfect.
Ready to start your journey? You're not alone :) Here are my personal tips on how to build self confidence. It was a long, hard and sometimes painful journey, but I made it by staying positive. Best of luck to all of you who are looking to find self confidence. Just remember, beauty is a birthright. Everyone is born beautiful and unique.

Girl's Guide is a lifestyle series created by Michelle Phan for FAWN. In each episode, I'll explore and candidly discuss real issues affecting women today. Like the video if you want to see more, and leave me a comment telling me what you want to see next!

Executive Producers:
Michelle Phan
Ronit Cohn
Kendall Rhodes

Produced by FAWN and Relativity Digital (part of Relativity Media, LLC)

[alishaedvardson]

If you are reading this, there is no need to hide. If you think you have crooked teeth, messy hair, uneven skin, or even if you think youre not skinny enough or big enough... It does not affect how you can act. I want you to take all your insecurities and throw them away, and I want you to shove how amazing you are in the fave of people that doubt you. So rock those weird jeans, rock that thin hair, and work that big afro or your big frizzy hair. Find a way to make yourself better... and use it. If you're not being your best self, I want you to do that now. I know things are hard... and things get rough. But you need to stay positive and think about good things. I just want every girl or guy to know that they are amazing. I hope everyone can realize that. Be yourself and stay Beautiful. 💕

[nada-jzrm]

her voice is so comfortable and makes me smile every time I hear it 😻

[ofbeautymatters]

What really hurts me is that there are so many young amazing talented girls, that are so confused, discouraged and disoriented by today's society about what is expected of them. About how they should look and act. That they get to hate and try to let go of the unique things that make them EXTRAordinary. I'm not a famous youtuber (or anything remotely close to that) but when I receive messages from my subscribers telling me that they hate themselves and wish they could look and be different, it really hurts me. I'm so happy that you are addressing this issues because you have such a huge following, many girls and boys will hear your message. Love yourself my lovelies. Don't try to be like anybody else. BE YOU! Why be ordinary? A copy of everyone else. When you can be extraordinary. One of a kind! My face is very asymmetric due to a jaw problem, my nose is crooked because of that too, and my teeth are all over the place. But guess what? I love myself!

[maleahmanning]

I have 0 confidence and I am trying to change things like my clothes but I'm afraid that people at my school r gonna say that I'm trying to be cool (which I'm not at all) or I'm trying to hard to fit in. But I think I will b ok since I watched this video. Thank u for making this.

I completely forgot about this comment and haven’t even thought about it in 3 years but I wanna thank all of you so much for your kind words. I know I’m a little late for most of them but they really mean a lot to me even now. I was going into high school when I watched this and now I’m a senior. Again, thank you all so much and I’m sorry I’m so late

[LaSofi]

I'm literally crying. Am I the only one?!

[serena]

This is what a youtuber should be
- doesnt keep their money by themselves
- videos are always helpful
- uses their money from youtube to improve their channel


ok you should have more subscribers because u deserve it really

[ShifraSays]

I built self confidence by simply knowing how to be satisfied and trust myself. I am who I am for a reason just as anyone who stumbles upon this comment is. I honestly have little to no close friends and I can't live my life pretending that everyone I'm with at school is my friend when they really are not. To any girls out there, don't feel lost if you have no friends or anyone you're close with. Honestly, sit down in front of a mirror and talk to yourself for a bit, it might sound insane, but you are the only person who will understand you, just until you find someone who you can fully trust and will appreciate you just as much as you appreciate them, whether that's tomorrow, or a while from now. Love yourself first, always!

[EmmaLaurenH]

I have my insecurities, but I don't let them get me down because I know that my God created me beautifully and he picked out every single little detail about me. He designed my singing voice, my crazy thick poofy blonde mess I call hair. He knew how many strands of hair were going to be on my head! Imagine that you spent time creating something, and then it sat there calling itself ugly, fat, worthless. You are fearfully and wonderfully made, and God has a purpose for you, even if you can't see it quite yet.

[Jazz-rkdm]

She is so soothing and relaxing, you can tell shes a really genuine humble person.

[gabis]

WHEN THE GLASS WAS KNOCKED OVER MY ANXIETY SKY ROCKETED

[paigewhataboutgirls]

Thanks for this video ! I am at the hospital for my boyfriend, he is sleeping next to me, while I'm working on the computer ! This video reminds me how hard can be a journey if there is no positive ! So I smile, even if I'm scared, I am with him so everything is going to be alright ! Thanks Michelle ! xoxo from France

[thesheepthatwentmooo]

This video made me feel like a house elf being presented with a sock.

[assolutamente]

I have this one friend, well, I thought she was my friend, but I haven't seen her in a while, the last time I was with her, she called me lazy and boring, those two words were floating around my head for the whole first month of summer, it caused me to feel so insecure that I didn't even want to go out, then I realized that for her to say those things to my face, means that she doesn't know me at all, now I feel better, but not completely, now this video has made me realize that she is the negative that I don't need, thanks Michelle

[kylaaag]

One thing that helped me with gaining confidence is realizing that what people think of you doesn't matter. Do what you love and what makes you happy.

[danielladahoui]

I can actually imagine Michelle Phan doing a Ted Talk with a topic like this.

[seoglowy]

this is so beautiful, michelle. :) i agree, it's a muscle. last year, i went into depression and lacked sooo much confidence. and i constantly compared myself to others and it prevented me from doing so many things. thank you for being soo inspiring. i started out my makeup youtube channel last year, and grew to more than 10k subs :') i realized, even though there's prob so many people that are better at me at makeup, as long i love to do it, it's all that matters :) thank you for being that big sister i never had ;) i used to re-watch your motivational videos whenever i felt discouraged. :') 

[ZeldaFeb]

It's really hard to be positive, especially when your mind itself is clouded with negativity. Even throughout this video I couldn't help but compare myself to the girls thinking, "They all have cute noses...", "They are toned and skinny...", "They actually have friends...", and I used to be really proud of myself and my body, but now, everyone always says how they can never hear me because my voice is too quiet, no one knows what I like about myself because I'm too shy, I'm constantly checking my stomach, yet I still know in the back of my head that the 'perfect' girls on magazines are creations from photoshop, yet that positive voice is always pushed back again by the negative voice. All I'm surviving on is my dream, which already seems in to be way out of reach and I'm just slowly falling back into this dark curtain that hides me from everyone else, yet I can look at everyone else from while the curtain and silently compare myself to them, thinking that no one else has the same dreams or problems like me. It's weird how it seems like all the previous generations were into exploring space and our Earth, and now that we've already explored most of that, we explored ourselves but didn't like what we found.

[mmarsipan]

i think this helped me to be more brave and stand up for myself

[thecafechild]

Although I'm not a girl, this helped me immensely. Being a male who goes through depression and is more feminine than manly, is so hard to swallow going through daily life. Sometimes, being myself isn't accepted as the norm in society. Men are supposed to be manly, muscular, and fit, according to the world. But, I don't fit into those molds. I love music, art, and have no interest in sports, haha. Thank you for inspiring people of all kinds, to be themselves and to be brave and confident about it. I don't feel so bad about being me anymore. You really are like a big sister to all of us. We love you! :) <3
- Kyle

[GalaxyMeowpoof]

I've never seen any of your videos before, but I've been going through some tough times and was actually searching on how to build self confidence. I didn't expect something like this, it made me so happy especially the crystal part. Thank you so much.