Dealing with favoritism among friends and family

When you think of favoritism, you think of families with children. But what about groups of friends and grandparents? That type of favoritism can be hurtful too.

[janoovanthatparan]

happens to me all the time left on the sideline in every single friend group, i don't think I'll ever find my forever best friend

[lacey]

I'm at that point with my parents. I'm just tired of always feelings left out. I don't want to just ignore them but I'm just thinking for my hearts sake if I should just take a step back and not try to involve myself so much.

[marisaliu]

favoritism is upsetting, sometimes some people like other people better than me

[TheKat]

My mother plays favorites with me and my siblings and has double standards. It's pretty frustrating, especially since me and my grandmother have admitted that they are easier on their sons and like them more than their daughters. It's so unfair.

[aspeltaofkush]

On both sides of my family, they favor my older brother way more than me. He’s way more accomplished than I am. He went to a prestigious college, became a military officer, and now owns his own business. He was a star athlete too.He’s 9 years older than I am but they always compare me to him. It seems like they look down on me. I’m introverted and he’s more outgoing and social. I can’t help being the way I am. Sometimes I want to break away from my family entirely. I’m sick of being treated like this. Not too many things cut me deep emotionally, but this is certainly one of them.

[donahim]

Of course this can be VERY hurtful. This is a very big, BIGGY one!! I have had to deal with favoritism with my own step-grandmother. She favored my twin brother over me at birth.
And then I was excluded in cliques at school and church at the same time. I even got physically and sexually bullied over things I had no control over. Yeah, I was very lonely
and depressed while we lived in Orlando, Florida at that time to the point I didn't wanna be my own friend anymore- I wanted to be some body else. I like that song "Don't let me get me" by Pink because that song was soooo me while I was in school and then in my 20's because I still  had no idea who I was at that time. And now it's like, I can totally relate to
(the late) Robin Williams when he once quoted, " It's more of a tragedy to be around people who make you feel lonely. This really hit home! Because most of the time I still feel more lonely when I am around most other people than when I am alone! :(
Because when I'm alone, I can feel Jesus' presence the most.... I don't know! ....
Maybe the message is HE wants me to be still and always remember that HE is GOD!  =' }

[rmjmoviereviews]

The best bet for this topic is for those who feel that way, which from time to time I feel that way toward my first cousins, is to just worry about living the best life you can create for yourself and roll with it. Live a quality life and create the funniest most beautiful world around you, so when this favoritism happens it won't sting as bad because you're living the best life you've created for yourself.

[williamredfern]

Grandmother she was awfull to me, as a child I had to go there at Xmas, it made me want to cry, , my two cousins used to brag to me about what she had bought them, , but when no adult was around the granny would say to me I did not get you anything because your aunt is kind to you, , a real consolation to me as a child, , before she died she had bought each one a house and their dad (my uncle )a bungalow, , my farther and me, nothing, ,

[marisaliu]

I understand favoritism may be hurtful among friends. It's like you're the third wheel and you're not part of the group, and your friend is better friends than someone else and values them more. I also am not always the most favorite and I feel like I'm not part of it, and they don't value our friendship the most.

[jackielendel]

People always automatically talk and look at my sister first before me

[vanakkamgi]

I came here feeling very negative and upset and then I hear the way you talk and ended up smiling :)

[BlooCowz]

I'm glad you gave your personal story. I had 2 really good friends and they met a third friend. I tried to reach out to them all but they have more similar interests in music and conversation. They used to invite me but the new friend calls them out more often. It hurts because I thought they were my best friends and now I feel lonely. I hope the feeling will pass because I know I shouldn't but my self-esteem is really low now

[lynamor]

I’ve been searching for your videos since I have my new phone with my new Apple ID! I’m soooo thankful that I found your videos!!! You’re so lady-like and yet NOT a doormat!!! I am such a people pleaser and you taught me BOUNDARIES!!! I just love you for this and I want to add that you truly have saved my life. You’ve given me back my happiness!!! GOD bless you, & I hope to NEVER lose out on your videos again!!! 🙌❤️🙏

[nadiareads]

Thank you so much for doing this video  Marie! :) It made me feel better.

[MsPardaillan]

You always have the topic that I need. You are great !

[InduCute]

I feel like Favoritism not just Hurts but affects Psychologically

[ShibaNegi]

Thanks Marie, your advices are the realest and you sound so wise. I'm going through favouritism with two other friends who keep leaving me out too. And it hurts of course. But I learned that I should stop thinking it's because of me and it's because I'm not good enough. Glad to know others went through the same thing as me too

[williamredfern]

As a kid I detested going to the grandmothers (on my farthers side)at xmas, , my two cousins would bragg to me what expencive presents nana had bought them knowing she had bought me nothing, I was quiet and said nothing but wanted to cry, when no adults were around the grandmother would say to me I didn't get you anything because you aunt is kind to you, this would happen every year But the very last time my aunt(on my mother's side) heard her and said out very loud to me I won't forget you, I don't know why they bring you here, my perents never took me again, ,

[rareresource]

The parents do it intentionally, but fortunately for me, situation like this doesn't bother me at all because their choice won't affect my life. That type of parents are toxic and don't know what they are doing at all.

[theacademictaskmaster]

Cut family off, and when they're on their deathbed and call for you to come say yes. But, at their last hours where you don't come, they will feel how you felt.